Dr. Phil is a crook, he should used his responses to his self, and yes some people used other choices of methods, what it work for them don't work for somebody else. But it work, and some got our attention. Hey if you going to sell something you may have to advertise if not it don't going to sell.
meeting in the middle is fine just not going to the extreme.Say u were talking to someone and it was getting serious.Then she pops up on your doorstep ,what would you think,what to do.
Izzy,I respect your point and your view,but dont look like its working for the ones that push it.And im a strong believer in fate,things have way working out.To try and make them is not in my itinary.I did it once and after things between us never the same.I felt like i made him choose. A nd i will never do that again. But to each his own .
Has it ever occurred to you that the disappointment was in being deceived? I've taken chances and gotten disappointed many times as a result of this online dating thing. In real life, too. Some men I ended up with impetuously, some I've waited quite a while to even meet.
I don't see any evidence of anyone "just showing up on someone's doorstep," unannounced. If there was impetuousness, it obviously was the fault of both parties involved. And people oftentimes don't turn out to be who they said they were.
This may be a bad example, because I didn't like the guy anyway, but I went to be with a guy in Arizona some 1,500 miles away from me, to "make a go of it." I had no CLUE whether or not he was the guy for me, but I was willing to take a chance. Turns out he was a huge liar. I left and came back home. In this particular case, the fact he was a liar was okay by me, since I didn't like him, anyway...but the point is, some thing you just don't know about a person until you've been around them for a while and until things start to reveal themselves.
He could have easily been the "man of my dreams," too, but, I'd never have known that had I not taken a chance.
Having said that, no one is having any trouble whatsoever seeing through your transparent and pathetic attempt to continue to insult certain people. Much MUCH more unbecoming than impetuousness, IMO.
Kathy..at some level you strike me as a God fearing woman...you ever hear the saying..
"God helps those that help themselves"??
You know why they say that..is because He doesn't come up to your door and ring the bell and hand you what He has for you...he sends the "opportunities" your way...but it is up to you whether you reach out with both hands and take it...or let it pass you by... (Just my interpretation of that particular saying....)
Ladyluv but that will be her or his bussiness nor our to be discuss in this thread, Everybody got diferent fates and diferent ways to deal with issues and diferent things work out diferent, Everybody choose their ways that work better for them and is not up to us to decide or tell them how to do it.
and how long you been at this internet dating thing?I have only done it less than year got flowers everyday,have been asked to come to them.But that is where i draw the line at.And you so called looking for your meat women are still looking ,am I right?
i would never just 'pop' up on someone's doorstep...the home is sacred, and that's personal space. i would have to be invited, and i know for certain that kris most definitely was.
kathy? my being willing to run to another country to meet someone...who INVITED me...is me chasing my dreams.
Hon, I'm not looking for flowers. Let me assure you that I have, over the six years of being on Internet dating sites, received THOUSANDS of offers from guys PURSUING ME.
In all of that time, I was interested in six or seven of them, who both lived in my area and who were guys that I'd be even intereested in going out with, much less pursuing anything permanent.
See, I don't HAVE to settle for the first thing that comes along. I don't contact men on dating sites; they come to me. But ...if he's what *I* want, I have no qualms about being straightforward in letting him know I'm interested. The reason I haven't found a guy yet is because I haven't found the man that *I* want in my life.
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