To contribute my 2 cents worth, I have found all the replies to this thread, the best ever in a long time. It is also the best in allowing everyone to clearly and dispassionatly express their views and opinions on a highly important issue and none got bashed!! Amazing; wish all forum posts were as civilized and well expressed! Looks of others or of ourselves to others as we may think they see us as opposed as to how they do always needs some re-focusing and is very important to all of us; we cannot escape being in the eye of the beholder nor in our own mindsthis feedback in the forum is excellent in that there is so much that is similar but still unique to each; it has certainly given myself a lot to think over and take another look at...:)
I don't know Roy. One time I had this thing that was made for printing Braille. I wanted to sell it on eBay but I didn't know exactly what to call it so I listed it a "Braille Thingy".
Of course, in the ad I had a picture of it and included a full description of how it works. I just didn't know what to call it.
Well, some blind fellow wrote me a really nasty email calling me all sorts of insensitive things because I had referred to the item as a "Braille Thingy". So obviously blind people are at least using eBay.
I wrote the chap back a very sincere apologetic letter which he graciously accepted. It still amazes me that he got as upset as he did just because someone listed an item on eBay as a Braille Thingy. I mean, who woulda thunk it?
I hear ya Abra. I had trouble typing in braille. My blind supervisor proofread my my typing. A sighted person would really have to be dedicated to proofread their own writing in braille.
I think braille is pretty cool stuff. like the drive in window at the bank in braille. Course driving to the bank might be a problem but then I guess theat is for the blind person not driving in the car. We had braille at the university for the rest rooms. The market for making helping aids is like a goldmine for a creative inventor.
I might as well jump in here and put my 2 cents worth in. Yes there has to be some kind of physical attraction for those of us that can see. If I were blind would it matter? Do the blind search for a mate on there appearance? What is beautiful to one person may be completely different another. Its all in the minds eye. A person that is neat and clean is attractive, there clothes fit them well, the way they carry themselves, the sound of there voice. THen there is the question of what is true beauty? How many over weight women do you see with knock out looks? How many women do you see with the perfect body but not the looks? Are men that go after a beautiful face superficial? I can't answer that. I believe that for anyone to be beautiful they must have a little bit of everything, inside and out. Remember if you stay with that person long enough we will all look old at some point in our lives.
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I'm not sure about the silver polish ... I think I know what's the matter ... Lol
Maybe a rub down with a velvet glove ...
I know what's the matter ... I've been there once or twice ... Your heart goes pitter patter ... I know whats the matter ... Your not sick ... Your just in love ... Ha Ha!
I feel the most beautiful part of a person is their smile and their heart.
I do have to have a certain attraction to the person physically, however I also need the whole package too which includes emotional, mental, and spirtual attractions too.
Physical attraction to me is not the images portrayed in magazines, tv and other media. It is a case by case basis and often I find it is the beauty that eminates from the inside that makes the outside that much more attractive to me too.
I have dated various shapes and sizes so I have no particular physical type. I do however have a particular beauty inside I am seeking and that is the most precious treasure I can personally ask for, with the whole package :)
In the natural order of life we are attracted to beauty. Even in all the animal kingdoms on earth opposites attracted to each other by flashy and stronger displays of attention. This is how the order of creation was designed so our species like others would flourish. Anyone that says looks isn't important is an outright liar even if they don't see themselves as lying. To get upset at another because that person isn't attracted to you is a total waste of time. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and we all have our different tastes to what is beautiful to our eyes.
I think this goes hand in hand with the thread posted by someone about "height"...Why do people dress up...fix their hair..put makeup on...the same reasons male peacocks show off their tails when a peahen is in view...because looks is what catches the eye...but I have looked into a man's handsome face and seen the "vacancy" behind their eyes too. No one's looks are perfect per se...but then love steps in and you don't even see their looks anymore you look into their EYES and see perfection....you've heard the saying i'm sure "One man's trash is another man's treasure" (And i don't mean man literally...i mean mankind as a whole)
I agree looks are important.. to a point. And I will adment the first thing that attracts me to a woman is a beautiful face and a nice body. But it also goes deeper then that, she also has to have a positive energy about her meaning a good personality , a sense of humor and be a kind person... I have ment some knock dead gorgeous women in my time but their personality and attitudes stank, and to me thats the biggest turn off right there.
Wow, I'm impressed, what a great thread! Very deep and from a lot of different perspectives.
I think there has to be some sort of appeal between two people, no doubt at least a little to do with looks. But right in there too is a connection, however small, that encourages me to want to find out if he's interested, then if he is, to get to know him a little better. I go for the eyes - windows to the soul, and of course the body language. He has to be willing to look me in the eyes when we're talking, if he won't then it doesn't matter how good looking he is - he's blowing it...
Looks aren't all that important to me. They might have been back 20 years ago but not anymore. The details that will get me are beautiful eyes and personality.
Of course there are some limits but I've gone into those in a couple other threads like this one.
Pete, you're absolutely 100% right! Attraction plays a huge role and most important, the first role. When you meet someone, a spark is drawn by the attraction between the two, not because the person said "Hello" in a special way. And then if things work out, that person becomes even more beautiful to you. Something has to pull you to them. Personally... I love a great smile, nice straight & white teeth. A man that can dress himself and present himself as if he's got it together. Confidence not cockiness plays a big role to a persons appearance. I have met many good look'n men that lost my attention after they opened their mouth. Silly men... just be yourselves.
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