how do you start to trust again? (51)
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK289 Threads 7 Polls 17,106 PostsReport and delete delete delete, she is not worth it
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Takes time. Open up and your heart will respond when you find the right woman.
Let go of the past and move forward.
Let go of the past and move forward.
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well after almost a month ive opened up and am talking to a kind hearted woman, tho the ex still tryed to keep me around by lying about her being pregnant with my child last week, now that it has come out that its a lie told her not to contact me and have deleted her. for the first time since i meet her i can say i have not a single feeling for her thank you all for all the help and support
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Everything will be nice on right time. One day you will thanks GOD to make it happen. What you need is TIME.
She is not worth enough for you, have faith, GOD will send you the better one.
She is not worth enough for you, have faith, GOD will send you the better one.
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phantom2: after everything how do you stop your heart from growing colder when you want it to open up to people im finding myself walk away from more then a few minutes interaction i end up in my room upset and thinking what i did wrong. and i still love her even after she repeatly trys to hurt me even talling a friend that my dog would be better off with her my heart is a coin right now one sides says hate her the other wants to beg her back i hate it this feeling that tears and seals me
Let her go,you deserve so much better.
Everything happens for a reason.You will find the right person if you have a good heart.Good luck in your search phantom2.
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Trust yourself, open up to what you enjoy and don't own anyone else's opinion of you, listen, but know its just their reaction caused by their experiences and if it doesn't jive with you and your needs then keep walking because sooner or later someone in sync with you will appear but only if you are still open, so its all about respecting others opinions but not owning them. Good luck
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1wulf: Trust yourself, open up to what you enjoy and don't own anyone else's opinion of you, listen, but know its just their reaction caused by their experiences and if it doesn't jive with you and your needs then keep walking because sooner or later someone in sync with you will appear but only if you are still open, so its all about respecting others opinions but not owning them. Good luck
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phantom2: well after almost a month ive opened up and am talking to a kind hearted woman, tho the ex still tryed to keep me around by lying about her being pregnant with my child last week, now that it has come out that its a lie told her not to contact me and have deleted her. for the first time since i meet her i can say i have not a single feeling for her thank you all for all the help and support
I am so happy to hear that you have have met someone. I wish you all the happiness in the world.
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heavensmile: Everything will be nice on right time. One day you will thanks GOD to make it happen. What you need is TIME.
She is not worth enough for you, have faith, GOD will send you the better one.
She is not worth enough for you, have faith, GOD will send you the better one.
Well, God dropped the ball for me. He has sent me the wrong one time and time again. Oh well, I am just glad the Op did find a good woman.
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Thank you single4ever to those that posted before. Make sure you read the last posts before posting
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You give your 
time to process the pain, then forgive yourself for your part in the breakup, forgive the other person, learn what you can about yourself in this relationship, and move on to Love Again.
Past relationships only hinder us if we cannot heal and move on
time to process the pain, then forgive yourself for your part in the breakup, forgive the other person, learn what you can about yourself in this relationship, and move on to Love Again. Past relationships only hinder us if we cannot heal and move on
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The key to trusting again is to see the mistakes you made and how you were fooled by what hurt you.
Many people couldnt' see the truth when they are in a relationship if it hit them on the head.
Go by peoples actions. Many just listen to words. Words are used to make you believe what they want you to believe; actions show who someone really is and what the situation is.
Being a victim will not help. It takes two to be in a relationship and no one made you be with a person that hurt you. You have to realize what you need to do to better see who is good, and who isn't.
I wish you well
Many people couldnt' see the truth when they are in a relationship if it hit them on the head.
Go by peoples actions. Many just listen to words. Words are used to make you believe what they want you to believe; actions show who someone really is and what the situation is.
Being a victim will not help. It takes two to be in a relationship and no one made you be with a person that hurt you. You have to realize what you need to do to better see who is good, and who isn't.
I wish you well
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phantom2: after everything how do you stop your heart from growing colder when you want it to open up to people im finding myself walk away from more then a few minutes interaction i end up in my room upset and thinking what i did wrong. and i still love her even after she repeatly trys to hurt me even talling a friend that my dog would be better off with her my heart is a coin right now one sides says hate her the other wants to beg her back i hate it this feeling that tears and seals me
Have a teaspoon of cement and harden the fark up. Seriously!
I suggest that you look up some of the medical literature that explains what love is, what it really is.
What people call love is nothing more than a addiction to endorphins that are released when we are in the prescence of (or sometimes just think about) someone.
This happens as nature's way to cause us to bond with a mate, thereby perpetuating the species.
Mate selection occurs in most people as the result of a subconscious process, based on self esteem. From the pool of available talent our subconscious selects the person whom our level of self esteem leads us to believe we 'deserve'.
The subconscious mind then causes the release of endorphins at appropriate times, to cause us to bond with the person.
Love is nothing more than an opiate addiction that is the result of a choice made by our subconscious based on our level of self esteem.
There is no such thing as 'the one'.
Once you understand what love is, and that it is actually a chemically-induced delusional state of mind, then it becomes possible to put a so-called 'broken heart' into perspective and get over it.
Mate selection should be made on the basis of rational criteria that are the result of careful though, combined with knowledge of genetics. You will bond with the person and in time have the delusion of love, but the rational foundation of the relationship will mean that it will be much more likely to endure.
You may also find it helpful to listen to some of the recorded radio shows at:
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mjames: The key to trusting again is to see the mistakes you made and how you were fooled by what hurt you.
Many people couldnt' see the truth when they are in a relationship if it hit them on the head.
Go by peoples actions. Many just listen to words. Words are used to make you believe what they want you to believe; actions show who someone really is and what the situation is.
Being a victim will not help. It takes two to be in a relationship and no one made you be with a person that hurt you. You have to realize what you need to do to better see who is good, and who isn't.
I wish you well
Many people couldnt' see the truth when they are in a relationship if it hit them on the head.
Go by peoples actions. Many just listen to words. Words are used to make you believe what they want you to believe; actions show who someone really is and what the situation is.
Being a victim will not help. It takes two to be in a relationship and no one made you be with a person that hurt you. You have to realize what you need to do to better see who is good, and who isn't.
I wish you well
Totally agree James, words come easy to some folk but as always actions speak volumes...
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My answer, SLOWLY. Take your time and don't jump from relationship to relationship.
Much better to e own your own for a while if you have had a break up just take your time and, honestly, have some time own your own for yourself.
As always JMO.
Much better to e own your own for a while if you have had a break up just take your time and, honestly, have some time own your own for yourself.
As always JMO.
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patmac: My answer, SLOWLY. Take your time and don't jump from relationship to relationship.
Much better to e own your own for a while if you have had a break up just take your time and, honestly, have some time own your own for yourself.
As always JMO.
Much better to e own your own for a while if you have had a break up just take your time and, honestly, have some time own your own for yourself.
As always JMO.
you are so kind
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patmac: My answer, SLOWLY. Take your time and don't jump from relationship to relationship.
Much better to e own your own for a while if you have had a break up just take your time and, honestly, have some time own your own for yourself.
As always JMO.
Much better to e own your own for a while if you have had a break up just take your time and, honestly, have some time own your own for yourself.
As always JMO.
you are so kind
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it is very simple, you dont trust anyone but your heart. The problem is that most people live in the past when there is a whole new future out there for you to explore and enjoy. If you worry about getting hurt then you will never find happiness. Everyone has a price at which they will do something that will hurt you, and if they hurt you once they will almost certainly hurt you again. Get off your behind and go out and have fun and stop worrying about getting hurt, life is too short.
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Everyone has been through hurt at least once, and sometimes you meet a nice person that you see potential in and you wonder why they are single if they are so nice. But life is about risk, you have to just dive into it next time with your head and not your heart. but don't worry if its real love the heart will dive in later....
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