Still not over his ex wife (29)
JMHO:
If someone still is attached to somebody else...I doubt he can really 'love' you. If after all that time he's still 'not' ready, or finding excuses ... then why are you with him? I know you will say 'because I love him' but girl...Love is a two ways highway.
Seems that you are the only one interested in making that work. So...
GOod luck.
ps: If I was you, I would leave that toxic relationship and move on .
If someone still is attached to somebody else...I doubt he can really 'love' you. If after all that time he's still 'not' ready, or finding excuses ... then why are you with him? I know you will say 'because I love him' but girl...Love is a two ways highway.
Seems that you are the only one interested in making that work. So...
GOod luck.
ps: If I was you, I would leave that toxic relationship and move on .
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JMHO:
If someone still is attached to somebody else...I doubt he can really 'love' you. If after all that time he's still 'not' ready, or finding excuses ... then why are you with him? I know you will say 'because I love him' but girl...Love is a two ways highway.
Seems that you are the only one interested in making that work. So...
GOod luck.
ps: If I was you, I would leave that toxic relationship and move on .
If someone still is attached to somebody else...I doubt he can really 'love' you. If after all that time he's still 'not' ready, or finding excuses ... then why are you with him? I know you will say 'because I love him' but girl...Love is a two ways highway.
Seems that you are the only one interested in making that work. So...
GOod luck.
ps: If I was you, I would leave that toxic relationship and move on .
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Bianca1978: I've been dating this guy for three years. He has been divorced for six years. Yet, a while back he told me he is not over his ex wife yet. Still has anger issues and feelings of guilt. During the time he would never introduce me as his girlfriend only his friend. He has a 7 year old daughter who haa become very attached to me and who I love with all my heart
Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
Gosh, it sounds like he still has a lot of work to do on himself Bianca.
I feel for you, you must have a whole lot of feelings running through you right now and only you know what is right for you from this point on.
Take care of yourself, I wish you well and hope life is much happier for you very soon
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Sad to say, He is stuck in his past, Sadly you supplemented Him 3 years, But overall, Only you can can find Your own Lover, He has no deep Interest in you, or he would not leave you in this Sad Situation,
Let Go, Look Up, and Move on, Best to just block Him, and give him his wishes.... For You, Cry for a Day, and Find what your Heart Desires! FOR YOU>>>>>> Life is too short for this kind of Games>>>>>>>>>
If it is not DUAL attraction, You have Nothing......
Let Go, Look Up, and Move on, Best to just block Him, and give him his wishes.... For You, Cry for a Day, and Find what your Heart Desires! FOR YOU>>>>>> Life is too short for this kind of Games>>>>>>>>>
If it is not DUAL attraction, You have Nothing......
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On many occassions during the past week especially I wanted to call it quits but then I think of his daughter. What is the best way to let go? We went to the theme park yesterday after church... This after I brought it up and we had a good time but a bit of tension. I wanted t tell him that we should stop seeing one a other but what would be an easy way. I am still so emotional at times so I dont want to end up crying in front of him
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Bianca1978: On many occassions during the past week especially I wanted to call it quits but then I think of his daughter. What is the best way to let go? We went to the theme park yesterday after church... This after I brought it up and we had a good time but a bit of tension. I wanted t tell him that we should stop seeing one a other but what would be an easy way. I am still so emotional at times so I dont want to end up crying in front of him
Sorry.. Not "this after i brought it up" It shoup be that it was my idea to go to the theme park
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Firstly its not your fault that you have arrived at this point in your relationship .
Secondly its a shame for his daughter ,
{kids always in the middle of things }.
Tell your partner to get his emotions sorted out so he/you can move on .
If he does then great
Secondly its a shame for his daughter ,
{kids always in the middle of things }.
Tell your partner to get his emotions sorted out so he/you can move on .
If he does then great
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He obviously has not dealt with his issues regarding the divorce.
In the meantime you have invested emotionally for 3 years.
I know it's difficult for you at this time, but you have to start thinking about the possibility of a future without him and his daughter.
You deserve much more than what is currently on offer. You are being short-changed.
All the very best with your decision.
In the meantime you have invested emotionally for 3 years.
I know it's difficult for you at this time, but you have to start thinking about the possibility of a future without him and his daughter.
You deserve much more than what is currently on offer. You are being short-changed.
All the very best with your decision.
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Hi Bianca and welcome to the forums.
This is going to sound kind of harsh but it works for me. A bit of wisdom passed onto me some time ago....
Never make someone a priority when you are an option to them.
I dated a man in a similar situation. I got out of it. It's difficult but I felt that I didn't sign up for a 3 way relationship.
Best of luck with your decision
This is going to sound kind of harsh but it works for me. A bit of wisdom passed onto me some time ago....
Never make someone a priority when you are an option to them.
I dated a man in a similar situation. I got out of it. It's difficult but I felt that I didn't sign up for a 3 way relationship.
Best of luck with your decision
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I know its always easier to give other people good advice if we are not a part of the emotional problem .
You say you think you have wasted ex number of years in this relationship , ? well the facts are that experiences GOOD or BAD are NOT wasted if we come out the other end having learned some thing and using it as a Positive tool for our lives ahead of us .
You say you think you have wasted ex number of years in this relationship , ? well the facts are that experiences GOOD or BAD are NOT wasted if we come out the other end having learned some thing and using it as a Positive tool for our lives ahead of us .
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kettleson: I know its always easier to give other people good advice if we are not a part of the emotional problem .
You say you think you have wasted ex number of years in this relationship , ? well the facts are that experiences GOOD or BAD are NOT wasted if we come out the other end having learned some thing and using it as a Positive tool for our lives ahead of us .
You say you think you have wasted ex number of years in this relationship , ? well the facts are that experiences GOOD or BAD are NOT wasted if we come out the other end having learned some thing and using it as a Positive tool for our lives ahead of us .
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unlaoised: Hi Bianca and welcome to the forums.
This is going to sound kind of harsh but it works for me. A bit of wisdom passed onto me some time ago....
Never make someone a priority when you are an option to them.
I dated a man in a similar situation. I got out of it. It's difficult but I felt that I didn't sign up for a 3 way relationship.
Best of luck with your decision
This is going to sound kind of harsh but it works for me. A bit of wisdom passed onto me some time ago....
Never make someone a priority when you are an option to them.
I dated a man in a similar situation. I got out of it. It's difficult but I felt that I didn't sign up for a 3 way relationship.
Best of luck with your decision
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Welcome to the forum Bianca, I am going to give you my honest opinion even though you probably won't like it.
I would NEVER hang around for 5 minutes with someone who would introduce me as a friend and not his girlfriend.
I also wouldn't even get into something where someone actually TELLS ME that he is not over his ex.
It does not matter how much his family likes you - he is the one who has to like you.
I am sorry to hear you are hurting, but if you would have thought this through and actually talked to him straight from the start, you mightn't be in that bother.
Just on a side-note: a relationship aren't bank shares - you can't expect anything from an investment.
Best of luck.
I am going to give you my honest opinion even though you probably won't like it.I would NEVER hang around for 5 minutes with someone who would introduce me as a friend and not his girlfriend.
I also wouldn't even get into something where someone actually TELLS ME that he is not over his ex.
It does not matter how much his family likes you - he is the one who has to like you.
I am sorry to hear you are hurting, but if you would have thought this through and actually talked to him straight from the start, you mightn't be in that bother.
Just on a side-note: a relationship aren't bank shares - you can't expect anything from an investment.
Best of luck.
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pedalguy59: Never heard that bit of Wisdom before, but it is very good.
Hiya
Yea, it kinda puts so much into perspective, doesn't it?
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Bianca1978: I've been dating this guy for three years. He has been divorced for six years. Yet, a while back he told me he is not over his ex wife yet. Still has anger issues and feelings of guilt. During the time he would never introduce me as his girlfriend only his friend. He has a 7 year old daughter who haa become very attached to me and who I love with all my heart
Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story
Putting this in perspective, this Boyo is Divorced 3 years, pluslet's guess at least a year of Separation from his Wife. It sounds like he never wanted that to happen, and is still emotionally attached
in a huge way. Your 3 years is not a detriment, it might be a price
of an education. What you will take with you is a life experience.
Do not look back on them in angst, it will make you sum of what you
will be.
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run and don;t look back...ASAP
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unlaoised: Hi Bianca and welcome to the forums.
This is going to sound kind of harsh but it works for me. A bit of wisdom passed onto me some time ago....
Never make someone a priority when you are an option to them.
I dated a man in a similar situation. I got out of it. It's difficult but I felt that I didn't sign up for a 3 way relationship.
Best of luck with your decision
This is going to sound kind of harsh but it works for me. A bit of wisdom passed onto me some time ago....
Never make someone a priority when you are an option to them.
I dated a man in a similar situation. I got out of it. It's difficult but I felt that I didn't sign up for a 3 way relationship.
Best of luck with your decision
Wise words. 
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Now we are on a break because he doesn't know what he wants anymore and he has given no indication on how long this break to find himself will last.
In the meantime I feel like I have wasted 3years. His family and friends adore me, but they don't know the full story