Why are people in a rush to get married so young (20)
MichigangusTraverse city, Michigan USA6 Threads 12 PostsFolks need time to learn who they are. Time to work on yourself. Time to mature. Time to find your place in society. Time to figure what kind of person you want to be, what you believe at your core. A person needs to develop their personality on their own, before they are ready for a meaningful relationship. One that can survive a few hurdles.
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Why worry so much about something that is not going to affect you in any way, shape or form?
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Michigangus: Folks need time to learn who they are. Time to work on yourself. Time to mature. Time to find your place in society. Time to figure what kind of person you want to be, what you believe at your core. A person needs to develop their personality on their own, before they are ready for a meaningful relationship. One that can survive a few hurdles.
Not seen anything to suggest that they are ... in fact more n more they seem to be not marrying, att all, ever !
But looking back a little ... people made a commitment based on love, swore an oath to be true and MOSTLY they were ... I reckon that tells us that we learn most about oursleves inside a committed relationship ?
I wonder 'how complete a person might be if they live as a celibate priest, monk, nun ... there's a huge area of lief experience they miss out on eh ?
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Michigangus: Folks need time to learn who they are. Time to work on yourself. Time to mature. Time to find your place in society. Time to figure what kind of person you want to be, what you believe at your core. A person needs to develop their personality on their own, before they are ready for a meaningful relationship. One that can survive a few hurdles.
And some people need to travel around the world before they realise they're a homo. People don't need to find themselves, they need to get over themselves, stop running away from themselves.
Romantically I believe the best plan is to have no plan. Anything could happen. Spontaneity and openness to experience rely on forgetting about yourself, if you travel through life on a mission to find yourself you'll only ever see what you came to see. A tourist of life, not the traveller.
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ChesneyChrist: And some people need to travel around the world before they realise they're a homo. People don't need to find themselves, they need to get over themselves, stop running away from themselves.
Romantically I believe the best plan is to have no plan. Anything could happen. Spontaneity and openness to experience rely on forgetting about yourself, if you travel through life on a mission to find yourself you'll only ever see what you came to see. A tourist of life, not the traveller.
Romantically I believe the best plan is to have no plan. Anything could happen. Spontaneity and openness to experience rely on forgetting about yourself, if you travel through life on a mission to find yourself you'll only ever see what you came to see. A tourist of life, not the traveller.
Of course it's the balance. Complaining that people marry too young is a good way of saying you're not desperate - which is good - but this has to be tempered by the man who knows what he wants. You don't want to look guarded, self-absorbed and indecisive like a woman and pre-occupation with yourself does do this.
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ChesneyChrist: Of course it's the balance. Complaining that people marry too young is a good way of saying you're not desperate - which is good - but this has to be tempered by the man who knows what he wants. You don't want to look guarded, self-absorbed and indecisive like a woman and pre-occupation with yourself does do this.
Knows what he wants in the moment, not a priori. To live life through will and not by script is what I'm driving at.
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Well its personal and individual choice, but I agree I dont understand it either, looks weird to me. Its weird that my friends are rushing too because of the idea our society have here that you need to have kids and family as you are young because nobody needs old parents and age difference between you and kids will be big lol
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panelea: Well its personal and individual choice, but I agree I dont understand it either, looks weird to me. Its weird that my friends are rushing too because of the idea our society have here that you need to have kids and family as you are young because nobody needs old parents and age difference between you and kids will be big lol
These opinions seem to vary from time to time and across different countries eh ?
It's interesting to hear the current trend in your country ... down here (NZ) people have been delaying having children and now there's a big big gap between parents and children ... and it creates many interesting situations .
A woman who was born when her mother was 25 years but waits until she is 45 before having a child ... well, her mother is 70 years at the time of birth of of the grand child ... maybe she's not now so well her self and cannot do many things ( baby sitting for example, or driving )
And maybe the woman decided to have the child alone ( IVF or etc ) it all gets very 'interesting' eh ???
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I dont think mean reason should be age, is the mentality, being ready and wanting it, I dont say wait till you are 50 but I dont see why people hurry up just for sake of age. Its kinda odd in my opinion, I am 25 and I dont even want kids yet .
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panelea: I dont think mean reason should be age, is the mentality, being ready and wanting it, I dont say wait till you are 50 but I dont see why people hurry up just for sake of age. Its kinda odd in my opinion, I am 25 and I dont even want kids yet .
I don;t know there's any 'right time'
If you were to read "Conversations With God' (Neil Walsch) you'd discover a completely approach to child raising :-)
Similarly in 'ROOTS' ( sorry author's name has slipped my mind ) there you'd see the concept of 'It takes a village to raise a child' at work !
There's no 'absolutes'
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well talking from my relatives, friends personal experiences I would say there is right time for that and I think so too. Well its my personal opinion, I am still young and I want to enjoy my life. So I wont start looking for bf and marriage as soon as possible because ill be late haha
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HexagonKeySet: I don;t know there's any 'right time'
If you were to read "Conversations With God' (Neil Walsch) you'd discover a completely approach to child raising :-)
Similarly in 'ROOTS' ( sorry author's name has slipped my mind ) there you'd see the concept of 'It takes a village to raise a child' at work !
There's no 'absolutes'
If you were to read "Conversations With God' (Neil Walsch) you'd discover a completely approach to child raising :-)
Similarly in 'ROOTS' ( sorry author's name has slipped my mind ) there you'd see the concept of 'It takes a village to raise a child' at work !
There's no 'absolutes'
There's no "right time"...and there's nothing that can teach you how to be a good parent...
You learn in the process...
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panelea: well talking from my relatives, friends personal experiences I would say there is right time for that and I think so too. Well its my personal opinion, I am still young and I want to enjoy my life. So I wont start looking for bf and marriage as soon as possible because ill be late haha
Enjoy your life and don't worry when you should have family and kids...when the moment comes you will know...
I am terrified when people plan having chidren so they can fit into the "convinience"...like ticking a box, marriage-tick, kids-tick...that's awful...
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KremaP: There's no "right time"...and there's nothing that can teach you how to be a good parent...
You learn in the process...
You learn in the process...
hopefully we learn quickly and do not do too much damage to children as we gain that education !!!------ This thread is Archived ------
Michigangus: Folks need time to learn who they are. Time to work on yourself. Time to mature. Time to find your place in society. Time to figure what kind of person you want to be, what you believe at your core. A person needs to develop their personality on their own, before they are ready for a meaningful relationship. One that can survive a few hurdles.
Ready for a meaningful relationship? I guess that has nothing to do with ready to bonk around...
Some people find the right person to share their life with when they are 15, others when they're 30, 50 or whenever. Then there are these that are incapable of holding down a relationship no matter their age.
Most marriages that are based on ulterior motives and not love and respect won't hold up. The willingness to make a relationship work, similar values and goals and a lack of selfishness is what it takes imo and that has nothing to do with age.
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ChesneyChrist: And some people need to travel around the world before they realise they're a homo. People don't need to find themselves, they need to get over themselves, stop running away from themselves.
Romantically I believe the best plan is to have no plan. Anything could happen. Spontaneity and openness to experience rely on forgetting about yourself, if you travel through life on a mission to find yourself you'll only ever see what you came to see. A tourist of life, not the traveller.
Romantically I believe the best plan is to have no plan. Anything could happen. Spontaneity and openness to experience rely on forgetting about yourself, if you travel through life on a mission to find yourself you'll only ever see what you came to see. A tourist of life, not the traveller.
That's why women fancy you more when you have a girlfriend even when they don't officially know it. They can sense that one or more women want you by your lack of schemes and your indifference to the outcome of events.
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"Why are people in a rush to get married so young"
Because old people are ugly of-course
Because old people are ugly of-course
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nonsmoker: "Why are people in a rush to get married so young"
Because old people are ugly of-course
Because old people are ugly of-course
Sorry that Bold wasn't so big in the preview..
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Michigangus: Easy answer... They're clueless!
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lookn2share: Michigangus: Easy answer... They're clueless!
Morning Lookn
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