Trust! (20)
People also do what is best for them without any regaurd for what is best. I really think that many no longer know right from wrong because of a distorted view. If this continues we will be lonely even in a crowd.
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Laughter is important to me. I want to enjoy laughter, and so I commit to bringing happiness with me, i.e., 'being happy'. Honesty, loyalty and trust mean a lot to me. To enjoy honesty, I understand I have 'to be honest'. To have loyal friendships. I have 'to be loyal'. To have trust, I have 'to be trusting'. In other words, I aim 'to be the goal'.
Today, be what you want.
If you want love, be loving.
If you want peace, be peaceful.
If you want fun, be funny.
If you want "new", be different.
If you want adventure, be open.
If you want success, be alive.
If you want joy, be kind.
Be what you want!
Today, be what you want.
If you want love, be loving.
If you want peace, be peaceful.
If you want fun, be funny.
If you want "new", be different.
If you want adventure, be open.
If you want success, be alive.
If you want joy, be kind.
Be what you want!
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"Be what you wish to find, you will be closer to having it."
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Ghandi once said, "You have to be the change you want." Why? Because the mirror cannot change without you. And the world is only a mirror. Remember, you see only your thoughts. If you don't you simply experience more of the same. It is no good saying , "I'll be open with you, as soon as you are open with me." Be first. Be different if you want a different outcome. Be the goal.
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Please write more words of wisdom guys..this is just the therapy that I need after reading some of the other threads here
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"One laugh is worth two tablets".
"The search for 'the meaning of life' is folly.--the meaning of life is made, not found."
The meaning of life is not a search--it is a choice.
"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so, " wrote Shakespeare.
"The search for 'the meaning of life' is folly.--the meaning of life is made, not found."
The meaning of life is not a search--it is a choice.
"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so, " wrote Shakespeare.
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"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so, " wrote Shakespeare.
Example:
Two accidents in quick succession may mean God doesn't care or, you need to take care.
A boss who spends no time with you may mean he doesn't like you, or, that he trusts you.
When he/she doesn't call it may mean the romance is cooling, or, they are simply busy.
A friend acting out of character may mean he/she doesn't live you, or, he/she is calling for help.
Losing your lipstick might mean a world emergency, or, it's time to buy some more.
A speeding ticket might mean the world is out to get you, or, you need to slow down.
A stain on your shirt might mean a drama, or, nothing.
A pink slip might mean the end of your life, or a new beginning.
Showing your emotions might be a sign of weaknesss, or, a show of strength.
A failed job interviews might mean you lost out, or, something even better is in store.
Example:
Two accidents in quick succession may mean God doesn't care or, you need to take care.
A boss who spends no time with you may mean he doesn't like you, or, that he trusts you.
When he/she doesn't call it may mean the romance is cooling, or, they are simply busy.
A friend acting out of character may mean he/she doesn't live you, or, he/she is calling for help.
Losing your lipstick might mean a world emergency, or, it's time to buy some more.
A speeding ticket might mean the world is out to get you, or, you need to slow down.
A stain on your shirt might mean a drama, or, nothing.
A pink slip might mean the end of your life, or a new beginning.
Showing your emotions might be a sign of weaknesss, or, a show of strength.
A failed job interviews might mean you lost out, or, something even better is in store.
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You are so right, Len, and I have puzzled over it, of course. But you can deliberate "why?" until the cows come home and still never find an answer. There will always, sadly, be those like that and it is tough to not eventually have it rub off on you and say "what the hell, it works for everyone else, it may as well work for me too". But rise above it we must, maintain our conscience, even if others show themselves not to be worthy. Because we are worth more than that. I believe I am nothing special but the people who I associate are special, and that's why I do. If someone is not special enough, they are not in my life! If I find someone is a negative influence in my life, I get rid!
The bottom line is the "Pandora's Box" syndrome, we have to have, come what may, HOPE!! If we lose that too, we certainly do have nothing!!
Thank you, Len!!
The bottom line is the "Pandora's Box" syndrome, we have to have, come what may, HOPE!! If we lose that too, we certainly do have nothing!!
Thank you, Len!!
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I like your attitude Quiescent.
Especially liked the quote "The search for 'the meaning of life' is folly.--the meaning of life is made, not found." I've never heard it put that way, but is so true, who said that? I've always like the Shakespeare quote also.
So many people are looking for fulfillment outside themselves, but we must find it inside before we can truly find what we are looking for in another person.
I don't agree with you Rillyniceguy in the OP, I don't feel that the risks outweigh the benefits in finding love. Love can make you a better person, even if it doesn't last. Pain can make you stronger, and you learn and grow from the experience. Back to the Shakespeare quote, it is our thinking that makes it good or bad. Remember the good times, and learn from the bad. I can look back on my failed relationships and see what I've gained from them, and the gain outweighs the pain.
Especially liked the quote "The search for 'the meaning of life' is folly.--the meaning of life is made, not found." I've never heard it put that way, but is so true, who said that? I've always like the Shakespeare quote also.
So many people are looking for fulfillment outside themselves, but we must find it inside before we can truly find what we are looking for in another person.
I don't agree with you Rillyniceguy in the OP, I don't feel that the risks outweigh the benefits in finding love. Love can make you a better person, even if it doesn't last. Pain can make you stronger, and you learn and grow from the experience. Back to the Shakespeare quote, it is our thinking that makes it good or bad. Remember the good times, and learn from the bad. I can look back on my failed relationships and see what I've gained from them, and the gain outweighs the pain.
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i agree dandy, it takes two people to work at a relationship, and when one is doing all the work it's time to go work on something else. life is too short for negativity in our lives good mornign all
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Well I believe I am very trustworthy but that doesn't mean that I haven't met some untrustworthy people. but I learn from each experience. And every wrong relationship brings me closer to the one that is right for me. Not that I seek lots of relationships. I don't fall in and out of love and learn from it in a day, a week or a month...it takes time.
I am not going to blame myself that there are some untrustworthy selfish people but I will learn what i can from this experience. I am not Ghandi and I am not perfect nor do I want to be...then I wouldn't have anything to learn and life would be boring. I am just me and I make mistakes...I learn from them.
But learning trust is an ongoing process...I can't say I trust so that means I will attract trustworthy people. Some people are out for themselves and their own interest. But just because I run across a few bad apples, I won't say all men are a like either. I will learn from my mistakes from the bad apples and why I came to the conclusion that they are bad apples and I will have gained more trust in my own process. We do our best with the information that we have today.
I am not going to blame myself that there are some untrustworthy selfish people but I will learn what i can from this experience. I am not Ghandi and I am not perfect nor do I want to be...then I wouldn't have anything to learn and life would be boring. I am just me and I make mistakes...I learn from them.
But learning trust is an ongoing process...I can't say I trust so that means I will attract trustworthy people. Some people are out for themselves and their own interest. But just because I run across a few bad apples, I won't say all men are a like either. I will learn from my mistakes from the bad apples and why I came to the conclusion that they are bad apples and I will have gained more trust in my own process. We do our best with the information that we have today.
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To alabamabebe:
"Especially liked the quote "The search for 'the meaning of life' is folly.--the meaning of life is made, not found." I've never heard it put that way, but is so true, who said that?"
Freddie Frankl was a psychiatrist.
His uncle was the internationally renowned psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl.
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"Especially liked the quote "The search for 'the meaning of life' is folly.--the meaning of life is made, not found." I've never heard it put that way, but is so true, who said that?"
Freddie Frankl was a psychiatrist.
His uncle was the internationally renowned psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl.
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okay, I will take some reponsibility too. What was my role in the mistakes that were made with this bad apple. Sometimes my part is small, sometimes I wanted to believe what i wanted was true. I wasn't honest with myself. I don't think there is ever just one person to blame. So, yes I agree we do have to be willing to look at the person in the mirrow, that is only person we can change.
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"Without trust, love can never be its full."
Well first love is a personal concept is what one think love is. Trust is just a part of a big picture.
People usually look for love and happiness in others when there is not enough inside them. Love and happiness need to come within.
I will say that respect and communication are fundamental in any relationship with those two the future looks much better.
In my opinion many relationships are destroyed or end because people are not true to themselves, they get into relationships for the wrong reasons deceiving themselves and others. Nothing good can come up out that but resentment and despair.
Another reason why I think relationships don't last besides the one above mention is that people think that by definition the other person belongs to them. Freedom is a wonderful state of being and being with someone does not and shouldn't mean that the person belongs to anyone but oneself.
Day by day I think it over and over and come to the conclusion that if I'm not respected as an individual and my freedom to love and do what makes me happy then I prefer 10 times to be alone. I am a responsible person and know what and why I would like to be and share my life with someone. I am a mature person who would like to find someone who shares the same views but until then I just keep being happy, free and in peace with the life I have constructed for myself.
I am not sure if this helps, but in summary yes I would say that loves is a little selfish and one have to do and what makes one happy and if one's truthful happiness is caring and doing things for others then so be. Trust, I am not so sure is the main ingredient for love.
Take care,
Yami.
Well first love is a personal concept is what one think love is. Trust is just a part of a big picture.
People usually look for love and happiness in others when there is not enough inside them. Love and happiness need to come within.
I will say that respect and communication are fundamental in any relationship with those two the future looks much better.
In my opinion many relationships are destroyed or end because people are not true to themselves, they get into relationships for the wrong reasons deceiving themselves and others. Nothing good can come up out that but resentment and despair.
Another reason why I think relationships don't last besides the one above mention is that people think that by definition the other person belongs to them. Freedom is a wonderful state of being and being with someone does not and shouldn't mean that the person belongs to anyone but oneself.
Day by day I think it over and over and come to the conclusion that if I'm not respected as an individual and my freedom to love and do what makes me happy then I prefer 10 times to be alone. I am a responsible person and know what and why I would like to be and share my life with someone. I am a mature person who would like to find someone who shares the same views but until then I just keep being happy, free and in peace with the life I have constructed for myself.
I am not sure if this helps, but in summary yes I would say that loves is a little selfish and one have to do and what makes one happy and if one's truthful happiness is caring and doing things for others then so be. Trust, I am not so sure is the main ingredient for love.
Take care,
Yami.
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Trust is something that we have all had broken,sort of a cardnial rule isn't it......lol
But not all are one and for me,I give trust until other wise prove.My kindness is not a weakness.And walls keep things out of reach,and you never know just what is on the other side of that wall,blessed am I too have found a few dimonds in the rough.
But not all are one and for me,I give trust until other wise prove.My kindness is not a weakness.And walls keep things out of reach,and you never know just what is on the other side of that wall,blessed am I too have found a few dimonds in the rough.
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I could not have said that any better myself Yes, if you have all this everything else happens naturally.
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Without trust, love can never be its full.
Today, so many people are out for themselves without even trying to be fair or honest. There are so many ways to fool a person in all things.
Even after years of marriage, when things go badly....people try to get all they can and to hurt the other.
It is getting to the point that the risk outways the benefits of finding a love.
To try to find a love to trust must begin with each person themself. Be trustworthy or you will never find a true love.
Without fullfilled trust there will never be a workable relationship for a long and/or a permanent time.
Be what you wish to find, you will be closer to having it.
The foundations of true love are all but destroyed in this modern age.
Do all things decently and in order with a heart of fairness and caring of others. Do this and the foundations can be renewed. If we were to be all that we should be as people, then this site would be empty.