So apparently my dating standards are too high (179)
wl dear, as some members here mentioned,,,its yr choice,but high standards demands reflects that u r a lady with high standards values,if so just keep on, wish u good luck
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ahmad77: wl dear, as some members here mentioned,,,its yr choice,but high standards demands reflects that u r a lady with high standards values,if so just keep on, wish u good luck
Appreciate it.
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alteregosophie: I was having a conversation with a male in my age group and he was angry about my dating standards. I think my standards are normal but in Jamaica people just do not have any self-respect... The key requirement for me is that a man must respect himself and he must respect me. Such qualities are very lacking among men in my age group it seems...
I met a guy on new years eve and gave him my number and within one week of conversing on the phone the dude invited me to have home-cooked dinner at his place and a massage. I was very much offended by this so i stopped communicating with him without any explanation. He called, He text, He Email..
Am i being too picky if i am asking a man to value himself and the woman he is trying to be with?
Am i being too picky i refuse to date men with weird ghetto names, bling bling and very poor grammar?
Am i being too picky if i want a guy who doesn't look like he fell off the back of a truck? Well as my European friend said... girl, it is time for you to relocate.
Firstly, I'm too damn lazy to read through all the comments. I would say, its not your standards are too high, its thiers that are in the gutter, ok maybe a bit higher than that.I met a guy on new years eve and gave him my number and within one week of conversing on the phone the dude invited me to have home-cooked dinner at his place and a massage. I was very much offended by this so i stopped communicating with him without any explanation. He called, He text, He Email..
Am i being too picky if i am asking a man to value himself and the woman he is trying to be with?
Am i being too picky i refuse to date men with weird ghetto names, bling bling and very poor grammar?
Am i being too picky if i want a guy who doesn't look like he fell off the back of a truck? Well as my European friend said... girl, it is time for you to relocate.
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jac379: Then why mention him trying to contact her repeatedly via text, phone and email?
I don't think for one minute she owed him an explanation, but if she wasn't prepared to inform him she'd chosen to end contact then why would she need to make public that he continued to try and contact her repeatedly?
I was once in a very similar situation myself. He had his reasons for being in a hurry to make more intimate contact, I had my reasons for not being in a hurry. It was an issue of incompatibility.
I do know, however, that he was gutted he'd made the mistake of not considering my needs as much as his own, when I had considered some of his before mine in another area. I didn't feel his sadness was anything for me to celebrate, just because he offended me.
I don't think for one minute she owed him an explanation, but if she wasn't prepared to inform him she'd chosen to end contact then why would she need to make public that he continued to try and contact her repeatedly?
I was once in a very similar situation myself. He had his reasons for being in a hurry to make more intimate contact, I had my reasons for not being in a hurry. It was an issue of incompatibility.
I do know, however, that he was gutted he'd made the mistake of not considering my needs as much as his own, when I had considered some of his before mine in another area. I didn't feel his sadness was anything for me to celebrate, just because he offended me.
I just don't see her brief mention of his continuing to contact her as "gloating"..
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alteregosophie: I was having a conversation with a male in my age group and he was angry about my dating standards. I think my standards are normal but in Jamaica people just do not have any self-respect... The key requirement for me is that a man must respect himself and he must respect me. Such qualities are very lacking among men in my age group it seems...
I met a guy on new years eve and gave him my number and within one week of conversing on the phone the dude invited me to have home-cooked dinner at his place and a massage. I was very much offended by this so i stopped communicating with him without any explanation. He called, He text, He Email..
Am i being too picky if i am asking a man to value himself and the woman he is trying to be with?
Am i being too picky i refuse to date men with weird ghetto names, bling bling and very poor grammar?
Am i being too picky if i want a guy who doesn't look like he fell off the back of a truck? Well as my European friend said... girl, it is time for you to relocate.
I met a guy on new years eve and gave him my number and within one week of conversing on the phone the dude invited me to have home-cooked dinner at his place and a massage. I was very much offended by this so i stopped communicating with him without any explanation. He called, He text, He Email..
Am i being too picky if i am asking a man to value himself and the woman he is trying to be with?
Am i being too picky i refuse to date men with weird ghetto names, bling bling and very poor grammar?
Am i being too picky if i want a guy who doesn't look like he fell off the back of a truck? Well as my European friend said... girl, it is time for you to relocate.
Its what you personally feel comfortable with, not other people's assessment of what you should put up with.
Surely, though, after fairly initial contact you would've realised that he had a 'weird ghetto name' and that his grammar wasn't all you'd hoped for?
Personally, for a first date dinner would be lovely.... massage? Hmmmm... I think not. Call me old-fashioned but I feel that's a little premature.
As for looking like the back of a truck, good looking is very different to attractive. I would much rather have attractive to just good looking any day....
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L_B76: u maybe forgot to say women are like every where...
women too are humans.. and not perfect at all...
But this thread isn't about both genders being that way, it's about the OP's experiences with men and not women.women too are humans.. and not perfect at all...
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almera03: But this thread isn't about both genders being that way, it's about the OP's experiences with men and not women.
the wrong or right isn't always on one side...
its always on both side... never forget that...
as humans we make a load of mistakes women and men...
and so far heard only 1 side not both...
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Glatlol: That was behaving like a spoilt teenager. As an adult could you not have told him how you felt?
u probably can be right...
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deoksiriboz: And what's worse is that we don't a valid instrunent to blame her! This is how millions of womem roll. An unpleasant result of 'supply - demand' tradition that has grown between male and female over the past few decades .
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Ccincy: Communication is definitely the way to go I agree.Yes you are right.Unfortunately not everyone chooses to use it.
way to go Cc!!!!!
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jac379: Its not about high, or low standards. Dating is about compatibility.
You're not the only person who has been surprised by an inappropriate proposition after being in contact with someone via technology. You have every right to end contact if you're incompatible. You have every right to end contact if you have been offended by inappropriate behaviour.
What you do not have the right to do, is make out you're higher class than everyone else if you gloat over them repeatedly trying to contact you, especially if you haven't informed them you no longer wish to communicate. That's setting someone up to fail and then enjoying their failure.
You do not have the right to make out that whole groups of people are without standards, just because they don't have the same life-style choices as yourself.
You do not have the right to disrespect people for grammatical ignorance, particularly as you've made a number of errors in your own OP.
You appear to be playing a game of "I'm the bestest" and that has no place in happy, healthy relationships.
You're not the only person who has been surprised by an inappropriate proposition after being in contact with someone via technology. You have every right to end contact if you're incompatible. You have every right to end contact if you have been offended by inappropriate behaviour.
What you do not have the right to do, is make out you're higher class than everyone else if you gloat over them repeatedly trying to contact you, especially if you haven't informed them you no longer wish to communicate. That's setting someone up to fail and then enjoying their failure.
You do not have the right to make out that whole groups of people are without standards, just because they don't have the same life-style choices as yourself.
You do not have the right to disrespect people for grammatical ignorance, particularly as you've made a number of errors in your own OP.
You appear to be playing a game of "I'm the bestest" and that has no place in happy, healthy relationships.
damn lady u did a big shoot here...
she got sunk...
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MsGiant: YOu are completely entitled to your own standards...stick with them
im the same way and refuse to settle
im allowed
men are the same and we dont judge them....sheesh
im glad you have standards...go girl!!!
im the same way and refuse to settle
im allowed
men are the same and we dont judge them....sheesh
im glad you have standards...go girl!!!
all around the world men and women are the same...
change color of skin eyes language...
but not change the fact we all are humans and not perfect..
men and women...
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L_B76: damn lady u did a big shoot here...
she got sunk...
she got sunk...
No she didn't. She replied with dignity.
She just needs to sort out that stereotyping and snobbery stuff in her own mind to find greater inner peace...and the kind of relationship that will be happy and healthy.
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No, you aren't being too picky, you are being selective and you know honey you deserve it because you are worthy of it, don't change your ways because a man couldn't appreciate you one day one will 
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jac379: No she didn't. She replied with dignity.
She just needs to sort out that stereotyping and snobbery stuff in her own mind to find greater inner peace...and the kind of relationship that will be happy and healthy.
She just needs to sort out that stereotyping and snobbery stuff in her own mind to find greater inner peace...and the kind of relationship that will be happy and healthy.
that have to do something with respect?
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L_B76: ma man.....
as far as u are flesh and blood u are no different than another live in Africa...
the only difference is how u have been raised from ur parents..
well educated and with that i mean know very well the meaning of the word respect..
or spoiled...
as i said to me seems spoiled...
i wonder if a men do something to her like she did to that guy..
how she will feel about..
cut a communication with her without say why...
i bet she's gonna be quiet much pissed..
as far as u are flesh and blood u are no different than another live in Africa...
the only difference is how u have been raised from ur parents..
well educated and with that i mean know very well the meaning of the word respect..
or spoiled...
as i said to me seems spoiled...
i wonder if a men do something to her like she did to that guy..
how she will feel about..
cut a communication with her without say why...
i bet she's gonna be quiet much pissed..
I agree that she didn't use good judgement in dealing with the guy.But who can honestly claim that they themselves always have good communication skills.
Yes she probably should've taken the time to explain to him her feelings regarding his idea of that kind of date.I would've handled the whole situation differently.
Not everyone deals with a situation that same way.WE're only human.
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Ccincy: I agree that she didn't use good judgement in dealing with the guy.But who can honestly claim that they themselves always have good communication skills.Yes she probably should've taken the time to explain to him her feelings regarding his idea of that kind of date.I would've handled the whole situation differently.
Not everyone deals with a situation that same way.WE're only human.
Not everyone deals with a situation that same way.WE're only human.
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from a dictionary... the meaning of respect...
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almera03: If, if, if, I think mountain and mole hill can be used here. Someone creates a thread and is torn apart for doing so. It was pretty obvious to me, she didn't mean "all" men there are like she wrote. Having said that, I have heard many other times of similar experiences from women there about the men, and even so, I am sure there are good decent men on that island.
To be honest, no, I don't think if we all found the matches you mentioned, we'd all be happy, life isn't that simple, people grow, change, develop. I'm sure the dicorce rate isnt so9 high only because one wanted a long term relationship0 and the pther wanted to sleep around.
Maybe the OP over-reacted to the man, and could have just ignored him and not felt cheap. How many times does it need to happen though before one would get the feeling, all men, are like that. Its quite common here for such threads to be started.
To be honest, no, I don't think if we all found the matches you mentioned, we'd all be happy, life isn't that simple, people grow, change, develop. I'm sure the dicorce rate isnt so9 high only because one wanted a long term relationship0 and the pther wanted to sleep around.
Maybe the OP over-reacted to the man, and could have just ignored him and not felt cheap. How many times does it need to happen though before one would get the feeling, all men, are like that. Its quite common here for such threads to be started.
Al, have some ice cream and go to bed.
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He wasn' hitting on me really. I met him one night after dance rehearsal and then i ran into him again on new years eve.