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sofarsogood74: A lot (Not saying you) of women use the children as weapons when relationships break up and its not fair on the kids.
I totally unreservedly agree with you on this.
I have witnessed the devastation that some mothers can cause to their ex partners and to their own children.
MADDOG69: What reasons exactly? I'd be really mad if I wasn't told I was a father.
If he was a very violent man and was a danger to me/our child....I can see that being a valid reason for putting off telling him that he was a father for some time. Not saying I'd do it, but it is something that might have to be considered. What I've just said is not meant to impact on what Mariannette has said above. I just want to make that clear.
MADDOG69: No need to be a hypocrite Macca. We've all made some mistakes and as long we can agree that we were idiots for making them, then there's no hypocrisy. The handful of my mistakes cost me 40 quid each, back when 40 quid was actually a lot of money, and then having to hang around that clinic up at Parnell Street, for shame. Even worse when she's wearing a school uniform. I wasn't long sorting it out.
Yeah but i wouldn't advise somebody to stay away from someone because he made a mistake, one that nearly every person on the planet has made, people telling the OP to get her daughter away from him as quick as possible was a bit much
Mariannette: I totally unreservedly agree with you on this.
I have witnessed the devastation that some mothers can cause to their ex partners and to their own children.
I have witnessed the devastation that some mothers can cause to their ex partners and to their own children.
I have a couple of friend who are made jump through hoops by their ex partners. They give more than enough money for their kids and love them to bits but their ex's make their life hell. They pick and choose when they can see their kids and use them as glorified baby sitter most times.
When my mate found out his ex had told her kid to call her new partner Daddy he hit the roof. He is going the legal route now which is no good for anyone, especially the kids.
My reasoning was more to do with the impact the pregnancy and birth had on me than the type of man my childs father was.
And MD he was furious which was to be expected. But whats done is done.
And MD he was furious which was to be expected. But whats done is done.
Mariannette: My reasoning was more to do with the impact the pregnancy and birth had on me than the type of man my childs father was.
And MD he was furious which was to be expected. But whats done is done.
And MD he was furious which was to be expected. But whats done is done.
Well you can't blame the man for being furious. I would have ben the exact same. He may not have gone away if he knew you were pregnant or may have came back for the birth.
But as you say...whats done is done and at the end of the day it's none of my business.
Mariannette: My reasoning was more to do with the impact the pregnancy and birth had on me than the type of man my childs father was.
And MD he was furious which was to be expected. But whats done is done.
And MD he was furious which was to be expected. But whats done is done.
!8 months!! I'd be fuming!! If a man denied their child for 18 months they would be labelled all sorts of things!
I'm not judging your situation though here. I simply don't know why you feel you had to do it.
But I would be raging if it happened to me!
mcattack: Yeah but i wouldn't advise somebody to stay away from someone because he made a mistake, one that nearly every person on the planet has made, people telling the OP to get her daughter away from him as quick as possible was a bit much
You got 72 hours to fix any stupid mistake, or breakage or slips... That's plenty time between making an idiotic mistake and fixing it or being an irresponsible idiot. Nowadays that's about 15 quid, BTW and a lot easier.
. They both choose the latter it seems.salanky: they dont always start out violent
True. But does he turn violent between Conception and knowing that one is pregnant? in 6 weeks?salanky: they dont always start out violent
Aww look at you with little Bambi.
MADDOG69: True. But does he turn violent between Conception and knowing that one is pregnant? in 6 weeks?
could happen at anytime though something might just flip the switch so to speakMADDOG69: Aww look at you with little Bambi.
its not bambi, its a goatsalanky: its not bambi, its a goat
Well jaysus sorry! He's facing away from me so I didn't recognise him....
MADDOG69: Well jaysus sorry! He's facing away from me so I didn't recognise him....
would be kinda worried if you recognised him from behind HC
If it was me i'd leave him. He's got more baggage than a Kardashian after a shopping spree
so how is the jermey kyle show going? seriously though if my daughter was involved in a triangle like this he would be out of the picture very quick....problem solved
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As for my sons first year....even if I had told him, he was on a 2 yr round the world trip and was actually in china when I told him.
I wasn't talking about you specifically. I just see it a lot that that some women only tell the man years later because he left them for another woman or she found another man who the kid calls Daddy.
It's wrong. The child is part of BOTH parents and the man has as much right as the lady to know they are going to be a Dad. A lot (Not saying you) of women use the children as weapons when relationships break up and its not fair on the kids.