A Troubled Friendship (33)
Right when she hung up on you the first time because you simply didn't agree with her aberrant behavior you should've ceased all contact with her unless she called and apologized! I wouldn't give her the opportunity to hang up on you again. She sounds as if she's overstepping her boundaries concerning your friendship and the landlord/tenant contracts she binds herself to without any concerns of respect or honoring her legal duties.
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texasgent222: Right when she hung up on you the first time because you simply didn't agree with her aberrant behavior you should've ceased all contact with her unless she called and apologized! I wouldn't give her the opportunity to hang up on you again. She sounds as if she's overstepping her boundaries concerning your friendship and the landlord/tenant contracts she binds herself to without any concerns of respect or honoring her legal duties.
Yes, yes, and yes. You're absolutely right. Thanx. (She won't have any more opportunities. Trust me. I've got a lot of patience, but when I'm done, I'm done).------ This thread is Archived ------
rohaan: Yes, yes, and yes. You're absolutely right. Thanx. (She won't have any more opportunities. Trust me. I've got a lot of patience, but when I'm done, I'm done).
As long as deep down you feel light as a feather about it!
A good Oponopono little thing to be repeated aloud 3 times to help release congested energy due to resentment, guilt etc with others AND yourself ...
Put your hand on your heart and repeat the whole thing 3 times (Whether you are talking to yourself, someone else or both)
I´m sorry
Forgive me
I love you
Thank you
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EagleWoman: As long as deep down you feel light as a feather about it!
A good Oponopono little thing to be repeated aloud 3 times to help release congested energy due to resentment, guilt etc with others AND yourself ...
Put your hand on your heart and repeat the whole thing 3 times (Whether you are talking to yourself, someone else or both)
I´m sorry
Forgive me
I love you
Thank you
I'm not sure "light as a feather" describes it, however, I gave her my very best for many years, and thought this through, so I guess in that respect I have no doubt or guilt. In any event, I haven't lost sleep over it. In fact, I found myself laughing a little as I got into bed the other night, because I can just see her throwing an absolute tantrum. My decision to be honest, however politely, hit a main nerve and gouged deeply. She's pissed, for sure, but her own rattled freak-out will be punishment plenty. She's a real piece of work, I tell you. She is headed for more legal hassles with the authorities, they'll give her something to squall about. I'm glad, it's time for her lesson. What a nincompoop.A good Oponopono little thing to be repeated aloud 3 times to help release congested energy due to resentment, guilt etc with others AND yourself ...
Put your hand on your heart and repeat the whole thing 3 times (Whether you are talking to yourself, someone else or both)
I´m sorry
Forgive me
I love you
Thank you
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rohaan: I'm not sure "light as a feather" describes it, however, I gave her my very best for many years, and thought this through, so I guess in that respect I have no doubt or guilt. In any event, I haven't lost sleep over it. In fact, I found myself laughing a little as I got into bed the other night, because I can just see her throwing an absolute tantrum. My decision to be honest, however politely, hit a main nerve and gouged deeply. She's pissed, for sure, but her own rattled freak-out will be punishment plenty. She's a real piece of work, I tell you. She is headed for more legal hassles with the authorities, they'll give her something to squall about. I'm glad, it's time for her lesson. What a nincompoop.
Mmmmmmm!!! Time to let it go Ro ....
I work on letting go without rencor or negative feelings towards, but with wishes for the person to do what they have to do to get out of their set pattern of self-sabotage.
Send them VIRTUAL love and words of encouragement and strentgh that they may learn.
And may be thank them for the things I have learned about myself through my friendship/relationship with them.
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EagleWoman: Mmmmmmm!!! Time to let it go Ro ....
I work on letting go without rencor or negative feelings towards, but with wishes for the person to do what they have to do to get out of their set pattern of self-sabotage.
Send them VIRTUAL love and words of encouragement and strentgh that they may learn.
And may be thank them for the things I have learned about myself through my friendship/relationship with them.
Well, it is kind of a fresh slap, so you know, of course I'll let it go. I think it's OK for us to be resentful about getting treated shabbily, at first, anyway. Don't deny me my normal reaction--I'll come around, but right now I'm resentful. We all have a right to not like getting kicked around. JMOI work on letting go without rencor or negative feelings towards, but with wishes for the person to do what they have to do to get out of their set pattern of self-sabotage.
Send them VIRTUAL love and words of encouragement and strentgh that they may learn.
And may be thank them for the things I have learned about myself through my friendship/relationship with them.
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rohaan: Well, it is kind of a fresh slap, so you know, of course I'll let it go. I think it's OK for us to be resentful about getting treated shabbily, at first, anyway. Don't deny me my normal reaction--I'll come around, but right now I'm resentful. We all have a right to not like getting kicked around. JMO
I know Ro, but sometimes we think we are being resentful of the other person without realising we are pissed off with ourselves for having let it "go on" for longer than it made sense
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EagleWoman: I know Ro, but sometimes we think we are being resentful of the other person without realising we are pissed off with ourselves for having let it "go on" for longer than it made sense
Boy can I relate to that 
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I have to agree with Eagle Woman (not for first time either), many of the Aboriginal peoples have descriptions for this kind of thing, using terms such as Drainers (people who drain us emotionally)soul takers (they appear to invade our very soul)etc.
I do not mean to offend (at all), you sound like a really nice guy, however as Eagle Woman said you have to forgive yourself, after all you were doing the right thing, and some people thrive on knowing that others feel bad in these situations and play on the fact.
I had a very similar situation with a close friend, until one day another Friend said: "some people want help / Advice, and take it with thanks, when given" others "want attention and some one to agree with them" no matter what the expense to others happens to be.
I know right now you are hurting, in a way mourning the loss of this friend, however you can only help those who are willing to be helped.
If someone hangs up on you whilst you are giving good and caring advice, then they do not respect you or your views but instead want someone to justify their often bad behavior.
If you wish to reconnect with this lady, then make sure YOU set the boundaries, for example state that you do not wish to comment when asked for your opinion etc. You deserve to be respected and nobody has the right to be nasty towards you, or for that matter toward your opinion.
I wish you the very best in sorting this problem, however above all DEMAND the same respect for YOU, that you afford to others.
Best Wishes..
I do not mean to offend (at all), you sound like a really nice guy, however as Eagle Woman said you have to forgive yourself, after all you were doing the right thing, and some people thrive on knowing that others feel bad in these situations and play on the fact.
I had a very similar situation with a close friend, until one day another Friend said: "some people want help / Advice, and take it with thanks, when given" others "want attention and some one to agree with them" no matter what the expense to others happens to be.
I know right now you are hurting, in a way mourning the loss of this friend, however you can only help those who are willing to be helped.
If someone hangs up on you whilst you are giving good and caring advice, then they do not respect you or your views but instead want someone to justify their often bad behavior.
If you wish to reconnect with this lady, then make sure YOU set the boundaries, for example state that you do not wish to comment when asked for your opinion etc. You deserve to be respected and nobody has the right to be nasty towards you, or for that matter toward your opinion.
I wish you the very best in sorting this problem, however above all DEMAND the same respect for YOU, that you afford to others.
Best Wishes..
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Iseek: I have to agree with Eagle Woman (not for first time either), many of the Aboriginal peoples have descriptions for this kind of thing, using terms such as Drainers (people who drain us emotionally)soul takers (they appear to invade our very soul)etc.
I do not mean to offend (at all), you sound like a really nice guy, however as Eagle Woman said you have to forgive yourself, after all you were doing the right thing, and some people thrive on knowing that others feel bad in these situations and play on the fact.
I had a very similar situation with a close friend, until one day another Friend said: "some people want help / Advice, and take it with thanks, when given" others "want attention and some one to agree with them" no matter what the expense to others happens to be.
I know right now you are hurting, in a way mourning the loss of this friend, however you can only help those who are willing to be helped.
If someone hangs up on you whilst you are giving good and caring advice, then they do not respect you or your views but instead want someone to justify their often bad behavior.
If you wish to reconnect with this lady, then make sure YOU set the boundaries, for example state that you do not wish to comment when asked for your opinion etc. You deserve to be respected and nobody has the right to be nasty towards you, or for that matter toward your opinion.
I wish you the very best in sorting this problem, however above all DEMAND the same respect for YOU, that you afford to others.
Best Wishes..
Yours was perhaps one of the best responses to anything I've written, you sound like a very nice guy. thank you.I do not mean to offend (at all), you sound like a really nice guy, however as Eagle Woman said you have to forgive yourself, after all you were doing the right thing, and some people thrive on knowing that others feel bad in these situations and play on the fact.
I had a very similar situation with a close friend, until one day another Friend said: "some people want help / Advice, and take it with thanks, when given" others "want attention and some one to agree with them" no matter what the expense to others happens to be.
I know right now you are hurting, in a way mourning the loss of this friend, however you can only help those who are willing to be helped.
If someone hangs up on you whilst you are giving good and caring advice, then they do not respect you or your views but instead want someone to justify their often bad behavior.
If you wish to reconnect with this lady, then make sure YOU set the boundaries, for example state that you do not wish to comment when asked for your opinion etc. You deserve to be respected and nobody has the right to be nasty towards you, or for that matter toward your opinion.
I wish you the very best in sorting this problem, however above all DEMAND the same respect for YOU, that you afford to others.
Best Wishes..
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