Divorced (Marital Status) (30)
DaytonaDudeSouth Daytona, Florida USA33 Threads 3 Polls 2,403 PostsI was filling out some forms the other day for insurance that inquired about my marital status. It got me thinking and I wondered your opinions on this. Once you become divorced and remain single for awhile, how long must you use the tag of divorced? i.e as on your profile. Is there a time when you completely become divorced and can claim being single? Or is it optional for you to use either term after finalization of divorce?
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For paperwork they always will track these things.
As to the personal its a state of mind thing.
Some list divorced as that is where there head is at
For others single as it's ancient history.
When you have divorce 90% of the time the interested party wants to go back to 15years ago to go over talk about if you are still in 'lurve' bla bla and stuff you have no interest in when there have been so many other far more crappy stories since
So its really up to where your head is at
As to the personal its a state of mind thing.
Some list divorced as that is where there head is at
For others single as it's ancient history.
When you have divorce 90% of the time the interested party wants to go back to 15years ago to go over talk about if you are still in 'lurve' bla bla and stuff you have no interest in when there have been so many other far more crappy stories since
So its really up to where your head is at
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I guess that "divorced" is legally different of "single" because one can have some obligations with the previous partner or sons, etc.
Laws apart, it's only a tag. Why not say just single?
Laws apart, it's only a tag. Why not say just single?
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DaytonaDude: I was filling out some forms the other day for insurance that inquired about my marital status. It got me thinking and I wondered your opinions on this. Once you become divorced and remain single for awhile, how long must you use the tag of divorced? i.e as on your profile. Is there a time when you completely become divorced and can claim being single? Or is it optional for you to use either term after finalization of divorce?
When paperwork is involved I never state that I'm divorced. I'm single and they don't even need to know that. There are a lot of questions on forms that you don't have to answer. For instance, doctors forms ask for your social security number. You don't have to answer that. It's always been on forms but people think it's new because of the terrorist situation but it's more to identify fraud then if you are a terrorist. If you are no longer married then minutes after the divorce decree is signed you are then single.
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DaytonaDude: I was filling out some forms the other day for insurance that inquired about my marital status. It got me thinking and I wondered your opinions on this. Once you become divorced and remain single for awhile, how long must you use the tag of divorced? i.e as on your profile. Is there a time when you completely become divorced and can claim being single? Or is it optional for you to use either term after finalization of divorce?
Hi Daytona,
For Auto Insurance purpose, they might have statistics showing divorced men have a higher rate rate of accidents than let say married one. So is single, depending on age and driving record. For life Insurance, I can't tell you. I would think that being legally divorced, you would be single again. But, this is my humble opinion.
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Well it would matter to a catholic, as they cannot marry a divorced person in a church, so saying you're single is misleading to say a filipino, if in fact, you are divorced!
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Divorced is primarily a mark of shame and this is how it differs from being single.
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Obstinance_Works: Divorced is primarily a mark of shame and this is how it differs from being single.
Why a mark of shame, I am happily divorced and was happily married, our children were grown up when we parted, we both had thriving careers (which took us to the opposite ends of the earth. It was a logical step in both our lives. We are still good friends and have a drink at Christmas when we are in the same country.
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tomcatwarne: Why a mark of shame, I am happily divorced and was happily married, our children were grown up when we parted, we both had thriving careers (which took us to the opposite ends of the earth. It was a logical step in both our lives. We are still good friends and have a drink at Christmas when we are in the same country.
It says of a person, at least traditionally, that they are lacking in commitment and character.
That's why the word still has such an ugly feel to it, and hence why this thread exists.
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Obstinance_Works: It says of a person, at least traditionally, that they are lacking in commitment and character.
That's why the word still has such an ugly feel to it, and hence why this thread exists.
That's why the word still has such an ugly feel to it, and hence why this thread exists.
Are you divorced or just floundering about in other peoples experience??????
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Obstinance_Works: Divorced is primarily a mark of shame and this is how it differs from being single.
Divorce is no mark of shame, there are alot of people who get into relationships that just donot end up healthy. Now the person above you was saying Catholics can't marry in the church after a divorce, which is true however if you want to be truthful and if you listened to your vows it say's till death do us part. It means even if you divorce you can't remarry because you took vows till death, it didn't say till divorce do us part. I you think I am making this up you can find it in 1st book of corrinthians chapter 7 verse 39. A divorced person must do what they have to do god doesn't hold it against them and no one else should either but his laws are firm on remarriage so please dont kill the messenger I am just giving you the truth even if its not good news.------ This thread is Archived ------
Obstinance_Works: It says of a person, at least traditionally, that they are lacking in commitment and character.
The voice of experience
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Obstinance_Works: It says of a person, at least traditionally, that they are lacking in commitment and character.
That's why the word still has such an ugly feel to it, and hence why this thread exists.
That's why the word still has such an ugly feel to it, and hence why this thread exists.
It only has an ugly feel to it when one communicates things like "traditionally they are lacking in commitment and character"..... it is your value system not the traditional value system and your feelings on the word not the traditional feelings on the word
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romanticman4u: God doesn't judge divorced people, so what gives you the right?
let's not bring God into this - unless you have had a conversation with the popes who talks to god and know for a fact that God doesn't judge divorced people.------ This thread is Archived ------
romanticman4u: God doesn't judge divorced people, so what gives you the right?
But the Catholic Church does.They frown on someone Catholic marrying a divorced person and refuse to bury them under the Catholic religion.
My mother who was also Catholic married a divorced man who was Catholic and when she passed away the church wouldn't let her be buried through the Catholic faith.
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I hear many stories just like this - faithful catholics that are denied the final ritual because of the misguided "moral" attitude of those that have power over others.
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JeanKimberley: and who says what a Catholic life is? those in power over others.
I am not sure I understand your question? Who says what rules any religion follows?
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Glatlol: I am not sure I understand your question? Who says what rules any religion follows?
I am saying that Catholic doctrine is set by men in power - at one time for example priests could marry, and today in the US a man who is married can become a priest and stay married, however, he cannot marry after he becomes a priest.
and on the issue of women becoming priests - not just relegated to the role of nun.
The rules of the church change over time and so I mean to say that how the Catholic church determines who is a "good" Catholic deserving of catholic burial is in the hands of men in the church in power over other people -
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JeanKimberley: I am saying that Catholic doctrine is set by men in power - at one time for example priests could marry, and today in the US a man who is married can become a priest and stay married, however, he cannot marry after he becomes a priest.
and on the issue of women becoming priests - not just relegated to the role of nun.
The rules of the church change over time and so I mean to say that how the Catholic church determines who is a "good" Catholic deserving of catholic burial is in the hands of men in the church in power over other people -
and on the issue of women becoming priests - not just relegated to the role of nun.
The rules of the church change over time and so I mean to say that how the Catholic church determines who is a "good" Catholic deserving of catholic burial is in the hands of men in the church in power over other people -
Not in the Catholic church surely?
And I think the men in charge would say that are following the written words of god.
Believe me I am not condoning it, I dont believe in a god of any description or any of the other nonsense that goes with it, I also however get pissed off at hypocrites who claim to be religious but only follow the bits that suit them.
Anyway as to the OP, as I fear we are hijacking the thread, I neither felt shame when I got divorced or at any stage since, he has died since so technically I am widowed, hey I have a choice of 3 options for any form lol.
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Glatlol: Not in the Catholic church surely?
And I think the men in charge would say that are following the written words of god.
Believe me I am not condoning it, I dont believe in a god of any description or any of the other nonsense that goes with it, I also however get pissed off at hypocrites who claim to be religious but only follow the bits that suit them.
Anyway as to the OP, as I fear we are hijacking the thread, I neither felt shame when I got divorced or at any stage since, he has died since so technically I am widowed, hey I have a choice of 3 options for any form lol.
And I think the men in charge would say that are following the written words of god.
Believe me I am not condoning it, I dont believe in a god of any description or any of the other nonsense that goes with it, I also however get pissed off at hypocrites who claim to be religious but only follow the bits that suit them.
Anyway as to the OP, as I fear we are hijacking the thread, I neither felt shame when I got divorced or at any stage since, he has died since so technically I am widowed, hey I have a choice of 3 options for any form lol.
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