PILIPALACardiff, South Glamorgan, Wales UK4,804 posts
There are three First when my mother died Second when my father died And hopfully the last when my son left home but that was bitter sweet as he was off to University but still hard because he lights my world and makes me laugh.
I've just read all the posts here and though I don't know any of you personally I just want to give all of you hugs for having survived what you did and becomming the people that you are today. I've been down many a path that u have travelled and learned my lessons well.The most important being...we are not victims but survivors. We have all decided to take what was dealt to us and move on as best we can,helping others and ourselves.
Ive been praying about ur Dad,since I s it on another thread.I lost my mom,Dad,and only bro,in the 80s.Ive also been widowed twice.Ive always been a fighter.every marriage was abusive and so was my Father.So I will pray for all of u.Sometimes I look back and wonder how I made it, then I see the grace of God. To all of u
Although I've been through quite a few hard times emotionally relationship wise. I also have to say that my very worst time was when my mother died of liver cancer when I was aged 27. Not only was the actual time of her death hard to bear. But, also the months before when I was caring for her and having to watch her deteoriate day by day knowing there was nothing I could do was difficult too.
If this only happened in february it really is not long ago in terms of grieving time. I don't believe we ever get over losing someone close to us. I think we just come to terms with it and put it to one side and try to carry on with our lives as best we can.
I know it's a age old phrase but "Time does heal" or at least partly heal and the positive thing is your mother is no longer suffering and at peace now
I understand, my mom had altzheimers and I watched her go down hill for quite a few years. It was horrible to see that happen. No one can know what it's like to be without your mother untill it happens to you..
i feel ya shipoker - my husband died of cancer in sept 2006 but it seems like only yesterday - i have no clue as to where to turn or what to do - i feel totally lost without him - when you figure things out, i can sure use some help
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