Are you chasing your dreams or fooling yourself,making your own nightmare. (174)
thanks Jean for your reply.Ever know anyone who found themselves in one or the other?
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Oh, thank God. I thought I was seeing double.
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Tampa I agree with you here,but as for some contributors looking good lets hope not its not meant to help or hurt anyone.------ This thread is Locked ------
Yes, as a matter of fact, I have. Someone very close to me, actually.
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Ihad this friend who had a penpal and she thought was her dream come true said all right things,done the right things.When finally they met he turned out to be her nightmare.She seen that he didnt say he had been in trouble and had crass attitude about things in general.He came parked hisself there and would not leave.She finally had get the police to make him leave.But you know what he did stayed in the town ,rented house down from her.And made her life a living hell.He would not take that all her beautiful letters were just that letters.Finally being under too much stress,she moved away.Call this what you want this dream went into a nightmare.------ This thread is Locked ------
So...A woman who knows who she is and what she wants may be getting herself into trouble by putting herself out there...in point creating her own nightmare by pursuing an "interest". There seems to be a major flaw of thought process here. Each of us is responsible for who we are, how we portray ourselves and the consequences of our actions. Having said that most of us are willing to place ourselves in some "harms way" everyday to reach certain goals, etc. We are not, however, responsible for how someone else perceives us good or bad. Why would you limit yourself to those who would persue you? I can tell you that a lot of the guys who have pursued me were not ones I would entertain having a relationship with...Fate is not a matter of accepting or changing. Fate is throwing yourself into the course of your dreams and preparing for the landing good or bad. It does not matter how far someone travels, how much money they spend, how inconvenienced they felt, etc. These are all excuses used for guilt to get a desired result - emotional blackmail. There is, as you said, only one outcome to that - it all comes crashing down. Get real and put yourself out there for who you are and what you want...those who don't want to deal with it are the ones you don't want anyways...stay cool and sweet and Just be YOU!
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Urs. My core beleifs have not changed since I was 20 years of age. I think quite the opposite happens as we age. We get less tolerant and more demanding.
We hold politicians to that code of what you said yesterday, I hold people in my life the same way.
This may be a strange metaphor but, A criminal cannot stand in front of a judge and say "well that's the way I was a year ago" But I'm different now. Then after release committ the same crime.
And no. It's not a shame Urs. It's who we are. Be it today or 50 years from now.
We hold politicians to that code of what you said yesterday, I hold people in my life the same way.
This may be a strange metaphor but, A criminal cannot stand in front of a judge and say "well that's the way I was a year ago" But I'm different now. Then after release committ the same crime.
And no. It's not a shame Urs. It's who we are. Be it today or 50 years from now.
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Hey Rudy...i think it sounds like you didn't have a good week...or is that how you truly feel?
You should be glad they "chicken out"..because those are the ones you don't need in your life anyways..it helps with the weeding process...ya know?
Lots of things make a "dream" dissapate...sometimes it may merely be that the one you thought was for you was merely "window shopping" at the time...but that again is what helps with the "weeding process"
Hope you have a better weekend darling...
You should be glad they "chicken out"..because those are the ones you don't need in your life anyways..it helps with the weeding process...ya know?
Lots of things make a "dream" dissapate...sometimes it may merely be that the one you thought was for you was merely "window shopping" at the time...but that again is what helps with the "weeding process"
Hope you have a better weekend darling...
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thank you,Rudy you are first one to come on here have the balls to say what needing saying,and you said it so good.This is played as a game on here,oh whos heart is going break,oh me oh my lets be serious lets put some caring into it,after all u get what you give,im not seeing it but as big playground and because lies being spread around innocent people are getting hurtim not for going out chasing your dream down yeah some are and no i dont sit back and wait but why make a spectacle of it,all the failures dont look good on anyones record
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Definitely Rudy...good point. This internet is being used by a lot of people as a fantasy world to fuel their ego, get them laid, or whatever else. There are some of us who are genuinely looking to meet cool people and see where it goes. These are the same people that if we met in person would be more obvious. Yet here we are knowing that there are good people out there and are willing to wade through for the chance to meet them...honesty is key...
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You are right Pete..and i was thinking that at the time i was writing it...that a person's "core beliefs" don't change...I guess i just thought i would get too wordy and misunderstood if i tried to clarify that...sorry...
But you are absolutely correct when you say that the deep rooted beliefs you have grown with do not change...but can i get you to agree that as we grow we do not stop learning...and perhaps have a better understanding of things...able to offer more because of our life experiences???
But you are absolutely correct when you say that the deep rooted beliefs you have grown with do not change...but can i get you to agree that as we grow we do not stop learning...and perhaps have a better understanding of things...able to offer more because of our life experiences???
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You bet Urs. I'm with you all the way on that one...
Sorry for jacking your thread Kentucky.
Sorry for jacking your thread Kentucky.
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anytime for you,Tampa I got to say this out all posters Rudy really hit on what this thread was about.Do you go on chasing dreams,or do u make it happen,place yourself eye to eye with fate.Way to go,Rudy
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Kathy i am not disagreeing with Rudy...but tell me this...who really loses out when one stops chasing their dreams???
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Wikked, lets hope no one gives up dreaming its a part of life.It s you as a person must make it real.If you truly want something bad enough there are ways show you care,there is telephone make a call,or like i do im always using Hallmark to send them a card.If i really care for them i would not be put into his imagination,but me being me I make myself known.Like when we were little did we not dream,yes we all do.But there is a time to see it as it is a dream.And if by the grace of God it is meant to be it will be,dream or not.
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You are absolutely right Kathy...we never give up dreaming...or trying to realize our dream...but then how does that fit into your original thought that "men should make the first move"...how does a woman let him know she is thinking of him if its unacceptable for the woman to do the "chasing"...
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The way I believe is...If something is MEANT to be it will happen "naturally" in the order it was meant to be in the time and place it is supposed to happen. That might not be the same order or same way it would happen for someone else, just the individuals involved. You can't force something that isn't meant to be to work in your favor and have the results you want. If it is meant to be it will just happen.
One thing I learned from puzzles is you can cram a piece in a spot it doesn't belong but it will never conform with the 'big picture". LOL..you can even get one that fits from a different puzzle and fit it perfectly into the void but you will always be able to see it doesn't really belong. You can't just reach in the box and grab at pieces expecting all the ones you pick to fit right in with each other. You have to take the time to put them right side up so you can see what they are and how they fit in to the scheme of things. The big picture is never going to be right unless you take the time to build on clues you get from the other pieces.
It is a good thing to have goals and even dreams., the difference is with having GOALS, you have to THINK and PLAN the future.
Dreams are just hyped up fantasys full of ideals. There is nothing wrong with dreaming for it gives us hope and aspiration and ideas of what we need in life. They give us the vision into what we truly desire. It is a problem when you are consumed with being a dreamer.
*Dreamer: 1, a person who dreams 2. a person given to daydreaming 3. a person who has ideas and schemes considered impractical: visionary
*Goals: 2. an object or end that one strives to attain: aim
Naturally, after you dream you have to wake up sometime and be in the here and now or in other words.. REALITY. Your dreams have given you inspiration to make a step towards thinking about goals and how to achieve them. It is up to you to utilize what you already know and to learn what you need to know to reach them. You do that by learning what works and what doesn't work by making your own mistakes and learning from other's mistakes and gathering enough "insight" into the why's and how's.
If you don't learn by your life's lessons you tend to go around in circles, making the same mistakes and ending up exacty where you started. Chances are if doing something a certain way always ends in the same result it probably always will. If it is a good result keep doing things that way, if it is a bad result why keep doing it that way? That's when you need to evaluate how you go about doing things and "why" you keep on ending up in the same situation. By doing so, you can hopefully gain enough "foresight" to to determine which steps you need to take. Having some "common sense" helps too.
You can't live with your head in the clouds all the time otherwise you will just drift from here to there and eventually just fall out of the sky and go.."THUMP". It's better to work "from the ground up" so you can "gain ground" so you can "get off the ground" and then you can sore.
Lene'
One thing I learned from puzzles is you can cram a piece in a spot it doesn't belong but it will never conform with the 'big picture". LOL..you can even get one that fits from a different puzzle and fit it perfectly into the void but you will always be able to see it doesn't really belong. You can't just reach in the box and grab at pieces expecting all the ones you pick to fit right in with each other. You have to take the time to put them right side up so you can see what they are and how they fit in to the scheme of things. The big picture is never going to be right unless you take the time to build on clues you get from the other pieces.
It is a good thing to have goals and even dreams., the difference is with having GOALS, you have to THINK and PLAN the future.
Dreams are just hyped up fantasys full of ideals. There is nothing wrong with dreaming for it gives us hope and aspiration and ideas of what we need in life. They give us the vision into what we truly desire. It is a problem when you are consumed with being a dreamer.
*Dreamer: 1, a person who dreams 2. a person given to daydreaming 3. a person who has ideas and schemes considered impractical: visionary
*Goals: 2. an object or end that one strives to attain: aim
Naturally, after you dream you have to wake up sometime and be in the here and now or in other words.. REALITY. Your dreams have given you inspiration to make a step towards thinking about goals and how to achieve them. It is up to you to utilize what you already know and to learn what you need to know to reach them. You do that by learning what works and what doesn't work by making your own mistakes and learning from other's mistakes and gathering enough "insight" into the why's and how's.
If you don't learn by your life's lessons you tend to go around in circles, making the same mistakes and ending up exacty where you started. Chances are if doing something a certain way always ends in the same result it probably always will. If it is a good result keep doing things that way, if it is a bad result why keep doing it that way? That's when you need to evaluate how you go about doing things and "why" you keep on ending up in the same situation. By doing so, you can hopefully gain enough "foresight" to to determine which steps you need to take. Having some "common sense" helps too.
You can't live with your head in the clouds all the time otherwise you will just drift from here to there and eventually just fall out of the sky and go.."THUMP". It's better to work "from the ground up" so you can "gain ground" so you can "get off the ground" and then you can sore.
Lene'
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Hows my little Kentucky duck tonight? 
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and in no way the result of me being a twit...
Oh the shame...