persuing an education and relationships. ( Archived) (12)

Jan 3, 2007 8:03 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
fireliter
fireliterfireliterAllen Park, Michigan USA502 Threads 14 Polls 5,902 Posts
has anyone ever lost a partner or left a partner because one returned to school or finished getting their degree or license.

Is this a common thing to outgrow your partner, or leave the one who helped and stayed with you throughout the ordeal????

I mean before you realize it, you become like strangers to one another.
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Jan 3, 2007 8:08 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
PeepingTomGirl
PeepingTomGirlPeepingTomGirlHampton, Virginia USA73 Threads 1,884 Posts
No...but one reason I left my ex is because he didnt think me furthering my education was important. He said he made enough money and it would be a waste of money and time.
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Jan 3, 2007 8:12 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
fireliter
fireliterfireliterAllen Park, Michigan USA502 Threads 14 Polls 5,902 Posts
have a freind he had no problem with his wife returning to school she got a associates in 2 years and then 6 months later she left him. he's currently gettin the barroom shrink advice from many telling him that leting her go to school was what caused the separation. does more education gained after marriage cause us to rethink our current relationship??
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Jan 3, 2007 8:24 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
joeslick
joeslickjoeslickalbion, Michigan USA23 Threads 189 Posts
my mother allways thought that when my ex got her present job that was the beginning of the end.she said as soon as she got her pensoin and benefits she didn't need me anymore.i bought all brand new appliances lawnmower snowblowerwhat did she need me for.. maybe she thought that because when my parents started our family she gave up a good job to stay home and raise her kids.
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Jan 3, 2007 8:36 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
Integraverence
IntegraverenceIntegraverence20 Threads 1,007 Posts
Not me but many years ago my younger sister went to nursing school and her husband couldn't handle it and started physically abusing her. They got divorced shortly thereafter. She's a nurse and he's an alcoholic.
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Jan 3, 2007 9:50 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
PeepingTomGirl
PeepingTomGirlPeepingTomGirlHampton, Virginia USA73 Threads 1,884 Posts
I think some women (and sometimes men) might feel more empowered after they are educated and see that they have the financial capabilities to do things on their own. I don't think this would cause a relationship to end but if there are already underlying problems in the relationship, it might be a boost to get out.
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Jan 3, 2007 10:10 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
RainbowSlider
RainbowSliderRainbowSliderYellville, USA171 Threads 7,174 Posts
I wanted to go to college and she wanted me to wait until the kids were grown up. Yup, different worlds and strangers in the same house.
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Jan 3, 2007 10:16 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
Jess642
Jess642Jess642Agnes Water, Australia25 Threads 4,545 Posts
I am a little concerned here, I work, am studying full time at university, raising a mob of kids on my own, volunteer in my community, and I would love to have a healthy love-relationship as well.

Seems I may be best waiting til I finish what I started...but that could take forever..
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Jan 4, 2007 6:36 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
fireliter
fireliterfireliterAllen Park, Michigan USA502 Threads 14 Polls 5,902 Posts
yeah, I have been accused of taking courses "just so I did not have to attend her and family gatheringsand functions"
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Jan 4, 2007 6:46 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
adj4u
adj4uadj4unorth central, USA4,943 Posts
i think (oh oh) that to improve ones self would be a good thing

and if your partner feels that youshould not then they have a selfesteem issue or wish to have you under their thumb

but hey what do i know

help help
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Jan 4, 2007 7:00 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
Good Q fire



Personally I've been on both sides of the coin
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Jan 4, 2007 7:06 PM CST persuing an education and relationships.
fireliter
fireliterfireliterAllen Park, Michigan USA502 Threads 14 Polls 5,902 Posts
sad thing is neither sid of this coin is the right side or is it... I 've just been hearing many of late discussing this, remarks like "he's acting this way" or "she thinks just because..." and I have failed a few times since my returning to school. I'm grateful the time involved in those attempts whee short but still it's another mark in the loss column...
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