marriage and love ( Archived) (29)

One thing I dont understand about marriage, why couples complain a lot to each other after marriage. Actually complain not gonna help at all, the only way out is to find the correct solution with good communication. Just think what makes you both married? It's love, so why after marry people have to make their love gone by complaining or fighting.
In my opinion, marriage has to be managed through our entire marriage life. Marriage doesnt simply mean live together, eat together, have baby and start a family. This is the basis, but dont forget to manage your marriage. To manage the marriage, both parties should be involved with passion, patient, understanding and caring, loving, in this way your marriage can be long lasting, otherwise, your love will be vanished day by day.
One of my friend told me she and her husband havent talked to each other for half a month because they had a fight. OMG, I cant believe they can live under such kind of atmosphere. And what kind of marriage and couples this is called since it's without love and patient and communication?
Sometimes when my friends complain me about their marriage, I am really happy that I am still single. But most of the time, I am looking and waiting for a responsible man to share my life with, it's not a nice thing to see the sun rise alone, eat alone and every morning wake up alone. I know I have so much to give, but just for the right man in my life. Where are you?

Any relationship needs air to breath. You write about doing all those thing together.
I was married 3 times, 2 times to the same woman. so I am sort of an expert. Never get 'joint by the hip' Keep doing your own thing. Don't suffocate the other. You need to mis the other sometimes.
I think that if you get to the point you need to 'manage' your relationship, you need to end it! Sorry!
Happiness is like a butterfly, if you catch it, it dies!

I like this one

People complain because man is by nature ungrateful, disloyal, petty, and ultimately selfish. Love is dead.

I feel that the entire concept of marriage is a bad one that ultimately is damaging to both parties. In too many cases people become very complacent after marriage. I mean WHY does anyone need a piece of paper and a church blessing to begin with to be totally fulfilled, committed too and happy together ? They do not of course. Marriage is a business transaction. It is a binding contract. What place has this got in any loving relationship ? Absolutely none in my opinion. People and couples can and do fall out of love for any number of reasons. So because they have entered in a permanent legally binding contract many couples next remain together for years even after all love has gone. Because the cost associated with breaking this now worthless contract is prohibitive. This is usually sufficient to keep a great many of them together. Because leaving a dead marriage can be financially devastating.

I would've been married to my late husband for 34 yrs this year if he hadn't passed away in 2007 of lung cancer.


Some marriages/relationships in today's world are just throwaways. like anything else.It's we'll just throw away this relationship and rebound into a new one. What's really sad is when there are kids right smack in the middle of it all.

People just don't spend enough time on those relationships.Least lil thing and they run to the divorce court.

I agree to a point, Cc. My parents will celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary this year, with great pride. They still hold hands and cuddle, it's really beautiful to watch.
For me, though, once was enough.

If you noticed I did use the word 'Some'.