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Jan 26, 2014 4:06 PM CST Changes
Ocee102
Ocee102Ocee102unkown, California USA10 Threads 1,399 Posts
Hi Still.

It's sounds like you might be transitioning from one life stage to the next. Ideally we do that periodically though out life. Erikson has a model for it called psychosocial stages/development or some such, but there's probably others to.

The disinterest in music could be part of the transition. You may come out the other side with a renewed interest, but different taste so don't turn loose of your gear.
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Jan 26, 2014 5:08 PM CST Changes
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
hiya Still wave

yes, i have felt that way. i call them, 'internal shifts'...sometimes slow to surface to consciousness, other times i know in a moment, that my life will never be the same as it was.

wherever you have been...has not been a waste...it's been part of the journey to get to where you are now.
someone wrote on here a while back...
if you learn from it, it's not a mistake.



wine
jmho
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Jan 26, 2014 5:44 PM CST Changes
BB_snickers
BB_snickersBB_snickersNarnia, Ontario Canada56 Threads 3,755 Posts
StillOfTheNight: Ever feel like something inside of you is changing and you have no control over it? For the last several months that has been the case with me.

I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.

I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.

I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.

Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.

I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.


Then there's opportunity for change! head banger

peace
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Jan 26, 2014 6:29 PM CST Changes
maddie51
maddie51maddie51adelaide, South Australia Australia2 Threads 59 Posts
StillOfTheNight: Ever feel like something inside of you is changing and you have no control over it? For the last several months that has been the case with me.

I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.

I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.

I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.

Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.

I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.


Hi Still,

I am sorry you feel unhappy and alone etc. My brother-in-law who is a musician went through a similar thing,he stopped playing with the group he was in, sold his guitars and amps and stopped even listening to cds and radio. He has been diagnosed with depression and gets treated for it ie counselling and medication. Perhaps you need to see your doctor. hug
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Jan 26, 2014 6:34 PM CST Changes
bodleing2
bodleing2bodleing2Manchester, Greater Manchester, England UK84 Threads 6,132 Posts
Sometimes we fear change, it's not fear of the unknown, more a fear of losing the known. Quite often unlearning is good.

Best to accept fully, without any resistance, where you have arrived and where you may move on to.

happy place
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Jan 26, 2014 6:58 PM CST Changes
BB_snickers
BB_snickersBB_snickersNarnia, Ontario Canada56 Threads 3,755 Posts
bodleing2: Sometimes we fear change, it's not fear of the unknown, more a fear of losing the known. Quite often unlearning is good.

Best to accept fully, without any resistance, where you have arrived and where you may move on to.


What keeps one from the experience of true freedom and being love, is an attachment to their past identities seen and experienced as their 'me'. The misconceived ideal of what one was or might be, being held with a clenched fist, refusing release, totally missing the flow of the present moment.

wave
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Jan 26, 2014 7:13 PM CST Changes
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
BB_snickers: What keeps one from the experience of true freedom and being love, is an attachment to their past identities seen and experienced as their 'me'. The misconceived ideal of what one was or might be, being held with a clenched fist, refusing release, totally missing the flow of the present moment.


wave

re: attachment to identity

does one have to get to that place of complete aloneness to do this?

what if one's attachment to others is part of their experience, or their misconceived ideals of who they were or might be?

is accepting release the only way they will not miss the flow of the present moment?

is accepting release the same as letting go?
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Jan 26, 2014 8:28 PM CST Changes
mariespoodles
mariespoodlesmariespoodlesSydney, New South Wales Australia25 Threads 1,648 Posts
StillOfTheNight: Ever feel like something inside of you is changing and you have no control over it? For the last several months that has been the case with me.

I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.

I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.

I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.

Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.

I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.


Resistance to change can and will trap any of us into the arms of unhappy and alone... instead I embrace change every chance I get because I have learned the only thing that stays the same 'IS' change!!!! wink

hug
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