Are you chasing your dreams or fooling yourself,making your own nightmare. ( Locked) (174)

Everyone has their own ideas how a dream should come true,do you dream it then wait for it to happen.Or do you push the issue and push yourself somewhere where you shouldnt be.Usually in life you wait for the man to make the firsty move and not waiting for this tends to put you in the wrong light ,no matter how many cheer you on.Still you are left all alone and the search contines on.I for one would never go to a guy did it once and never felt right afterwards felt like i was pushing the issue up in his face.Giving him no choice in the matter,cause hey i traveled all this way to be with you.Dont you care about that?And they are put on the spot,and after awhile it comes crashing down,but really whos fault is it?You who went to them not letting them search you out.Its called trying change fate,and no one should do that.Whatever is meant to be is going to be.Well lets hear from you on this.

dreams are what you make of them some are real some are not i had a choice between 2 people i chose one of them whether it will blossom depends how it all works out but the one i did choose i told her i loved her very much and i still do nothing has changed so if you ever get to read this you will know that my love for you still stands i mean't every word i have said its up to you now .. eddie

eddie i do like u maybe even love u or atleast what i know about u but i can't say for sure if i love u and i can't promise that i wont choose another until i get to know u better, until we meet and spend sometime together, and after that i'll let u know whether i still feel the same way.i hope u don't take this the wrong way because i do like u

..."Usually in life you wait for the man to make the firsty move "...

Not sure i'm understanding your thread Kathy...seems to be contradictions...perhaps i'm reading it wrong..but i do know that i disagree with what you've said here (that i've quoted) Why is it the right of men to make the first move???

Your interpretation of a woman showing her interest in a man is unfair to men...because it puts them in the position "you" don't want to be in...being "rejected" if your interest is not returned...

We all have choices in all matters..people don't just jump in their car and show up at some "unknown's" doorstep...something would have given you the impression that you could do exactly that...

I will agree with you though that "what is meant to be is going to be"...

I have to agree with this one....That you will meet your true love when it is the right time!!!!!

I guess is should be a mutual decision as to who goes to whom...But if you never try....I guess you will never find out!!!!

I for one have taken my time...I have never met anyone off any site, only once as friends for lunch!!!!

What I do know is that each man that I found an interest in or who found an interest never interestred me enough to want to meet them...There was always something that didn't feel right!!!!!

I have now met the man that I consider to be the love of my life and yes it was here.....How do I know????..........Because it has been over four years for me since my last relationship, I don't jump in quickly or I am not in love with someone every other week, there has always been doubt, mistrust or something else that always stopped me from getting completely involved with someone and rigthly so, because they were obviously not the right man for me!!!!!!

It's not so this time....There has not been one doubt, insecurity, issue of mistrust or anything else between us like that, but what there has been is mutual love, respect, open communication, making each other happy, support for one another and trust!!!!!!

I'm not saying we have never had issues, because we have, but also love each other enough to work them through until we are satisfied that they are finished with a mutually agreed upon decision!!!

Why would going for the guy put ya in the wrong light?...not sure I understand.

because, lumy...she's trying to...once again...make a thread that paints justadreamerhere in a bad light.

it's tacky, and in bad taste...

i have no problem making the first move. or having it made for me.

it looks like you are being pushy.As i said i did this once then i sat and reevaluated what went wrong.And in talking with him later it was from him i heard i felt i was being put upon to make a choice here and now.No one should be made to feel like this.

there you go again labeling my thread it has a name i dont see hers here,just want your extra touch GIVE ME HONEST ,HERE