Could you sacrifice passion/love for money/security? (229)
loulou77: Nid...sometimes passion dissolves and then they ask what is left?...for the couple who remained married...worked through their difficulties in married life...both wanting the marriage to work out...but they may still have passion?...
Yes, that's exactly how it is. Passion and love rarely lasts a lifetime. There are times when it does, but those are far and few between, you know. I'm becoming more and more a fan of the idea that one should look for a good match and let the passion/love grow over time.
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Nidifugous: Yes, that's exactly how it is. Passion and love rarely lasts a lifetime. There are times when it does, but those are far and few between, you know. I'm becoming more and more a fan of the idea that one should look for a good match and let the passion/love grow over time.
Nid...I agree...find someone your attracted to...like what comes out of their mouth so to speak not just their looks...love will grow and I am sure passion will go in the same direction...
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Nidifugous: Everyone I know (except one couple) married for love and they're all divorced /remarried. Not a good track record for love marriages.
One couple I know where they didn't marry for love but because they were a good fit in terms of background, social status, income etc., have a solid marriage with a baby. The wife just gave her husband a kidney when he became very ill.
One couple I know where they didn't marry for love but because they were a good fit in terms of background, social status, income etc., have a solid marriage with a baby. The wife just gave her husband a kidney when he became very ill.
Wow....seems a unique situation, but guess it works for them!
Who knows, maybe they will stay together for ever(?)
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loulou77: Nid...I agree...find someone your attracted to...like what comes out of their mouth so to speak not just their looks...love will grow and I am sure passion will go in the same direction...
Well said 
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LadyLori: Wow....seems a unique situation, but guess it works for them!
Who knows, maybe they will stay together for ever(?)
Who knows, maybe they will stay together for ever(?)
I'm sure they will. They're both from a rather traditional culture. What's really interesting is that if his sister had given him a kidney, he wouldn't need immuno-suppressants for the rest of his life, but the brother-in-law did not want his wife (the sister) to give up the kidney. So his wife gave the kidney. This experience alone I think will tie them for life.
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I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule on the passion/love vs money/security issue.
For every couple I know, their relationship/marriage was borne from an intense love, passion and mutual respect for each other. Sure, we grow old, life brings with it many challenges and unless the passion is nurtured it can erode....but in its place comes a deep, meaningful love for each other. Money can't buy that.
Far better to lay foundation with mutual love and then build/develop/acquire assets or monetary wealth together with the bond that already exists.
For every successful traditional marriage that works on the principle of money/security first and foremost....there is an unhappy husband and wife desperate to get out.
We have to ask ourselves....are we prepared to settle for someone we do not love or feel any real passion towards?....and I feel its a big gamble to take, to think that this may develop at a later stage.
I, personally don't need the money, wealth or financial security because in my experiences, those things, weren't important.
You're damn right I want to feel the love, the passion. I've never been a very materialistic person, so maybe that's why I feel the way I do.
The above by no means applies to everyone.
I don't want to sound like the preacher who knows it all...
It's just my own view from personal learned experiences.
For every couple I know, their relationship/marriage was borne from an intense love, passion and mutual respect for each other. Sure, we grow old, life brings with it many challenges and unless the passion is nurtured it can erode....but in its place comes a deep, meaningful love for each other. Money can't buy that.
Far better to lay foundation with mutual love and then build/develop/acquire assets or monetary wealth together with the bond that already exists.
For every successful traditional marriage that works on the principle of money/security first and foremost....there is an unhappy husband and wife desperate to get out.
We have to ask ourselves....are we prepared to settle for someone we do not love or feel any real passion towards?....and I feel its a big gamble to take, to think that this may develop at a later stage.
I, personally don't need the money, wealth or financial security because in my experiences, those things, weren't important.
You're damn right I want to feel the love, the passion. I've never been a very materialistic person, so maybe that's why I feel the way I do.
The above by no means applies to everyone.
I don't want to sound like the preacher who knows it all...
It's just my own view from personal learned experiences.
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Carmengetme: I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule on the passion/love vs money/security issue.
For every couple I know, their relationship/marriage was borne from an intense love, passion and mutual respect for each other. Sure, we grow old, life brings with it many challenges and unless the passion is nurtured it can erode....but in its place comes a deep, meaningful love for each other. Money can't buy that.
Far better to lay foundation with mutual love and then build/develop/acquire assets or monetary wealth together with the bond that already exists.
For every successful traditional marriage that works on the principle of money/security first and foremost....there is an unhappy husband and wife desperate to get out.
We have to ask ourselves....are we prepared to settle for someone we do not love or feel any real passion towards?....and I feel its a big gamble to take, to think that this may develop at a later stage.
I, personally don't need the money, wealth or financial security because in my experiences, those things, weren't important.
You're damn right I want to feel the love, the passion. I've never been a very materialistic person, so maybe that's why I feel the way I do.
The above by no means applies to everyone.
I don't want to sound like the preacher who knows it all...
It's just my own view from personal learned experiences.
.....yes , iknow how you feel.......welllll actually I don't.......but I know how I feel....For every couple I know, their relationship/marriage was borne from an intense love, passion and mutual respect for each other. Sure, we grow old, life brings with it many challenges and unless the passion is nurtured it can erode....but in its place comes a deep, meaningful love for each other. Money can't buy that.
Far better to lay foundation with mutual love and then build/develop/acquire assets or monetary wealth together with the bond that already exists.
For every successful traditional marriage that works on the principle of money/security first and foremost....there is an unhappy husband and wife desperate to get out.
We have to ask ourselves....are we prepared to settle for someone we do not love or feel any real passion towards?....and I feel its a big gamble to take, to think that this may develop at a later stage.
I, personally don't need the money, wealth or financial security because in my experiences, those things, weren't important.
You're damn right I want to feel the love, the passion. I've never been a very materialistic person, so maybe that's why I feel the way I do.
The above by no means applies to everyone.
I don't want to sound like the preacher who knows it all...
It's just my own view from personal learned experiences.
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One couple I know where they didn't marry for love but because they were a good fit in terms of background, social status, income etc., have a solid marriage with a baby. The wife just gave her husband a kidney when he became very ill.
Nid...sometimes passion dissolves and then they ask what is left?...for the couple who remained married...worked through their difficulties in married life...both wanting the marriage to work out...but they may still have passion?...