He is not really lying when he says .... ( Archived) (161)

My intuition never lets me down...

Och Louise you need your washers changed lass...

Beats me too Merri. I don't know, if he changed after you met him, maybe it was his way of getting out of having to say he didn't want to pursue the friendship?


(And I'm sure ladies probably do the same too).

Wakey Wakey...

There that should do it... lol

I just think that sometimes fellas want to appear nice on the net.. but when you get to meet them, they aren't nearly as nice as they presented on line..
I tried to blur this by saying that perhaps their own perception of themselves was that they may have been so nice, but due to life experiences, they know from learned behaviour how to be nice, as use it on line,
but in reality, the life changes that they have experienced have altered their nicness into blunt, rude, insulting, without actually saying anything, but by their actions..

Now I reckon a fella who is well nice can admit to this and also present reasons to why they keep well guarded. Its when a fella wont admit to this... then its a problem... ???

There is a cheaper method R...white plastic garden seat...all you need is to fit a handle on to the wall to heave yourself in and out

Hi LouiseD

Yes, you are probably right, but it gets me to thinking that all of us start out our lives with great expectations for the future, then bang... divorce and alimony sets in... and the person changes...

How many guys will admit that they are well guarded, but will appear as absolute charmers on- line, then when you meet. .. all nice for a tiny while and then reality sets in... I reckon peoples past have a huge to do with how they behave... and if they have learnt to charm... and get away with it.. they think that they can continue and surely we gals are not blind.... but do they think we are???

hello merri,

i'm a bit confused also (must be the pik's influence )

but..

what i wanted to say is...

why are you wondering about what somebody said about himself...



i, personally, think that if someone says he is "nice", "easy goin", "honest" or whatever else

he is simply stating his convinctions (and as you said he is not really lying at all)

but i don't really consider these kind of statements of any use in getting to know the person as my idea of beig "nice", "easy going"..etc. can be completely different that his...

hello scotty,





thanks for a giggle

Good idea, but not very classy when you have a guest with you.....

to be honest,
only you can really determine what you think is going on.
you are the one privy to subtle or not so subtle reactions etc.
the rest of us can only speculate and throw out
scenarios.
which, i suppose is a good thing,
if you are trying to look at this thing from different angles.


geez, handful of words, yet i still didn't commit to anything.

Yes, I agree, our past will shape us. That's why it's so important not to take 'our baggage' into the next relationship.
But that is often easier said than done. And, as you say, if someone has 'learned to charm', they will get the first dates.

Some I think, just don't realise how they are acting - the same as many manipulative or abusive folk - they simply don't accept they have a problem.