Still not over his ex wife (29)
MADDOG69: If he never introduced you as his partner, that is a MAJOR MAJOR red light. I can't add to the advice given already. But I would say one thing.... make sure that you don't repeat the cycle. You joined a dating site... make sure your plate is clear also and leave him behind. If you don't and you get tangled with someone here, while you're still on a 'break' that will just get nasty.
All the best.
All the best.
well said doggy
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Thank you to all who welcomed me and that gave me advice. I haven't been on the forum in a while as I was going through so much emotional stuff, but I feel so much better now. It's almost as if, I have now come to terms with it.
I also found that he is on this dating site too lol.... Not sure when he joined, but he was online more than a month ago. His profile says that he is looking for friends. This didn't come as too much of a shock as he did say that he feels so lonely at times
We haven't communicated in any form in two days. I initiated the conversation via text. It was just polite conversation going back and forth. I didn't initiate anything yesterday nor today so he was quiet too. He's not interested. I am so glad I am finally getting that now
I also found that he is on this dating site too lol.... Not sure when he joined, but he was online more than a month ago. His profile says that he is looking for friends. This didn't come as too much of a shock as he did say that he feels so lonely at times
We haven't communicated in any form in two days. I initiated the conversation via text. It was just polite conversation going back and forth. I didn't initiate anything yesterday nor today so he was quiet too. He's not interested. I am so glad I am finally getting that now
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Bianca1978: I've been dating this guy for three years. He has been divorced for six years. Yet, a while back he told me he is not over his ex wife yet. Still has anger issues and feelings of guilt. During the time he would never introduce me as his girlfriend only his friend. He has a 7 year old daughter who haa become very attached to me and who I love with all my heart
Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
To be brutally frank, the fact that his daughter adores you and so does his family has no real bearing on the problem you face. Its about whether you and he can make the relationship work.
Its seems that he may need to talk to someone, i.e. a counsellor/therapist. We like to think we can deal with all our issues by ourselves, otherwise its perceived as not being able to cope, a weakness. To be pro-active in seeking help is often being the bigger person. If he feels you are worth it, he will get help.
If not, you need to move on to someone who will put you first.
Good luck!
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MADDOG69: If he never introduced you as his partner, that is a MAJOR MAJOR red light. I can't add to the advice given already. But I would say one thing.... make sure that you don't repeat the cycle. You joined a dating site... make sure your plate is clear also and leave him behind. If you don't and you get tangled with someone here, while you're still on a 'break' that will just get nasty.
All the best.
All the best.
My advice is to move on....try and find someone else who is sure of what he wants, and will introduce you properly, and treat you accordingly and there will be no wondering where it is going to go. I think you've wasted enough time on that guy already. Think of yourself first. Good luck, hope you make the right decision.
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kettleson: I know its always easier to give other people good advice if we are not a part of the emotional problem .
You say you think you have wasted ex number of years in this relationship , ? well the facts are that experiences GOOD or BAD are NOT wasted if we come out the other end having learned some thing and using it as a Positive tool for our lives ahead of us .
You say you think you have wasted ex number of years in this relationship , ? well the facts are that experiences GOOD or BAD are NOT wasted if we come out the other end having learned some thing and using it as a Positive tool for our lives ahead of us .
so well said, kettleson
all the best for the future, Bianca
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Thanks all. I am really working on putting myself first. I take baby steps and I am doing better each day. I trust that he will eventually find a way to deal with his issues, but I'm no longer going to hang around until he's made up his mind.
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Bianca1978: I've been dating this guy for three years. He has been divorced for six years. Yet, a while back he told me he is not over his ex wife yet. Still has anger issues and feelings of guilt. During the time he would never introduce me as his girlfriend only his friend. He has a 7 year old daughter who haa become very attached to me and who I love with all my heart
Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
Not wishing to sound harsh , I just checked the date of your thread . But wholeheartedly I hope for you that you're closer to the light at the end of the tunnel . Having peeped , I see you're still young enough to find love with somebody else who will hopefully have his ship in order and ready to sail with you if that's the way it has to be . Either way I wish you all the best Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
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Bianca1978: On many occassions during the past week especially I wanted to call it quits but then I think of his daughter. What is the best way to let go? We went to the theme park yesterday after church... This after I brought it up and we had a good time but a bit of tension. I wanted t tell him that we should stop seeing one a other but what would be an easy way. I am still so emotional at times so I dont want to end up crying in front of him
If the daughter is by the woman he still hasnt got over,then you will be doing the daughter a great favour by totally finishing with the man with the hope of the family being united back together.
I am sure the daughter is better off with her real parents than yourself.
If you let go of the man ,keep your distance ,allow them to reconcile,you never know they may decide nothing in there for them,and your lover may return with a ring in his hand offering you an engagement.
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Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
If he never introduced you as his partner, that is a MAJOR MAJOR red light. I can't add to the advice given already. But I would say one thing.... make sure that you don't repeat the cycle. You joined a dating site... make sure your plate is clear also and leave him behind. If you don't and you get tangled with someone here, while you're still on a 'break' that will just get nasty.
All the best.