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I was raised to believe that I am just an average nobody.
Anytime I wanted to do anything at all that could even remotely be considered independent or potentially successful I was told that I was being a fool.
It’s not so much that I believed it. But it did quench my desire to pursue a lot of things.
Yes, other people can definitely have a huge influence on our lives.
Either postivive or negative.
Anytime I wanted to do anything at all that could even remotely be considered independent or potentially successful I was told that I was being a fool.
It’s not so much that I believed it. But it did quench my desire to pursue a lot of things.
Yes, other people can definitely have a huge influence on our lives.
Either postivive or negative.
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Do you ever wonder what it would have been like from the beginning if you could have actually chosen your own path and been supported in doing so? I feel one of the cruelest human emotion/condition is apathy.
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It is a scary path if you choose it againts the outer influences..Sometomes, it is a lonely path too..
But, marching to the beat of your own drum is the ONLY way to go, if you want to live up to your potential!!
But, marching to the beat of your own drum is the ONLY way to go, if you want to live up to your potential!!
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I was always me...just me...was weird, was different...the square
peg in the round hole.
But I didn't know about 'the one'...I guess I missed it...I was just me, meandering along, doing my thing..
Whenever someone was great, I thought it was cool....but didn't wonder why me...I never thought of me that much...the body...my consciousness was mostly outside of my body growing up.
I understand about 'steppingup to the plate'.
I understand being all of you, to be all that I am...
And you are right...we are all the 'one'.
peg in the round hole.
But I didn't know about 'the one'...I guess I missed it...I was just me, meandering along, doing my thing..
Whenever someone was great, I thought it was cool....but didn't wonder why me...I never thought of me that much...the body...my consciousness was mostly outside of my body growing up.
I understand about 'steppingup to the plate'.
I understand being all of you, to be all that I am...
And you are right...we are all the 'one'.
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Actually I have a pretty good idea of what it would have been like.
I was extremely naïve when I was young.
I actually believed that elders knew what they were talking about.
How pathetically wrong I was to have trusted them!!!
I was extremely naïve when I was young.
I actually believed that elders knew what they were talking about.
How pathetically wrong I was to have trusted them!!!
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and it's really hard when ya have to accommodate that into a new found feeling within....
i lapse, and wonder which is which often, the butterfly dreaming that it's human or the human dreaming she's a butterfly...
what i also noticed was that all the over achieving i did to do my best to measure up, for a while became a part of that lie...only to wake up and remember
i had actually achieved and done the work!! it was my reality even if driven by an unhealthy motive of "trying to be good enough" to be accepted, to be approved of,
and the irony... i never acknowledged those that did support my strengths but sought always to convince my mother who didn't.
sure am glad i grew out of all that...... now i just am
and happy to step up and be counted next to you
i lapse, and wonder which is which often, the butterfly dreaming that it's human or the human dreaming she's a butterfly...
what i also noticed was that all the over achieving i did to do my best to measure up, for a while became a part of that lie...only to wake up and remember
i had actually achieved and done the work!! it was my reality even if driven by an unhealthy motive of "trying to be good enough" to be accepted, to be approved of,
and the irony... i never acknowledged those that did support my strengths but sought always to convince my mother who didn't.
sure am glad i grew out of all that...... now i just am
and happy to step up and be counted next to you
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a very valuable piece of work....written by Alice Miller
"The Drama of The Gifted Child" i highly recommend.... it assisted me and my healing and growth tremendously...and i often suggest it for my patients and friends
it touches on these issues and beautifully addresses the child within us all
here's to strength and personal empowerment from a clean and healthy ground of being
"The Drama of The Gifted Child" i highly recommend.... it assisted me and my healing and growth tremendously...and i often suggest it for my patients and friends
it touches on these issues and beautifully addresses the child within us all
here's to strength and personal empowerment from a clean and healthy ground of being
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I find this subject so very interesting, thanks Nostress...
I was so oblivious to so much, I wasn't neglected, as such, just left to be...certainly not over-parented....
And yet, after leaving school, was wild, and left home at 15...my Dad didn't talk to me for 6 years, not even look at me...
No-one told me I 'couldn't' growing up.....so I did.
All of it, the good, the bad and the ugly, the addictions, the homelessness, the whole sorry debacle...
But never in all that did I feel a victim of circumstance, or of anything, I was just 'being' and 'doing'...was on a mission that's for sure...took a few years to straighten that one out.
So conflicting upbringing for me, I wasn't told I was a loser, or no good, or not good enough...I just chose it for a time...
But I would not swap one single second of it...not a one...it helped to define me, and to develop resilience.
I was so oblivious to so much, I wasn't neglected, as such, just left to be...certainly not over-parented....
And yet, after leaving school, was wild, and left home at 15...my Dad didn't talk to me for 6 years, not even look at me...
No-one told me I 'couldn't' growing up.....so I did.
All of it, the good, the bad and the ugly, the addictions, the homelessness, the whole sorry debacle...
But never in all that did I feel a victim of circumstance, or of anything, I was just 'being' and 'doing'...was on a mission that's for sure...took a few years to straighten that one out.
So conflicting upbringing for me, I wasn't told I was a loser, or no good, or not good enough...I just chose it for a time...
But I would not swap one single second of it...not a one...it helped to define me, and to develop resilience.
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Great topic Nostress...
I cycle in and out of being the one. When I am, I often exceed my own opinion of my potential. I suspect someday I may lay to rest the me that is not the one, but I'm not done with him quite yet.
I cycle in and out of being the one. When I am, I often exceed my own opinion of my potential. I suspect someday I may lay to rest the me that is not the one, but I'm not done with him quite yet.
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Thank you for the heads up on the book.
I am who I am because of the choices that I made. I have always thought myself to be a strong woman, with a strong mind and spirit.
I never made it to college. Hell,I never even graduated High School. But,*I wasn't pregnant contrary to suggestion.
I never think of those days, not in my conscience mind anyway.
*It just became obvious that it is still there. Lurking in the back of my mind.
I will look forward to finding that book of your suggestion.
Kat
I am who I am because of the choices that I made. I have always thought myself to be a strong woman, with a strong mind and spirit.
I never made it to college. Hell,I never even graduated High School. But,*I wasn't pregnant contrary to suggestion.
I never think of those days, not in my conscience mind anyway.
*It just became obvious that it is still there. Lurking in the back of my mind.
I will look forward to finding that book of your suggestion.
Kat
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i just love your tenacity!!! you go girl!!! 
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And to think.... just one person can make that difference in someone's life.
You can build someone's self-image and self-esteem with words.
What a simple thing and it can help make or break someone's life!
You can build someone's self-image and self-esteem with words.
What a simple thing and it can help make or break someone's life!
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the experimentation of the human mind interacting....
sometimes I wonder if we are just some ones lab rat a double blind study gruop of sorts.
I experienced this, but I, for some reason rebeled against the words and actions done to me before I eventually became the "one" as you so eloquently said....I wonder now if i escaped to soon from the maze and labratory... yeah sometimes I wonder.
In the name of Social Science... these studies and experiments continue...
sometimes I wonder if we are just some ones lab rat a double blind study gruop of sorts.
I experienced this, but I, for some reason rebeled against the words and actions done to me before I eventually became the "one" as you so eloquently said....I wonder now if i escaped to soon from the maze and labratory... yeah sometimes I wonder.
In the name of Social Science... these studies and experiments continue...
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until we are able to choose.....
to say "no....those are your projections...they don't belong to me"
that's why mothers and parents are so powerful .....and it is about time we came back to educating ourselves about that role we play
we cannot even begin to look at the follies of the world and humanity until we look at how ignorantly we treated the subject of educating ourselves as parents.
to say "no....those are your projections...they don't belong to me"
that's why mothers and parents are so powerful .....and it is about time we came back to educating ourselves about that role we play
we cannot even begin to look at the follies of the world and humanity until we look at how ignorantly we treated the subject of educating ourselves as parents.
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It is a shame... I understand the concept of other folks' perceptions and all...
But, in order to be the essential, and true You? We must live in the entire Us. whole, and with intent. It may not be what other want, or even care about... but, I'd rather know I am not led... Where I go may be willingly, or with digging in my heals until it makes sense to Me.
It take alot to sift, and realize 35 years of lies embedded... and time... time to see that I am bad, good, lust, love, sadness, pain, glee, rage, and light...
Wor, and goos luck to those that "pick me"
But, in order to be the essential, and true You? We must live in the entire Us. whole, and with intent. It may not be what other want, or even care about... but, I'd rather know I am not led... Where I go may be willingly, or with digging in my heals until it makes sense to Me.
It take alot to sift, and realize 35 years of lies embedded... and time... time to see that I am bad, good, lust, love, sadness, pain, glee, rage, and light...
Wor, and goos luck to those that "pick me"
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woe, and good luck
sheesh. hands betraying me again 
sheesh. hands betraying me again
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I think this a great post .
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Oh yes been there done that...However now I am an adult and I am the only one that can make me the one...I stopped caring long ago what other people think and now I am just me...Take it or leave it!!!!!!
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I'm the one, always been.
El Diablo
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One day someone walks right up to you and says, "Wow, what a wonderful person standing back here at the edge of the crowd. Come here and let us get to know you better." You shy away under the attention feeling a bit quilty because surely everyone knew you were not the "one" and letting on that you were would only lead to problems. Others begin to join in coaxing you up to the front until you find yourself standing in front of everyone. They are smiling and congratulating you on being the "one". What happened that changed their opinion. Is this a trick? You look for an escape before your world collapses back to nothing. Then you realize the smiles are genuine. You feel a sudden sense of shame in it all. All this time everything you had been told was a lie. You are the "one" and could have been living like it all along.
Isn't it a shame that we listen to what others think we are and let them paint us into the corner of our life? What if you stepped up to the front of the line, grabbed the mike and said, "Pick me, I am the one." In all reality, you are the only "one". Step up and get counted.