older women. ( Archived) (15)

hey yall. i've been tossing this question around in my head now for an hour so i'm lookin to (hopefully) get some answers. anyway, so i come here a lot to this site. i've always had a thing for older women for some reason. anyway so i get more mail from older women lookin for guys more their own age. when i say older, i mean like women in their 30s-40s. when i think about the age difference i dont think it would matter much. i was with a 42 y/o woman last year (wow the things she showed me.) haha anyway my question is why on this site the older ladies that i described earlier wont give a guy, eh, i dont know, in their mid-twenties a shot?

Personally while I may find some younger men "attractive" .... the thought of a long term relationship rarely enters my head because while most of these men can be educated, have a good job etc. etc. etc. ....... the depth and maturity that I seek has not developed yet.

My daughter has friends who are around 21 to 28 ........... and that convinces me even more that while sure guys this age can be fun, they are definitely at a different stage in life. Its difficult enough trying to find someone similiar to my own age that wants the same type of relationship that I desire; never mind fishing in a school of "young" fish.

I believe its more of a maturity thing. Younger guys are great to look at and to play with but to have a long term relationship? they are not ready.

They need to play for a while and im done with that time in my life. Of course if I met a very mature younger man- well I would of course think about a change in my opinion.

Well, I have dated way younger guys, but we had a lot in common, and truely liked each other.
I have woman friends who have married guys 15 and 17 years younger than themselves, and they have been together for YEARS and get along fine!
Age doesn't affect them at all.

I am 41. I have had messages and such from younger men .. in their 20s ... My problem with it is that I have a son who is 21 and it just feels kind of strange dating someone so close to his age. PLUS, I feel like younger men have a lot more living to do and I am looking for something more serious.

I agree with what the other women said....I like younger men alot..it is just the maturity thing...and the last guy I dated that was much younger (11yrs)wants children...

Wish I could have that life to do over...he is a great guy too..alot of men my age are much more interested in younger women...so it seems
either younger or older men is where the attraction lays..I also think men and womens life stages come at differn't ages....we don't match up much..

The main concern I have with responding to younger men is that some want the option to have children. As women grow older that option is no longer available or the risk of having a child is too great. Men always have the option to father children. It seems that men my age are looking for younger women to keep that option open unless they have already fathered children.

Well here's why I wouldn't... because I'd hate to feel like the older woman.. I would be too paranoid and insecure that they would be thinking my body was *old*.. I'd rather be with someone whose body had been around the block a bit, so that I didn't feel out of place. Also I worry be wondering what other people thought about me being a *Cradle snatcher*

So it would be a waste of time and no fun for me dating someone younger.

Have You seen the movie Highlander.. where he is immortal and stays young.. and his wife (Heather) becomes old and crumbly.. I'd worry that in time we would look like THAT!

Because some women just are not into younger men that is all. Everyone has their own preference just like you.

Honestly I prefer someone my age and older. I dated a guy who was about 6 years younger than me and as much as he was good looking and a nice guy I just wasn't comfortable and we didn't want the same things and it just turned me off. That was the last time I dated someone younger than me. I am just not attracted to younger people I guess.

It wouldn't hurt you as well to maybe give women around your age a chance either. Maybe your being too focused on older women and missing out on possibly meeting someone that would suit you more or make you happy.

I mean unless your just looking for an older women for fantasy purposes LOL But hey whatever floats your boat dude!

Good luck to you none the less :)