Do You Think That A New Relationship Can Withstand,Ex'es, Being Part Of Your Partners Life! (59)
annaroach: I suppose it is all down to trust in the end,and knowing someone very well.
In some cases it might also be about how secure someone is in themselves.
It can be a tricky one for lots !
Even th most secure can have bouts of jealousy too.In some cases it might also be about how secure someone is in themselves.
It can be a tricky one for lots !
I don't think it's about that I think it's about respect for your partner.
I am friendly with my exs...but they are not in my life ....even more so if I'm with someone.
That's not to say that let's say a long time married couple split and have kids together that's different and they are and should always remain a part of each others lives...given they went through a life altering stage of their lives.
But I'm speaking from myself and being childless I don't see why an ex should be an active participant in someone's life who is clearly moved on with someone else.
Once a seed of doubt is sown it's hard to kill it.
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annaroach: It sure isn't for everyone!
No it isn't Anna, trust me I have my own reasons. It's not that I am set against it for other people. It was the behaviour I witnessed. It just isn't for me.------ This thread is Archived ------
Statically it would be interesting to know the average success rate 
BUT I've known only about a few Couples (10 max) who tried it and it worked for just one couple who are still together 15 years later. SO - I suggest that is not a large enough sample to be anywhere near accurate.
BUT I've known only about a few Couples (10 max) who tried it and it worked for just one couple who are still together 15 years later. SO - I suggest that is not a large enough sample to be anywhere near accurate.
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annaroach: That's a pity, but as Pat said, at a certain age there are bound to be a family involved
and that changes things.
the last thing i want ,is to be the crappy guy who creates a mess in my Ex`s life and that changes things.
and in my opinion,. an ex is an ex for a reason ,
the kids aside
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MikeD12: Statically it would be interesting to know the average success rate
BUT I've known only about a few Couples (10 max) who tried it and it worked for just one couple who are still together 15 years later. SO - I suggest that is not a large enough sample to be anywhere near accurate.
That would be hard to to find out, no statistics being taken on stuff like that.BUT I've known only about a few Couples (10 max) who tried it and it worked for just one couple who are still together 15 years later. SO - I suggest that is not a large enough sample to be anywhere near accurate.
It really depends on the two people involved!
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annaroach: Any opinions on this subject, some work , some don't , is their always an element of
distrust involved?
Would love to hear your comments on this possibly sensitive subject!
It depends why he’s involved and how involved he is. Is he a nice guy father of her kids or is he some cocky git living in her apartment rent free?distrust involved?
Would love to hear your comments on this possibly sensitive subject!
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Limun: the last thing i want ,is to be the crappy guy who creates a mess in my Ex`s life
and in my opinion,. an ex is an ex for a reason ,
the kids aside
There is that,,, my take on it would be,,, something went wrong, to hold on to it would bring me and in my opinion,. an ex is an ex for a reason ,
the kids aside
bitterness and stress , and bad for my health so in time forgive and forget, move on .
But i couldn't bring a family into this world, without trying my very best to keep it in tact
in so far as i could,,, so to be civil/friendly to someone i had them with would come natural to me.
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I wouldn't have problem with that...if my trust is betrayed, well, I won't become a freak with trust issues...
Been there...know how it feels...he didn't do anything tho, she tried...
I choose to trust...
Been there...know how it feels...he didn't do anything tho, she tried...
I choose to trust...
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annaroach: There is that,,, my take on it would be,,, something went wrong, to hold on to it would bring me
bitterness and stress , and bad for my health so in time forgive and forget, move on .
But i couldn't bring a family into this world, without trying my very best to keep it in tact
in so far as i could,,, so to be civil/friendly to someone i had them with would come natural to me.
Forgive,, we don't ever forget !!bitterness and stress , and bad for my health so in time forgive and forget, move on .
But i couldn't bring a family into this world, without trying my very best to keep it in tact
in so far as i could,,, so to be civil/friendly to someone i had them with would come natural to me.
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pKrema: I wouldn't have problem with that...if my trust is betrayed, well, I won't become a freak with trust issues...
Been there...know how it feels...he didn't do anything tho, she tried...
I choose to trust...
Interesting, to hear the different views.Been there...know how it feels...he didn't do anything tho, she tried...
I choose to trust...
It's good i think to start afresh each time and trust until getting a reason not to !
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ChesneyChrist: It depends why he’s involved and how involved he is. Is he a nice guy father of her kids or is he some cocky git living in her apartment rent free?
I was thinking of the former, nice guy, good father , genuinely good person.Why would anyone make his life more difficult , by being nasty . I wouldn't .
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annaroach: Interesting, to hear the different views.
It's good i think to start afresh each time and trust until getting a reason not to !
What kind of life it will be Anna... if we choose to lose faith in the person we share our life and love with...?!It's good i think to start afresh each time and trust until getting a reason not to !
Being suspicious all the time...
Jealousy is poisonous...once it gets in between it's impossible to rid of...
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Rachie14: No it isn't Anna, trust me I have my own reasons. It's not that I am set against it for other people. It was the behaviour I witnessed. It just isn't for me.
Each have their own reasons for their decisions, and nobody can or should judge!
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pKrema: What kind of life it will be Anna... if we choose to lose faith in the person we share our life and love with...?!
Being suspicious all the time...
Jealousy is poisonous...once it gets in between it's impossible to rid of...
I totally agree, it can be so destructive,, and as i see it , life is too short!Being suspicious all the time...
Jealousy is poisonous...once it gets in between it's impossible to rid of...
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annaroach: I was thinking of the former, nice guy, good father , genuinely good person.
Why would anyone make his life more difficult , by being nasty . I wouldn't .
When (especially younger) kids are involved you can hardly avoid the father being part of your life...cause he is part of the kids life...Why would anyone make his life more difficult , by being nasty . I wouldn't .
It's not an easy thing to get along with, not every ex is a nice guy...
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pKrema: What kind of life it will be Anna... if we choose to lose faith in the person we share our life and love with...?!
Being suspicious all the time...
Jealousy is poisonous...once it gets in between it's impossible to rid of...
in my opinion, a jealousy is natural ,its something we`re born with ,you can spot it in children , even animals Being suspicious all the time...
Jealousy is poisonous...once it gets in between it's impossible to rid of...
pathological jealousy is a serious condition and we`re not diving in to that right now
but, what Im saying is, there s nothing wrong to show how you really feel
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I don't bring any exes in my new partner's life.
If he is a good friend with his ex, being naive as I can be, I would probably believe that they are only friends until proved otherwise.
However, I'd prefer someone without an ex as an integral part of his life, though.
If he is a good friend with his ex, being naive as I can be, I would probably believe that they are only friends until proved otherwise.
However, I'd prefer someone without an ex as an integral part of his life, though.
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Limun: in my opinion, a jealousy is natural ,its something we`re born with ,you can spot it in children , even animals
pathological jealousy is a serious condition and we`re not diving in to that right now
but, what Im saying is, there s nothing wrong to show how you really feel
That is another perspective and can't be overlooked i suppose, as it is real pathological jealousy is a serious condition and we`re not diving in to that right now
but, what Im saying is, there s nothing wrong to show how you really feel
in some peoples lives, i'm glad you pointed it out as something natural.
as it is usually considered wrong, destructive, again it is wrong to judge!
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Limun: in my opinion, a jealousy is natural ,its something we`re born with ,you can spot it in children , even animals
pathological jealousy is a serious condition and we`re not diving in to that right now
but, what Im saying is, there s nothing wrong to show how you really feel
I agree with you Lim, pathological jealousy is a serious condition and we`re not diving in to that right now
but, what Im saying is, there s nothing wrong to show how you really feel
a healthy dose is just fine, and I know some will disagree but it's natural indeed...
If a partner doesn't show even a tiny bit of it it could be seen as indifference...
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and that changes things.