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Kudos to you for bringing up this subject in a forum. Suicide is a taboo subject in the world today, and families are often making up other reasons as to how their relatives passed away to avoid the judgement of others.
I have personally experienced suicide - from both ends... both my uncle and my cousin have committed suicide. It is a horrible feeling... and for those closest to them you often wonder what you may have done to change the horrible outcome... The regret from not spending more time with them and realising something was wrong... :(
I have also had numerous suicide attempts between the age of 18 - 23ish... Luckily for me, each time someone has found me and I have been hospitalised and recovered... I can see that now... but at the time, I really thought there was no other way to end the depression that I felt... the emptiness, the loneliness, the fear that I was going to feel that way forever... and I got into the distorted view of thinking that my family would suffer less if I was dead, as then they would grieve and move on, and wouldn't be dealing with me and my baggage every day...
For those of you with the stats posted, yes the majority of completed suicides are male. However, there is a much larger percentage of attempted suicides being female. The logical reasoning for this is that males tend to choose more quick acting, definite methods, for example, hanging, shooting, etc, whereas women will a lot of the time take an overdose or something that takes a while to work as it is less messy.
I'm not here to give you an education about suicide, but I believe that there should be more information out there. The fact of the matter is that this IS an issue in today's society, and by sweeping it under the carpet we are never going to deal with it. I know some people argue that by talking about it we may be triggering other people into going through with a plan of suicide. I disagree, by educating the people, by making mental illness and suicide less of a taboo, we will be encouraging people to get help before it's too late.
Depression has come a long way in the last 20 years in respect to acceptance in the community, but there is still soooooo far to go... and as for other mental illnesses, the public knowledge and understanding is very minimal. So many people judge the mentally ill, which is why so many mentally ILL people do not get HELP before it is too late.
Mental illness is exactly that... an ILLNESS... people need to stop the judgement, and encourage people to seek HELP for their ILLNESS... a lot of the time, mental illness can be managed with medication and monitoring. If only the world would open their eyes, stop judging and allow these people to live to their full potential...
thanks Kat for such a great reply.
I hope your depression is better managed now, it is an insidious illness.
You look healthy, to outside people you act healthy, but deep with it there is an emptiness and hollowness that seldom can you fill, and very few can understand unless they have been there themselves. And to try to tell someone the emotions you are experiencing takes so many words that are so hard to find.
Talking does help, immensely, and that can just be on a person to person level, not just to a professional.
Suicide is something that is now talked about at least, it is no longer spoken in hushed tones behind hands like it once was. But the more understanding we can get out there, well maybe, just maybe, one life can be changed, and that one life changes so many others that are affected by the ripple the action takes