Changes (28)
I think most people go through a stage(s) like this, when we take a step back and look at what we've accomplished (or not) so far in our lives. Sometimes we just feel bewildered that so much time has passed, and find ourselves coming up short. There are many euphemisms applied: Mid-life crisis comes to mind.
This kind of self evaluation is a good thing! Maybe you've grown bored with the music and needed to give it a break, before re-amping and coming back with a different beat? Perhaps the drugs no longer stir your heart, and it's time for a different life concoction? Eat (read- pig out on) the things you enjoy most, and/or experiment with new foods to create some new favorites.
One thing you might do to get out of the blues is to use the knowledge you have accrued in new ways. Teach a youngster how to play a musical instrument, invite friends for a "potluck" dinner of a cuisine you/they wouldn't normally cook, and endeavor to make new acquaintances by visiting new venues.
Like I said, we all go through these times, how we come out on the other end is unique to that person, so don't fret too much.
This kind of self evaluation is a good thing! Maybe you've grown bored with the music and needed to give it a break, before re-amping and coming back with a different beat? Perhaps the drugs no longer stir your heart, and it's time for a different life concoction? Eat (read- pig out on) the things you enjoy most, and/or experiment with new foods to create some new favorites.
One thing you might do to get out of the blues is to use the knowledge you have accrued in new ways. Teach a youngster how to play a musical instrument, invite friends for a "potluck" dinner of a cuisine you/they wouldn't normally cook, and endeavor to make new acquaintances by visiting new venues.
Like I said, we all go through these times, how we come out on the other end is unique to that person, so don't fret too much.
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CasualCarol: I think most people go through a stage(s) like this, when we take a step back and look at what we've accomplished (or not) so far in our lives. Sometimes we just feel bewildered that so much time has passed, and find ourselves coming up short. There are many euphemisms applied: Mid-life crisis comes to mind.
This kind of self evaluation is a good thing! Maybe you've grown bored with the music and needed to give it a break, before re-amping and coming back with a different beat? Perhaps the drugs no longer stir your heart, and it's time for a different life concoction? Eat (read- pig out on) the things you enjoy most, and/or experiment with new foods to create some new favorites.
One thing you might do to get out of the blues is to use the knowledge you have accrued in new ways. Teach a youngster how to play a musical instrument, invite friends for a "potluck" dinner of a cuisine you/they wouldn't normally cook, and endeavor to make new acquaintances by visiting new venues.
Like I said, we all go through these times, how we come out on the other end is unique to that person, so don't fret too much.
This kind of self evaluation is a good thing! Maybe you've grown bored with the music and needed to give it a break, before re-amping and coming back with a different beat? Perhaps the drugs no longer stir your heart, and it's time for a different life concoction? Eat (read- pig out on) the things you enjoy most, and/or experiment with new foods to create some new favorites.
One thing you might do to get out of the blues is to use the knowledge you have accrued in new ways. Teach a youngster how to play a musical instrument, invite friends for a "potluck" dinner of a cuisine you/they wouldn't normally cook, and endeavor to make new acquaintances by visiting new venues.
Like I said, we all go through these times, how we come out on the other end is unique to that person, so don't fret too much.
Very sage advice. May I take this opportunity to say how much I enjoy your posts? Always wise and intelligent and a pleasure to read.
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Could be an ideal time to write a bucket list!
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Still.
It sounds to me like you are evolving.
Evolution isn't easy, it's down right painful, but it is in the pain that we are learning.
What I see/feel from afar is a man that is transforming, and it's an honor to observe.
It sounds to me like you are evolving.
Evolution isn't easy, it's down right painful, but it is in the pain that we are learning.
What I see/feel from afar is a man that is transforming, and it's an honor to observe.
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Hiya Still 
Keep in mind that it's winter here in Canada and you know this can contribute greatly to what you're feeling. I'm kinda in the midst of it myself. Spring is just around the corner. 
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Hi Lady, thank you very much. I enjoy many of the posts here, but am not a quick-quipper like some others, so I just take pleasure in laughing along with others, (or cringing).I feel an emotional pain in SOTN's post, and he should know that this kind of down-in-the-dumps feeling is so so common at this age. The key is not to dwell to long on it, or to judge yourself to harshly. I am sure there are many great accomplishments he's made, and needs to give himself credit for those, and just build on them for the future.
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Getting drugs out of my life is a good thing, no arguing that. It just seems strange that what once brought comfort now seems distant and unappealing.
The best way to describe how I am feeling is like I am living in a stranger's body. Not knowing what I like or dislike and not know who I am anymore. Its unsettling.
The best way to describe how I am feeling is like I am living in a stranger's body. Not knowing what I like or dislike and not know who I am anymore. Its unsettling.
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StillOfTheNight: Ever feel like something inside of you is changing and you have no control over it? For the last several months that has been the case with me.
I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.
I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.
I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.
Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.
I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.
hi....Still....think of it....as being reborn......set your self a task.......and do it....you know you can....deep dowm.......pete.I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.
I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.
I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.
Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.
I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.
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It sounds a lot like you've had opportunity or reason to re-evaluate yourself and your life.
You haven't changed yet. The changes will occur when you've come to terms with your current standings and set about the actions you want to take towards the direction you choose.
I'm not sure what a mid life crisis is and can't say I've ever gone through one. People re-evaluate often through out their lives. It may be most common when something has shown or caused a different reality than what you have or are used too. It may be that there's something you want to change. It maybe that you want something more and that something might run deeper than current living and situations will allow for. There could be a number of different reasons. It could be as simple as needing a long break.
Take your time, sort it out. Talk with friends and family. You'll figure it out.
You haven't changed yet. The changes will occur when you've come to terms with your current standings and set about the actions you want to take towards the direction you choose.
I'm not sure what a mid life crisis is and can't say I've ever gone through one. People re-evaluate often through out their lives. It may be most common when something has shown or caused a different reality than what you have or are used too. It may be that there's something you want to change. It maybe that you want something more and that something might run deeper than current living and situations will allow for. There could be a number of different reasons. It could be as simple as needing a long break.
Take your time, sort it out. Talk with friends and family. You'll figure it out.
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StillOfTheNight: Ever feel like something inside of you is changing and you have no control over it? For the last several months that has been the case with me.
I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.
I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.
I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.
Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.
I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.
I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.
I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.
I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.
Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.
I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.
I like your post Still. It is full of honesty and integrity. Sometimes we blunder through life thinking that it is a bowl of cherries. Unfortunately we then end up with the stones from the centre of the fruit
Some people would say that we have nothing left, BUT, if we replant these leftovers what do we produce? A brilliant tree that will burst into blossom and bring forth a whole new harvest,which you can share with others.
It's never too late to change the structure of your life and replant your special tree on more fertile soil.
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StillOfTheNight: Getting drugs out of my life is a good thing, no arguing that. It just seems strange that what once brought comfort now seems distant and unappealing.
The best way to describe how I am feeling is like I am living in a stranger's body. Not knowing what I like or dislike and not know who I am anymore. Its unsettling.
The best way to describe how I am feeling is like I am living in a stranger's body. Not knowing what I like or dislike and not know who I am anymore. Its unsettling.
Still...you recently lost a friend as well, didn't you?
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unlaoised: Still...you recently lost a friend as well, didn't you?
He hung himself about 1 1/2 years ago
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StillOfTheNight: He hung himself about 1 1/2 years ago
Oh sorry, I thought it was a couple of months ago.
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unlaoised: Oh sorry, I thought it was a couple of months ago.
You may be thinking about a post I made about it, I am still trying to accept it though I probably never will.
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StillOfTheNight: He hung himself about 1 1/2 years ago
hi Still. write a song in his memory......he would like that I,m sure......thos who pass away...never leave us.....but watch over us........------ This thread is Archived ------
StillOfTheNight: You may be thinking about a post I made about it, I am still trying to accept it though I probably never will.
The death of someone close to you can bring about tremendous change as well
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Make way, make way! Let me try..!
Still, all great artists have experienced changes in their lives - trick is to embrace it, acknowledge & move on....don't dwell on past..
Dylan wrote about changes.....
Come gather 'round people
Wherever you roam
And admit that the waters
Around you have grown
And accept it that soon
You'll be drenched to the bone
If your time to you is worth savin'
Then you better start swimmin' or you'll sink like a stone
For the times they are a-changin'
I give to you...Black Sabbath - Changes
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CasualCarol: Hi Lady, thank you very much. I enjoy many of the posts here, but am not a quick-quipper like some others, so I just take pleasure in laughing along with others, (or cringing).
I feel an emotional pain in SOTN's post, and he should know that this kind of down-in-the-dumps feeling is so so common at this age. The key is not to dwell to long on it, or to judge yourself to harshly. I am sure there are many great accomplishments he's made, and needs to give himself credit for those, and just build on them for the future.
I feel an emotional pain in SOTN's post, and he should know that this kind of down-in-the-dumps feeling is so so common at this age. The key is not to dwell to long on it, or to judge yourself to harshly. I am sure there are many great accomplishments he's made, and needs to give himself credit for those, and just build on them for the future.
You're right. At these points in our lives we feel anchor-less, all that we understood and accepted about ourselves no longer holds true and we have difficulty in grasping what it is we want and who we actually are. But, it's a temporary situation, a place of safety from which you define the way forward for yourself. We do all go through it, and more than once in some cases. It's good, it's progress and it's development.
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Thanks to everyone for your input, its appreciated.
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I have no interest for music anymore, looking at my music gear puts a knot in my stomach where as this time last year I wanted more. I don't even want to hear music let alone play it. My guitar has been at my buddy's for the last month and I couldn't care less if I get it back or not.
I usually posts nonsense and crap but to be truthful, I don't know how to post anything else but I am finding that I want to more sensible.
I LOVED my drugs! Couldn't get high enough nor get enough in my body. Now it don't even fizz on me if I see it or not. It just seems like a headache to me now.
Many foods I liked now turns my stomach. I don't want to see anything processed or manufactured.
I am 35 and I feel like my life has been a waste. Indulging in crap and useless nonsense that has left me unhappy and alone.