FORGIVENESS ( Archived) (44)

You either will forgive him or not based upon your desires. There is no justice, no right or wrong. There is only what you want, how much you want it and how much you're prepared to go through to get it.

I was wronged seven years ago. I will never forgive him or forget what he did but I have moved on in my life.

I agree with Jac that when you forgive you are doing it for yourself. The person doesn't know that you gave them forgiveness and they probably don't care if you did or didn't.

I don't think you need to forgive the person who wronged you in order to move on with your life.

Forgiveness isn't made by a decision. When the day comes that you stop putting importance on what happened you'll be able to put it behind you. You don't need to make yourself feel better by making him feel better for what he did to you.

How?

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Why?

Because, forgiveness is a liberating feeling.

You let him/her go and you keep going, embracing the good memories.

Sincere forgiveness isn't coloured with expectations that the other person apologise or change. Don't worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time.

Sara Paddison.

I have not read all the comments. But I believe that in order to move forward,there has to be a certain amount of forgiveness. It can be extremely difficult depending on the circumstances too. You don't have to forget what has happened,but with unforgiveness it creates bitterness and anger and then can manifest onto the Physical. With the stresses that accompany the unforgiveness people can often lead towards to becoming more dependant on substances such as Alchol or what have you to relieve the anxieties.

I don't think we want to get to a point of self destrction from bitterness then in turn start hurting others. So in my opinion it is vitally important. With time for healing and changing some thought patterns,then this can certainlly be achieved.

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Sometimes I forgive people then the hate comes back, so for me praying to God to help me forgive them is what I do.

I will never forgive someone who did me wrong. The best medicine is to forget and move on. I have heard forgiveness is noble and helps you more than the other person who did wrong. I just don't agree with that concept because you are letting the offender off the hook. I hope the person who did me wrong will grow up and learn of their mistake. I can only forgive if it is asked of me with complete atonement attached. Otherwise they can go to hell and I will move forward.