Would You Date Someone With Children if You Have None of Your Own?? (41)

How do parents on here feel about dating people that do not have children??

And vice versa...how do people with no children feel about dating those that do have children??

Hmmmm that's a good question....

Ok first off being adopted I became an uncle at a very young age[4 to be exact] and at 27yrs now most of my life was spent raising kids so much so that I really have no instinct now to have kids of my own although I'm not saying I would never have kids or that I don't want them it's just that I could easily go either way and not have any remorse. So I guess in regards to your question as to would a childless person date a woman/man with kids just ask yourself this if you were to have kids which would you want more a son or a daughter and then go from there if you want a son date someone who already has one and vice versa. Also dating someone with kids can be a good way to avoid some of those 'unpleasant' events that come with parenting like diapers or the terrible 2's lol. Well I hope that answers your question and as for my personal viewpoint I would date a woman with kids [daughter preferred] but it would depend on the kid(s) too.

I have no problems with dating someone who has no children of their own just as long as they respect the fact that I do have children and they are my #1 prioriety and that they accept and respect them as well otherwise it will never work.

I also have no problems dating someone who has children of their own either.

But that's just the thing Trace...I can't see how someone who has no children of their own can truly understand the "dynamics" between a parent and a child...even though they may wish it or even say it enough times to believe it...they cannot in my opinion know the sacrifices a parent will make for that child, nor how much of a "priority" they can be...

Not sure i'm agreeing/understanding your thoughts on the "gender" of the child...that in itself would make no difference to me...and certainly i would not let my 2 girls ever believe i "dated" someone because they had a "son" that i never had...would not want my girls to ever think they were not "enough"...

You do have a point there, in the end I guess gender isn't that important but at this point and time and taking my past experiences with kids into account I've alway's had more in common with my nieces then my nephews so I would prefer to stay within my comfort level but if I was to have a son down the road I would still love him just as much as I would love a daughter and likewise if I met a woman with boys and we all got along great then so much the better, Ok now I'm contradicting my last post aren't I oye I really need to start writing again what sounds good in my head rarely comes out right when I write it down [yet another reason why I shoulda joined forum sooner eh?] anyway maybe I better stop now before I contradict myself any more lol. Basically the heart wants what it wants and in the end wether or not they have kids shouldn't be a major factor as to wether or not you date or don't date someone[not dating someone purely because they do or don't have something is pretty low, I should know it's happened to me a few times]

"Well I hope that answers your question and as for my personal viewpoint I would date a woman with kids [daughter preferred] but it would depend on the kid(s) too."

See? now being a single parent of a daughter, that one line, (daughter preferred) sends warning bells RINGING like crazy. I'm sure you in no way intended for that remark to be taken that way.. but that brings up my point of view.

Its hard for me to consider dating someone who has no kids for a number of reasons. 1) they don't appreciate the last minute cancellations due to a babysitter not showing 2) they aren't crazy about the lack of spontaniety . We can't just up and drive to the falls for a weekend. Since my daughter's birth I can remember only one night where I spent the entire night at someone elses place. 4) and finally, the yucky part of this.. if a guy has children I can guage how he is with his kids before I let him near mine. I get a sense of his committment to them, whether he even has access to them. (more warning bells if he doesn't) If he doesn't have kids, I have no way of knowing what kind of person he is around my daughter. Its horrible but there are creeps out there who look for this kind of opportunity to gain access to a child by dating the mom. Maybe its cynical and paranoid.. but my first and only priority is to my girl's well being. I'd rather be safe than sorry. Or in jail for manslaughter.

I don't like saying it but my thought was the same. Didn't like the sound of that.....
And after the experience we are trying to put behind us I'm very very careful and my children will come first.

I was actually thinking the same thing Lyric...but because he's a "newbie" i didn't want to jump on him so quickly...but Tiger if you read her post...she's absolutely correct...that line "daughters preferred" would raise a "red flag" to any mother with girls...

Like Lyric said, I'm sure you didn't mean it in the way it sounded, and as a matter of fact i think you explained your reasoning already...but still be careful of how you word things...