Are Looks Important ? Lets find Out. ( Archived) (80)

Fact.

Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their minds.

We men are constantly being slammed for what we are attracted to, I don't understand, can someone enlighten me on this?

If looks were not important I would date the 82 y/o lady next door, she single. A nice lady. Only now because she's 40 yrs older than me, I'm going to be called robber, only after her money or something to that effect.


Or is it about age now? she to old for him. What can he see in her. She's twice his age.

I agree looks are not everything, but this is where you start.

Am I missing something? I don't get it. My experience in this is that women are just as much to blame on this issue as men. In my opinion for what it's worth here, anyone who thinks that looks are not important had better get their heads out of the sand, because it does.

Pete

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Pete I agree,
If looks were not important I would have people all around me all the time. I do have lots of female friends that are not physically attractive at all to me. I guess if the persons personality is good then it automatically makes them look better on the outside. But all at the same time I have seen KNOCKOUTS that personality made them uglier than a rat!!

Sam

I agree your argument holds merit but still I think beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Because what you may consider not beautiful I could see as beautiful which I think is good or otherwise we might all be after the same lady, right?

interesting how our blindness lives in sightedness....


i think this has been said

Woman can fall in love with their eyes too..no doubt.

I have said many times I don't think it is a gender thing..just depends on how someone regardless of their gender.

I personally don't slam men cause I know women are just as guilty of the same things...are we all human???

As far as the dating someone way older than you goes and physical attraction, I think more times than not there is something more to it. Surely there are older people that are quite attractive for their age but do you think a 22 year old bombshell is going to marry an 85 year old guy based on his looks? There may be fond feelings between them but I think most times it is materially motivated. The older person has what the young person wants and the young person has what the older person wants...a trophy be it looks or material possessions.

I really do have to be physically attracted to consider someone for a mate. What my preferences may be might be totally different from the next person. It isn't bad to look for someone who your attracted to physically at all in my mind. I really do believe we are programmed to seek a certain something physically in a mate.

I can see someone very attractive physically to me but the impression they give me is going to be the determiner of whether or not I'd consider wanting to know them further.

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I do think looks are where most people start, but if the realtionshoip is to contiue, it goes deeper than that.

Hi Alex

I feel the same as you Joanie ..Looks can be the initial attraction.... but there are far more ingrediants needed before you reach the icing on the cake ....

Gordie

Looks are important...I don't think anyone has ever disputed that, or bashed someone for saying so. I think the bashing comes in when someone makes it sound as though looks are SO important that they supercede other qualities that should be falling higher in the priority list.

Someone already mentioned that when you get to know someone, if they have a likeable personality they are going to seem more attractive no matter what they look like--so if you prematurely decide that someone is not for you, just because they don't exactly fit into what you think you find attractive, you may be passing up something great.

Given a bit of time (and half a chance), this person's wonderful qualities and your compatibility could develop into some amazing chemistry--which undeniably is more important that simple physical looks.

I think the ones that get "bashed" are the ones who place physical looks (without considering chemistry) so high on the list of priorities that they are willing to say flat out that they would never give that person/relationship a chance because of looks alone. That is bashable...but sweet ironic karma at the same time...if you are dating solely for looks...it will not be long before you yourself are not going to be worthy of dating...looks just don't last...but chemistry and compatibility do. Looks are part of the initial attraction...but plenty of people have known each other for years as friends--not finding each other attractive at all--just to end up in the most intimate and trusting relationship later on...


Sam