Why???would someone choose a relationship that was codependant (19)
hypothetically speaking of course, which person are you in the above scenario? 
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The one who's trying to be there for a friend and getting smashed up in the meantime! 
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Being there for a friend doesn't mean you have to get dragged into the quicksand with said friend. There's nothing wrong with sticking up for yourself and just saying you're not going to play a part in the "3rd grade mockery" 
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There's nothing going on...please don't mistake me....I'm not a cheater/cheatee and am disgusted by such things....
It's the constant leaning on me.....when I am a little
We hang out a lot in the same circle...and he rarely brings her out with friends
I feel like there is an emotional relationship going on with one....physical with the other....
Why would someone want that?!?!
Am I being "played"...there has NEVER been anything physical
But I'm the one
Do I need to stop answering the phone at this point?????
It's the constant leaning on me.....when I am a little
We hang out a lot in the same circle...and he rarely brings her out with friends
I feel like there is an emotional relationship going on with one....physical with the other....
Why would someone want that?!?!
Am I being "played"...there has NEVER been anything physical
But I'm the one
Do I need to stop answering the phone at this point?????
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Yes, I think you need to stop answering the phone and if this person stops you and asks why your not around just be blunt and up front and say that you have your own matters to attened too right now.
And if this person can't understand then, well dear your better off finding new friends.
Just my 2 cents worth tonight~
And if this person can't understand then, well dear your better off finding new friends.
Just my 2 cents worth tonight~
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I think I would stop answering the phone at this point. If the person is extremely codependent as you have stated, then I think that make you an enabler??? In my honest opinion, that is not fair to you at all.
Just my 2 cents...
Just my 2 cents...
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Why? Because they can. So long as you keep answering the phone, they will continue to call.
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i'm going through that situation,, i fall in love with the guy and the guy told me the same thing and told me promises.. when the girl found out, she freak out.. sad ending, they both hate me now...
lesson learned!!
lesson learned!!
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People do things for different reasons. It's difficult to understand and trully know their motives, as sometimes they themselves may not know why.
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Uncle Paddy says:
'Cos that's what women do, 'an if you stand on the sidelines long enough, you might get some extra perks....
'Cos that's what women do, 'an if you stand on the sidelines long enough, you might get some extra perks....
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Brilliant sweetheart ...... as usually 
I would go on on answering a phone ... talk to him friendly ... as a friend. If he likes talk to her that means she has something to offer as a listener or an adviser. There is nothing wrong with it .... Talk to him about this situation
Cool down and
I would go on on answering a phone ... talk to him friendly ... as a friend. If he likes talk to her that means she has something to offer as a listener or an adviser. There is nothing wrong with it .... Talk to him about this situation
Cool down and
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You're welcome, have a great day, as they say in the U S of A....
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Many many people seek to feel good about them self bye degrading another and or seek pity to get in a woman's pants.
My partner treats me bad or there constantly whining upsetting me or---they are hoping the other person will make them feel better!
It's the perfect sign that the person doing it is also co-dependent!
That's so funny that two people come together saying they love each other but within three years will become so co-dependent that that will both use the other in ways to build their own self image!
My partner treats me bad or there constantly whining upsetting me or---they are hoping the other person will make them feel better!
It's the perfect sign that the person doing it is also co-dependent!
That's so funny that two people come together saying they love each other but within three years will become so co-dependent that that will both use the other in ways to build their own self image!
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Women have a natural nurturing instinct it's part of their primal make up---they want to make the down feel up the sad happy the hurt better---guys know that!!
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Brilliant........ "sweetheart" ......Awww, such a nice expression.......
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Well ... it is brilliant
Wanna hjack
something?
Wanna hjack
something?
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Hi Know......
Seems likes he's playing the game to me.....
Just tell him that your now closed for buisness and moving your counselling service to another country and that you will be uncontactable for the forseable future........
Seems likes he's playing the game to me.....
Just tell him that your now closed for buisness and moving your counselling service to another country and that you will be uncontactable for the forseable future........
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Is it better to be in this 3rd grade mockery than to be in no relationship at all??? I understand the not liking to be alone thing but...really?!?!?
And what about the one who gets called all the time...who has become the "stand in" with none of the physical perks! WHAT IS THAT????
Just confused looking for insight.....