Wow, The women of my 50+ generation have completely changed!!!!!!!!! (105)
HotBohdiOlympia, Washington USA1 Threads 22 PostsDuring my teens, twenties, & thirties I dated a bit, and had a few relationships (the most recent for 23 years). During all those years the women were open and more than a little aggressive. In fact, actually going on a date usually happened after intimacy (which they initiated). 
Today, these same women (age 50+ now) hesitate to sit across the table for coffee & a chat. And when they do accede to this, it's for a 99 question indepth interview - which they don't "expect" anyone to truly pass. What happened while I was away from the dating scene???
Today, these same women (age 50+ now) hesitate to sit across the table for coffee & a chat. And when they do accede to this, it's for a 99 question indepth interview - which they don't "expect" anyone to truly pass. What happened while I was away from the dating scene???------ This thread is Archived ------
HotBohdi: During my teens, twenties, & thirties I dated a bit, and had a few relationships (the most recent for 23 years). During all those years the women were open and more than a little aggressive. In fact, actually going on a date usually happened after intimacy (which they initiated). Today, these same women (age 50+ now) hesitate to sit across the table for coffee & a chat. And when they do accede to this, it's for a 99 question indepth interview - which they don't "expect" anyone to truly pass. What happened while I was away from the dating scene???
Could it possibly be the women you are dating now are not the same as when you were younger. I don't know....
kind of crazy life we have here....------ This thread is Archived ------
some of us have things to learn from the stage we lost in the dating scene ...
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crazyblondeone: Could it possibly be the women you are dating now are not the same as when you were younger. I don't know.... kind of crazy life we have here....
Well, blonde one, I;ve met with exactly 6 women for coffee. They were distinctly different types of people, yet they all came with their unwritten list of requirements. And they all lacked even an ounce of openness, acceptance, or readiness for love!
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They experienced LIFE
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What are you saying minnie? Dating results in loss?
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DaytonaDude: They experienced LIFE
And???------ This thread is Archived ------
A lot of them got used, abused. confused and betrayed during relationships and now they are much more cautious.
HotBohdi: And???
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DaytonaDude: A lot of them got used, abused. confused and betrayed during relationships and now they are much more cautious.
You said in one sentence what I was going to say in a few paragraphs.
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HotBohdi: What are you saying minnie? Dating results in loss?
I haven't dated in years, but i am afraid of the ''new way'' of making a start, i believe in natural and simple, a date isnot a interview for a job...besides there are a lot of things one can find out just observing .
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HotBohdi: Well, blonde one, I;ve met with exactly 6 women for coffee. They were distinctly different types of people, yet they all came with their unwritten list of requirements. And they all lacked even an ounce of openness, acceptance, or readiness for love!
in other words they were not planning to sleep with you
get over it - they have learned not to by now....------ This thread is Archived ------
2intrigued: You said in one sentence what I was going to say in a few paragraphs.
My 6th grade edumucation really pays off sometimes 
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felixis99: in other words they were not planning to sleep with you get over it - they have learned not to by now....
Right on Felix.
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DaytonaDude: My 6th grade edumucation really pays off sometimes
You're a wise, respectable man and you got that way through life lessons that no school could ever teach.
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HotBohdi: Cautious is part of it I'm sure, but a total lack of openness???
A woman opens herself when there is reciprocal trust, comfort, and the feeling of compatible. Expectations should be left at the door. A woman enjoys a date that expresses sincere interest in her, asks her questions about herself, listens, interacts. If you have felt them not being open, it simply wasn't happening for them.
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2intrigued: Right on Felix.
I can'r believe someone would expect that from a total stranger on a first meet coffee
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HotBohdi: During my teens, twenties, & thirties I dated a bit, and had a few relationships (the most recent for 23 years). During all those years the women were open and more than a little aggressive. In fact, actually going on a date usually happened after intimacy (which they initiated). Today, these same women (age 50+ now) hesitate to sit across the table for coffee & a chat. And when they do accede to this, it's for a 99 question indepth interview - which they don't "expect" anyone to truly pass. What happened while I was away from the dating scene???
We all grew up, matured, have learned through experience. You should be flattered to be sitting across from the table enjoying the company who is selective and smart, it sounds like.
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2intrigued: You said in one sentence what I was going to say in a few paragraphs.
Yet, 2intriqued, these women are sitting across from someone who could use similar "excuses" to desire love & life, and not accept it! Where are those who are open (like me) - they all seem to be gone??? Or transformed?
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felixis99: I can'r believe someone would expect that from a total stranger on a first meet coffee
They do, sadly....lots of em.
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