Does anyone read profiles without pictures? ( Archived) (42)

Me I'm getting mine posted,but will not show it,on the first date,old fashioned that way, iguess, if you will
not speak to me without it I will not reply with it.

Kat,
I have read a few profiles here and there without a picture. It's like one of the other ladies said in their post if they read something that catches their eye or thats interesting about them. I tend to look at their usernames and basics about them like their interests height age stuff like that. But I do read the entire profile and if I like what I read then why not and send a message you never know that could be a really cool person to get to know even if it just ends up as friends. Cause a person can never have enough friends. The more the merrier. ;-)

Although it's nice to get the aspect of mutual attraction out of the way early on, it's actually quite nice to get to know someone's heart before the physical attraction thing enters into it.

I knew a gal for three months once before she brought up the subject.
I'm still not sure why she fedexed photos instead of just emailing them, but when I got them, I was not disappointed in the least.

What if you would have been disappointed? What if you really like someone but then find you have absolutely no chemistry? I'm new to all of this so I'm really curious.

Mimi, I think that's the bottom line. No one wants to admit the importance of physyical attraction. We all want to be a bigger person and say "it doesn't matter to me", when in fact it does.

I know there are stories of people are great friends before any type of relationship develops, but I am sure the majority of the time people meet because of a physical first impression.

I'm not saying one is better than the other. I am just willing to admit, that I jump right over the pictureless profiles. If I see a pic of someone I find attractive, I will read the profile that goes with it.

Spark, chemistry, call it what you will, but face to face, whatever it is that draws two people together begins with a physcial attraction.

The difference with the Internet is that we have to forego that initial judgement because even with pictures, we don't know if they are the real thing.

Has anyone been deceived in that way?

Kat

MiMi

I had that happen even with pictures.

A dozen emails. Several hours of im's. A couple phone calls.
Great mental chemistry. We go out and I'm flatlined the entire time. No in-person chemistry at all.

Be safe but meet for coffee asap in my opinion.

Yea you can say im saying this cause i dont have a picture up if you want i dont care. But yes i think the people who wont reply cause they cant see a picture are very shallow. Im glad i dont have a picture up cause when i send a email to some1 and they dont reply if im in there profile as a match i can see how shallow they are and from then on i would not like to get to no them anyway. So it works out for the best. The people that are talking to me for a while in email if they ask me for a pic i will send them one cause i know there not just talking to me cause of the way i look.


Buzzer

I don't read the profiles very often, unless it's a poster in the forums that is new. Shame on me huh?

I have a funny story about a profile with no picture.

A profile from a woman that lives close to me came to my attention. I read the profile and sent an email asking her if the town she lived in was the one close to me or the other town with "Close to" the same name in my state. I asked if she would care to hook up at a local restaurant for dinner and coffee.

Well the response floored me.

Sure I'd meet you for dinner and coffee if you don't mind us being related. It was my Aunt!!!!!!!!!

Good thing I do have a pic or that would have been an unusual dinner date huh