Security in a Relationship? (63)
Agree with all of them... except the Birthday one, as I would expect him to be there at Midnight....
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Great list for any guy as long as he doesn't overdo it, but isn't the pursue of security based on fear?
Fear and security isn't healthy in relationships in my opinion, if you feel the need for it, the questions you're asking should be different.
Fear and security isn't healthy in relationships in my opinion, if you feel the need for it, the questions you're asking should be different.
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If I'd do it? of course, although some prefer this, some prefer that - it's not so much about active choices, but incorporation as habit, if it is done really well, by what the spouse either tells, or what you get by being attentive, the happiness factor increases, and that's partly what it is about, right? if the girl do the same, while the relationship is kept clean for the destructive crap, then you're on a go.
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Take away.
When she pulls away, its because she needs to.
When she is walking, sneaking up on a person and grabbing them, can get you assaulted.
When she is mad, never hold someone against their will.
When she runs crying, violence is never the answer.
When she pulls away, its because she needs to.
When she is walking, sneaking up on a person and grabbing them, can get you assaulted.
When she is mad, never hold someone against their will.
When she runs crying, violence is never the answer.
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Maybe I should just read and take Notes!
we are never too Old to learn!
we are never too Old to learn!
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i stopped believing in fairytales long time ago...
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olaix: If I'd do it? of course, although some prefer this, some prefer that - it's not so much about active choices, but incorporation as habit, if it is done really well, by what the spouse either tells, or what you get by being attentive, the happiness factor increases, and that's partly what it is about, right? if the girl do the same, while the relationship is kept clean for the destructive crap, then you're on a go.
A very Healthy, Mature and Balanced answer!
Absolutely~ Love is something you DO, not just speaking words.
It's the "little things" that mean so much.
Respecting each other, allowing each to have the Freedom to be who they are, as a unique individual. Showing attentiveness, reveals your grattitude in being in a relationship with that person.
Encourage one another throughout the day and with grattitude, show your appreciation. This should be a natural response, just as natural as breathing in and breathing out.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff, And...
...It's ALL Small Stuff!
HL
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ALL GUYS NEED TO READ THIS.
If ALL guys need to read this, does that imply ALL women's needs are the same?
A lot of the contents of the list wouldn't work for me HL ...
-When she pulls away, pull her back.
Why? If I pull away I might need to answer and urgent call of nature or simply need some space of my own to ponder, consider, meditate, dream, whatever ....
-When you see her start crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
I'd prefer him to hold me AND ask if there's anything he can do to help ...
-When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
That could be nice or not depending on circumstances
-When she's scared, protect her.
I'd rather he'd help me "undo the fear" than magnify it by assuming and re-inforcing I need protection ...
-When she steals your favorite hoodie, let her wear it.
I could wear it as a maxi dress!!
-When she says that she loves you, she really does mean it.
-When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
When I grab his hand, yes please hold it ... but play with my fingers? Nah!! If he wants a "stress ball" he can get himself one of those squishy ones!! But he could take my hand to his lips and kiss it then carry on holding it!!
-When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
-When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she
does. And if he does he needs to find a quiet moment to work out WHAT it was that made him uncomfortable
-When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
No thanks!!
-When she says she's, okay don't believe it.
Why not? If I have stuff I want to ponder about at my own leisure so might appear like I'm not ok, but say I am, it's because what I'm pondering about has nothing to do with him OR I'm not ready to share yet. His insisting that I'm not ok would only annoy me and be intrusive.
-Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her.
May be ... but I'd rather know he loves me before, during and after ... no time specifics
-Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
I'd find that a bit scary!! I'd like to know he matters to himself too, and his children, family, friends matter to him also!!
-Watch her favorite movie with her even if you think it's stupid.
What would be the point of watching something he thinks is stupid? I find being "humoured" insulting. I'd rather he told me he doesn't enjoy and give me the space to watch it with someone else who'd enjoy it with me.
-Don't talk about other girls around her.
Why? If I'm so insecure as to have to pretend other woman don't exist, I need to do some soul searching.
-Kiss her in the pouring rain.
And in the drizzle, in the sun, in the river, in the sea, in the mountains, in the shower, in the garden, in the street, in the supermarket, wherever!!
-When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:
"Whose butt am I kicking, babe?"
I'm perfectly capable of "fighting my own battles".
I've added AND taken away!!
If ALL guys need to read this, does that imply ALL women's needs are the same?
A lot of the contents of the list wouldn't work for me HL ...
-When she pulls away, pull her back.
Why? If I pull away I might need to answer and urgent call of nature
or simply need some space of my own to ponder, consider, meditate, dream, whatever .... -When you see her start crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
I'd prefer him to hold me AND ask if there's anything he can do to help ...
-When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
That could be nice or not depending on circumstances
-When she's scared, protect her.
I'd rather he'd help me "undo the fear" than magnify it by assuming and re-inforcing I need protection ...
-When she steals your favorite hoodie, let her wear it.
I could wear it as a maxi dress!!
-When she says that she loves you, she really does mean it.
-When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
When I grab his hand, yes please hold it ... but play with my fingers? Nah!! If he wants a "stress ball" he can get himself one of those squishy ones!!
But he could take my hand to his lips and kiss it then carry on holding it!! -When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
-When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she
does.
And if he does he needs to find a quiet moment to work out WHAT it was that made him uncomfortable -When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
No thanks!!
-When she says she's, okay don't believe it.
Why not? If I have stuff I want to ponder about at my own leisure so might appear like I'm not ok, but say I am, it's because what I'm pondering about has nothing to do with him OR I'm not ready to share yet. His insisting that I'm not ok would only annoy me and be intrusive.
-Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her.
May be ... but I'd rather know he loves me before, during and after ... no time specifics
-Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
I'd find that a bit scary!! I'd like to know he matters to himself too, and his children, family, friends matter to him also!!
-Watch her favorite movie with her even if you think it's stupid.
What would be the point of watching something he thinks is stupid? I find being "humoured" insulting. I'd rather he told me he doesn't enjoy and give me the space to watch it with someone else who'd enjoy it with me.
-Don't talk about other girls around her.
Why? If I'm so insecure as to have to pretend other woman don't exist, I need to do some soul searching.
-Kiss her in the pouring rain.
And in the drizzle, in the sun, in the river, in the sea, in the mountains, in the shower, in the garden, in the street, in the supermarket, wherever!! -When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:
"Whose butt am I kicking, babe?"
I'm perfectly capable of "fighting my own battles".
I've added AND taken away!!
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I'll have the list with me, and every time i'll ask you. "What do i do now,????Do i follow the black writing on the list or the red ones"
EagleWoman: ALL GUYS NEED TO READ THIS.
If ALL guys need to read this, does that imply ALL women's needs are the same?
A lot of the contents of the list wouldn't work for me HL ...
-When she pulls away, pull her back.
Why? If I pull away I might need to answer and urgent call of nature or simply need some space of my own to ponder, consider, meditate, dream, whatever .... -When you see her start crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
I'd prefer him to hold me AND ask if there's anything he can do to help ...
-When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
That could be nice or not depending on circumstances
-When she's scared, protect her.
I'd rather he'd help me "undo the fear" than magnify it by assuming and re-inforcing I need protection ...
-When she steals your favorite hoodie, let her wear it.
I could wear it as a maxi dress!!
-When she says that she loves you, she really does mean it.
-When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
When I grab his hand, yes please hold it ... but play with my fingers? Nah!! If he wants a "stress ball" he can get himself one of those squishy ones!! But he could take my hand to his lips and kiss it then carry on holding it!!
-When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
-When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she
does. And if he does he needs to find a quiet moment to work out WHAT it was that made him uncomfortable
-When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
No thanks!!
-When she says she's, okay don't believe it.
Why not? If I have stuff I want to ponder about at my own leisure so might appear like I'm not ok, but say I am, it's because what I'm pondering about has nothing to do with him OR I'm not ready to share yet. His insisting that I'm not ok would only annoy me and be intrusive.
-Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her.
May be ... but I'd rather know he loves me before, during and after ... no time specifics
-Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
I'd find that a bit scary!! I'd like to know he matters to himself too, and his children, family, friends matter to him also!!
-Watch her favorite movie with her even if you think it's stupid.
What would be the point of watching something he thinks is stupid? I find being "humoured" insulting. I'd rather he told me he doesn't enjoy and give me the space to watch it with someone else who'd enjoy it with me.
-Don't talk about other girls around her.
Why? If I'm so insecure as to have to pretend other woman don't exist, I need to do some soul searching.-Kiss her in the pouring rain.
And in the drizzle, in the sun, in the river, in the sea, in the mountains, in the shower, in the garden, in the street, in the supermarket, wherever!!
-When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:
"Whose butt am I kicking, babe?"
I'm perfectly capable of "fighting my own battles".
I've added AND taken away!!
If ALL guys need to read this, does that imply ALL women's needs are the same?
A lot of the contents of the list wouldn't work for me HL ...
-When she pulls away, pull her back.
Why? If I pull away I might need to answer and urgent call of nature or simply need some space of my own to ponder, consider, meditate, dream, whatever .... -When you see her start crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
I'd prefer him to hold me AND ask if there's anything he can do to help ...
-When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
That could be nice or not depending on circumstances
-When she's scared, protect her.
I'd rather he'd help me "undo the fear" than magnify it by assuming and re-inforcing I need protection ...
-When she steals your favorite hoodie, let her wear it.
I could wear it as a maxi dress!!
-When she says that she loves you, she really does mean it.
-When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
When I grab his hand, yes please hold it ... but play with my fingers? Nah!! If he wants a "stress ball" he can get himself one of those squishy ones!! But he could take my hand to his lips and kiss it then carry on holding it!!
-When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
-When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she
does. And if he does he needs to find a quiet moment to work out WHAT it was that made him uncomfortable
-When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
No thanks!!
-When she says she's, okay don't believe it.
Why not? If I have stuff I want to ponder about at my own leisure so might appear like I'm not ok, but say I am, it's because what I'm pondering about has nothing to do with him OR I'm not ready to share yet. His insisting that I'm not ok would only annoy me and be intrusive.
-Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her.
May be ... but I'd rather know he loves me before, during and after ... no time specifics
-Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
I'd find that a bit scary!! I'd like to know he matters to himself too, and his children, family, friends matter to him also!!
-Watch her favorite movie with her even if you think it's stupid.
What would be the point of watching something he thinks is stupid? I find being "humoured" insulting. I'd rather he told me he doesn't enjoy and give me the space to watch it with someone else who'd enjoy it with me.
-Don't talk about other girls around her.
Why? If I'm so insecure as to have to pretend other woman don't exist, I need to do some soul searching.-Kiss her in the pouring rain.
And in the drizzle, in the sun, in the river, in the sea, in the mountains, in the shower, in the garden, in the street, in the supermarket, wherever!!
-When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:
"Whose butt am I kicking, babe?"
I'm perfectly capable of "fighting my own battles".
I've added AND taken away!!
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chris27292729: I'll have the list with me, and every time i'll ask you. "What do i do now,????Do i follow the black writing on the list or the red ones"
Just ditch the list and be who you are Chris!!!
My answers were just to show how my preferences are mostly different from HL!!
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Oh, Yes am who i am,not beating around the bush,i even help my friends to be sarcastic towards me,when i have finish to be autosarcastic towards myself.-
EagleWoman: Just ditch the list and be who you are Chris!!!
My answers were just to show how my preferences are mostly different from HL!!
My answers were just to show how my preferences are mostly different from HL!!
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To be honest i liked your "antidote" to HL list.-
EagleWoman: Just ditch the list and be who you are Chris!!!
My answers were just to show how my preferences are mostly different from HL!!
My answers were just to show how my preferences are mostly different from HL!!
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Every woman should carry a list on a date with them to rate a guy on how he performs.Should be a ice breaker that's for sure.
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chris27292729: To be honest i liked your "antidote" to HL list.-
Thanks
I can't stand being with a man who thinks he has to act like my "daddy" and expects me to act like a "vulnerable little girl who needs guidance and protection"
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Ccincy: Every woman should carry a list on a date with them to rate a guy on how he performs.Should be a ice breaker that's for sure.
Better get a date with a stand up comic or a clown then!!
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yes, all of those things are pretty standard - it's a good list and a good reminder for guys who watch too much football & auto racing and put their man - friends before their romance
their friends & football aren't going to wash their socks and play footsie in bed with them
It reminds me of a time recently when I was accused of being "high maintenance" because I expect respect and for a man to be a gentlemen - it got me to thinking that men who accuse women of being high maintenance are usually selfish users who are too immature and egotistical to appreciate their partner - if he has to make any kind of effort at all - "shes' high maintenance"
this list to me is the standard maintenance schedule.....but before I get accused again of being high maintenance let me add that - it's also a good list for a woman to apply as well (for her guy)
their friends & football aren't going to wash their socks and play footsie in bed with them
It reminds me of a time recently when I was accused of being "high maintenance" because I expect respect and for a man to be a gentlemen - it got me to thinking that men who accuse women of being high maintenance are usually selfish users who are too immature and egotistical to appreciate their partner - if he has to make any kind of effort at all - "shes' high maintenance"
this list to me is the standard maintenance schedule.....but before I get accused again of being high maintenance let me add that - it's also a good list for a woman to apply as well (for her guy)
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Imagine going for a date and the lady,holding the list,scribing the ++++ or ---- on her list,hilarious and pathetic the same time.-
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EagleWoman: Better get a date with a stand up comic or a clown then!!
Or a robot.Some of what's in that OL would make me feel smoothered.
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chris27292729: Imagine going for a date and the lady,holding the list,scribing the ++++ or ---- on her list,hilarious and pathetic the same time.-
Giving the poor guy a verbal report on his performance.
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-When she pulls away, pull her back.
-When you see her start crying, just hold her and don't say a word.
-When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind.
-When she's scared, protect her.
-When she steals your favorite hoodie, let her wear it.
-When she says that she loves you, she really does mean it.
-When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.
-When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.
-When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she
does.
? -When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go.
-When she says she's, okay don't believe it.
-Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her.
-Treat her like she's all that matters to you.
-Watch her favorite movie with her even if you think it's stupid.
-Don't talk about other girls around her.
-Kiss her in the pouring rain.
-When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:
"Whose butt am I kicking, babe?"
Guys: Would you do this?
Girls: Would you love a guy who does this?
All: Would you add or take away from this list?
Guys: Let the women know what your list would be. What things are important to make you feel secure in the relationship?