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I have a question about ethics on line re: facebook...
My niece has been dating a guy from her work for the last couple of mths and shared her new man story with me when we were on a family dinner at a resturant one night.
She told me he was not like the other guys she had dated in the past and seemed quite keen for us to meet him. She told me his name.
A couple of weeks later it was the eve of Christmas and I was rapping presents. I had bought him a little something just in case she arrived with him to have Xmas lunch with us because she had anticipated him coming. I didnt know how to spell his name so went on facebook to see if she had him on her profile which she did. With that I went to his profile and clicked friend request to extend a little family friendship. Since I was obviously connected to her and many photos of us together to proove it I didn't think it was a problem... then all hell broke loose
She rang and demanded me to undo what I had done because she claimed I don't even know him and hadn't met him so it was considered as "stalking". She called me a weirdo and said she was utterly embarressed about it. She flew into me and said how dare I do what I did!! She also said that if things didn't work out with him she would hold me accountable.
With that I cancelled my friend request and was extremely apologetic about it
My intention was to extend my hand out in friendship but it got chewed up and spat out!!!
I have sent friend requests on facebook to people I'd not met before simply because they were connected to others I know and had never come across being accused as a stalker so not sure what the standard ethics are when it comes to crossing the line.
My question is...
Did I do the wrong thing??
What do ye all think??