Who Do You Know??? (31)
I can;t believe that I am the only one who has family with long term marriages that are/were successful
one thing I observed in my great aunt & uncle and another aunt & uncle is that they had a lot in common and were seldom separated for more than a day. Yet I recall that both couples had specific things - hobbies - interests that were just for that individual
like golfing or going to the beauty shop, painting (art) or gardening, that their partner did not share in
one thing I observed in my great aunt & uncle and another aunt & uncle is that they had a lot in common and were seldom separated for more than a day. Yet I recall that both couples had specific things - hobbies - interests that were just for that individual
like golfing or going to the beauty shop, painting (art) or gardening, that their partner did not share in
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Two of my older brothers and one sister were married for a number of years but two of those marriages ended in divore.
One of those remarried and was married for 13 years.
One of those remarried and was married for 13 years.
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Ccincy: Two of my older brothers and one sister were married for a number of years but two of those marriages ended in divore.
One of those remarried and was married for 13 years.
One of those remarried and was married for 13 years.
that is a success story! what do you think kept them together all that time?
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felixis99: that is a success story! what do you think kept them together all that time?
I really don't have a clue cause I didn't see them that much.
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Ccincy: I really don't have a clue cause I didn't see them that much.
In recent years I have not seen my uncles and aunts much either - actaully most of them are deceased at this point, but we saw each other frequently while I was growing up and in college
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felixis99: This thread is a spin off on the thread about love being blind. That thread got me wondering about a comment that was made that for a relationship or marriage to last long term love would have to be blind....lol
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
I was married 16 years. we were seperate other 7 years (while I called his doctor when he felt ill and when he had worries I was who had to listen to him) now i am widow.
Isnot about being blind and tolerant with cheating. but little things from the daily life that would made any explode and haul the moon.
sometimes manias,silly behaviours, hard headed thinking who later found out it was not the way he thought.
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Best couple I can tell you about are my parents..37 years of marriage and still counting, they love each other as the time they were dating it seems. Both have their activities and they know each other so good that sometimes I cant believe it, it is nice to watch them share their love every day. Things I consider have helped for them to still be married: honesty and togetherness, they never keep secrets, they water their love every day, they still go out to dance, to dinner, they kiss like young couples, they are open, they laugh a lot and it is amazing to see my father do anything for my mom, I guess by they showing how much they love each other everyday they have manage to be together all this time and more to come. They fell in love in other times not like the present in which people dont give a damn about respect, my parents respect each other I think that is another thing that is important in a long lasting relationship or marriage, once respect is gone nothing can come good again.
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felixis99: This thread is a spin off on the thread about love being blind. That thread got me wondering about a comment that was made that for a relationship or marriage to last long term love would have to be blind....lol
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
My adoptive parents were married for over 50 years until both passed away. What is the secret to this type of marital longevity? From what I witnessed, it was a genuine love built on mutual respect, open and honest communication and keeping the romance alive. My adoptive mother never had to work but kept an immaculate home and raised her children well and my adoptive father worked hard to bring home the bacon. Neither one accused the other of anything out of resentment of their roles in the marriage. They took time out from work and household duties to spend time with family, friends and most importantly, each other. Of course, this was back in the good old days when families could afford to have the wife stay at home...less pressure on the family unit than there is today. Times have changed dramatically and it's a real challenge nowadays to juggle jobs and maintain a happy, long marriage/relationship.
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LonelyMontse08: Best couple I can tell you about are my parents..37 years of marriage and still counting, they love each other as the time they were dating it seems. Both have their activities and they know each other so good that sometimes I cant believe it, it is nice to watch them share their love every day. Things I consider have helped for them to still be married: honesty and togetherness, they never keep secrets, they water their love every day, they still go out to dance, to dinner, they kiss like young couples, they are open, they laugh a lot and it is amazing to see my father do anything for my mom, I guess by they showing how much they love each other everyday they have manage to be together all this time and more to come. They fell in love in other times not like the present in which people dont give a damn about respect, my parents respect each other I think that is another thing that is important in a long lasting relationship or marriage, once respect is gone nothing can come good again.
I know a couple also...my aunt and her husband twenty-three years married and yes respect I think has a lot to do with it. Also they are best friends. I think of them as the thick and thin couple. They will stick it out together and laughing through thick and thin. Also still holding hands and kissing. Even when in a room and they are apart visiting with others it is as if they have a bond that crosses the room. 
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LonelyMontse08: Best couple I can tell you about are my parents..37 years of marriage and still counting, they love each other as the time they were dating it seems. Both have their activities and they know each other so good that sometimes I cant believe it, it is nice to watch them share their love every day. Things I consider have helped for them to still be married: honesty and togetherness, they never keep secrets, they water their love every day, they still go out to dance, to dinner, they kiss like young couples, they are open, they laugh a lot and it is amazing to see my father do anything for my mom, I guess by they showing how much they love each other everyday they have manage to be together all this time and more to come. They fell in love in other times not like the present in which people dont give a damn about respect, my parents respect each other I think that is another thing that is important in a long lasting relationship or marriage, once respect is gone nothing can come good again.
thank you for sharing that is a beautiful story that I think a lot of us can take some wisdom from. Congratulations on coming from such a wonderful family! That's what love is all about!
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2intrigued: My adoptive parents were married for over 50 years until both passed away. What is the secret to this type of marital longevity? From what I witnessed, it was a genuine love built on mutual respect, open and honest communication and keeping the romance alive. My adoptive mother never had to work but kept an immaculate home and raised her children well and my adoptive father worked hard to bring home the bacon. Neither one accused the other of anything out of resentment of their roles in the marriage. They took time out from work and household duties to spend time with family, friends and most importantly, each other. Of course, this was back in the good old days when families could afford to have the wife stay at home...less pressure on the family unit than there is today. Times have changed dramatically and it's a real challenge nowadays to juggle jobs and maintain a happy, long marriage/relationship.
yes I have heard you speak of your parents before! that is also a great tribute to them, your post , I mean! My Uncle once told me, at a time when I was thinking about going back work when my children were still small, not to do it because then we'd (both my partner and myself) both be tired all the time and that would put a strain on the marraige - he should know as he was married to my aunt for over 50 yrs. yet these are the kinds of advice that people do not want to hear these days and - I agree - could not afford to follow anyway....
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1Bell4truth: I know a couple also...my aunt and her husband twenty-three years married and yes respect I think has a lot to do with it. Also they are best friends. I think of them as the thick and thin couple. They will stick it out together and laughing through thick and thin. Also still holding hands and kissing. Even when in a room and they are apart visiting with others it is as if they have a bond that crosses the room.
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I am hearing a lot here about respect, togetherness, communication, devotion, and good attitudes about the roles couples work out between each other in the marriage. good stuff
I think there is a message here too, to not let "society" or social trends or others opinions dictate what is best for your marriage.
I think there is a message here too, to not let "society" or social trends or others opinions dictate what is best for your marriage.
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felixis99: This thread is a spin off on the thread about love being blind. That thread got me wondering about a comment that was made that for a relationship or marriage to last long term love would have to be blind....lol
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
I was married for 24 years -to the same person- and yes Love has to be blind in both sides for a relationship to be.
"what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???"
Love
Respect
Commitment to a family project, a life project.
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I was married 17 years and my parents were married until death parted them. IMO, a successful marriage is based on shared values. If the core values are the same, you got a good chance, imo.
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Scubadiva: I was married 17 years and my parents were married until death parted them. IMO, a successful marriage is based on shared values. If the core values are the same, you got a good chance, imo.
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My parents were married 50 years until my father past, all 3 of my mothers siblings have been married for 50 and 60 years, my brother just had his 30th, and i do happen to know many others. Ive never been married 
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Many couples just decided to cave in and tolerate crap
And are probably fighting in private nonstop
I was married for almost 22 years but it was riddled with mishaps
Then I one fateful day I raised my hands in the air and got it scrapped
Love is only blind when the victims themselves are blind as bat
One must be able to see clearly to interpret the warning signs which are usually a lot..
Potarick
And are probably fighting in private nonstop
I was married for almost 22 years but it was riddled with mishaps
Then I one fateful day I raised my hands in the air and got it scrapped
Love is only blind when the victims themselves are blind as bat
One must be able to see clearly to interpret the warning signs which are usually a lot..
Potarick
felixis99: This thread is a spin off on the thread about love being blind. That thread got me wondering about a comment that was made that for a relationship or marriage to last long term love would have to be blind....lol
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
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Many couples just decided to cave in and tolerate crap
And are probably fighting in private nonstop
I was married for almost 22 years but it was riddled with mishaps
Then I one fateful day I raised my hands in the air and got it scrapped
Love is only blind when the victims themselves are blind as bat
One must be able to see clearly to interpret the warning signs which are usually a lot..
Potarick
And are probably fighting in private nonstop
I was married for almost 22 years but it was riddled with mishaps
Then I one fateful day I raised my hands in the air and got it scrapped
Love is only blind when the victims themselves are blind as bat
One must be able to see clearly to interpret the warning signs which are usually a lot..
Potarick
felixis99: This thread is a spin off on the thread about love being blind. That thread got me wondering about a comment that was made that for a relationship or marriage to last long term love would have to be blind....lol
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???
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So I was wondering, who do you know that has been in a relationship long term (say at least 10 years steady, but prefer those lasting 20-25 yrs at least if you know of any). Think about what you have observed of that relationship.
You don't have to tell us who the couple is if you do not want to, but what are the characteristics of the couple and the factors that you think kept them together and their love alive long term???