Help me understand myself..... Seriously (27)
Random_StrangerMade IN, California USA31 Threads 1,183 PostsI know a lot of you out there are very intelligent with degrees and psychology majors and what not. I am wondering if I have a problem. For some reason, seeing people in love or in relationships all lovey dovey, just so happens to make me sick and I will find reasons to bash these people. I could be in a relationship if I want to (my ex), but I feel it wasn't a healthy relationship and therefore, choose to be alone. Is there something wrong with me? I find myself checking women out, and having this slight desire to want to talk to them, but for some reason I can't and the thought of being in a relationship makes me sick to the core. Almost like I hate anyone in a relationship or in love.
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Not trying to bump this up, but I am being serious here. I think I may have a problem. Some of you might think I am joking, but I am not.
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Sounds like you just need time...you don't seem to be lacking any intelligence or insight. I know when I see couples that are close and happy it bothers me, as it would most singles. I don't hate them...just sometimes wonder when or where that person is that would change my mind to jump in. Just keep talking and listening to others on here. No quick fix. Also human nature to bash what we want and don't have...
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you do not have a problem .... in my opinion all of us have that feeling ... not everyone are brave enough to say it out loud though.This is normal human reaction "Why them? Why not me? but all that means you kow who you are and proud of what can you give. The day will come ...
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You are worrying too much I think. When someone comes along that you are interested in you will be willing to put it all on the line for that chance. You will - you have an old soul random stranger and a humor beyond your years...enjoy yourself with your friends on here. 
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I hope you are not seriously acting out these feeling??
Do you find yourself sabatoging freinds and those close to you love relationships??
Are or do you you walk out of or change the channel when a scenen that expresses love (sentimental,emotional, phyiscal) approaches???
Love for a four letter word... encompasses our entire existence, every action, reaction, non-action is steeped within love...
it's not a perfect world and love is a elusive creature because of it.
it's hard to imagine some one at that age being so hateful of the joys of loves.... youth is diffucult I had fairy tales and Black and white television my eyes and ears where not filled with the many illusion that advertising,shows, and movies that inundate todays young adults and teenagers...
I believe you are of the stuff that can and will overcome this feeling of disgust of public affection.
Do you find yourself sabatoging freinds and those close to you love relationships??
Are or do you you walk out of or change the channel when a scenen that expresses love (sentimental,emotional, phyiscal) approaches???
Love for a four letter word... encompasses our entire existence, every action, reaction, non-action is steeped within love...
it's not a perfect world and love is a elusive creature because of it.
it's hard to imagine some one at that age being so hateful of the joys of loves.... youth is diffucult I had fairy tales and Black and white television my eyes and ears where not filled with the many illusion that advertising,shows, and movies that inundate todays young adults and teenagers...
I believe you are of the stuff that can and will overcome this feeling of disgust of public affection.
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Disillusioned?
Alex said it all...in less words...your personal movie of what a relationship looks like...your disappointment at not having what you require...having to settle for less...don't settle for less Faustino...it may take time to find the partner that has the same values as you, that sees the world as you, that has the same reality...you are far from superficial...please, have faith that you are far beyond your years, and she will apppear, no matter how long it amy take...contempt is such a negative emotion...and you are far more than that.....
Alex said it all...in less words...your personal movie of what a relationship looks like...your disappointment at not having what you require...having to settle for less...don't settle for less Faustino...it may take time to find the partner that has the same values as you, that sees the world as you, that has the same reality...you are far from superficial...please, have faith that you are far beyond your years, and she will apppear, no matter how long it amy take...contempt is such a negative emotion...and you are far more than that.....
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sorry i misunderstood your worries ... and did hit submit button
You said it all, boy
Sometimes i think you are Hundred years old.... Good morning!
But who is Sharpton?
You said it all, boy
Sometimes i think you are Hundred years old.... Good morning!
But who is Sharpton?
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Yeah...make your own movie!
Do you HAVE TO find someone? Of course not..
Live your life, enjoy your youth and be with people.
Don't worry about what other folks are doing.
Do you HAVE TO find someone? Of course not..
Live your life, enjoy your youth and be with people.
Don't worry about what other folks are doing.
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I believe he means Al Sharpton. Best way I can describe him is an angry Jesse Jackson, with Don Kings hair. If you know who those two are.
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Are you possibly going through a stage where you are taking care of yourself first Random?
What I mean is maybe you are seeing things wrong in other peoples relationship, Talking down to the relationship because relationship scares the hell out of you and you are refusing to go there again until you resolve your own issues, in your own time, on your own terms.
This may or may not be the case, but either way you are thinking.
What I mean is maybe you are seeing things wrong in other peoples relationship, Talking down to the relationship because relationship scares the hell out of you and you are refusing to go there again until you resolve your own issues, in your own time, on your own terms.
This may or may not be the case, but either way you are thinking.
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since you want opinions heres mine...
there is SOMETHING that made a normal and clever person like you feeling this strange way...theres nothing wrong with you...but what you feel is definately wrong...i think you have to talk to someone to help you determine WHY you re feeling this way...
hope for the best buddy...
there is SOMETHING that made a normal and clever person like you feeling this strange way...theres nothing wrong with you...but what you feel is definately wrong...i think you have to talk to someone to help you determine WHY you re feeling this way...
hope for the best buddy...
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Don't want to be rude. But you need to see a shrink, something is wrong with you. Seriously.
El Diablo
El Diablo
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Maybe you don't really like hetero couples? I dunno dude. If it's not envy or longing for the relationship that they have...maybe you have some sort of "ulterior motive". I'm not suggesting or implying that you are not hetero......just my thoughts.
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just from what I've seen of you in the forums, I think you are an amazing person! I don't feel there is anything wrong w/ you,just that you are having a normal reaction to a normal situation! you were hurt/
disappointed about your break-up and you see what went wrong and now can recognize it in others relationships! and you are just simply not ready to jump back into that kind of situation at this time! at least you are still 'looking' at women..if you weren't then I'd worry if I were you!! lol if we are honest w/ourselves,we all go through some degree of feeling this way depending on the depth of emotion/feelings that we invested into the relationship. it is my opinion that you,my friend,are a very deep/feeling/emotional man and i see nothing wrong w/ that!!! 
disappointed about your break-up and you see what went wrong and now can recognize it in others relationships! and you are just simply not ready to jump back into that kind of situation at this time! at least you are still 'looking' at women..if you weren't then I'd worry if I were you!! lol if we are honest w/ourselves,we all go through some degree of feeling this way depending on the depth of emotion/feelings that we invested into the relationship. it is my opinion that you,my friend,are a very deep/feeling/emotional man and i see nothing wrong w/ that!!!
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Dang! All of you are providing good advice and observations. Suppose you are correct. This I can agree with, along with other inputs from others. That would make sense. I went crazy last night, or so I felt. So I also wanted to apologize to anyone I might have came in and sabotaged in threads. See, the thing that makes me sick and make me frustrated is seeing people who are emotionally dependant. It drives me fricken nuts! I have to see this crap everyday and that is partially the reason why I am feeling like this. Another is other because of problems with my ex I still try to deal with. I somewhat feel a bit like a relationship would be nice, but I have nothing to offer a woman other than my company until I finish school. So I know I have to push the feelings back. Also, I still feel for my ex, but hope she moves on first, seeing how we just didn't click and respectfully, made the mutal choice to be single. It is just kind of hard I guess, but I need this to grow. Thank you everyone who cared enough to post some thoughts and I see who are all my friends. I love you all. I still got more posts to read, but figured at this point I would respond here. Again I thank you all.
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Thanks bro. Maybe you are right. I am deffinetly not what highlander said "A Homo". Everyone is telling me that subconciously I want to be in a relationship again, and I do find myself checking out women. Not to mention the temptation is getting to me, because women keep bringing me photos of their daughters at work who already have a career along with success, which kind of scares me seeing how I haven't gone and finished up school yet. But 2 years from this fall, that shall all change, as I plan on coming back to california with a bachelors degree and a fun career. Nerd 4 Life! 
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