Losing someone special (19)
eyewoodbegoodRichfield, Utah USA10 Threads 136 PostsIt is looking like my 5th winter alone is going to be the worst one yet. My mother has terminal cancer and doesn't want to take the chemo anymore. I can't blame her, it is poison that doesn't seem to be working anyway. My father doesn't want to live without her, so he is going to give up his meds. They have been together for 60-1/2 years now. It will definately be good to have the good friends I have for love and support.
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I may not know you,but I know what you're dealing with......been down that road.
Keep strong for urself and them.
Hugs to you.
Jen
Keep strong for urself and them.
Hugs to you.
Jen
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not knowing either you or your parents, my heart goes out to you as you are left in sorrow at the loss, but would really like see them suffer anymore with or without their loved one, i can not imagine what you or they are going through at the moment, all i know is that i would not like to be left alone after spending over 60 years with some one,
with love and support Di
with love and support Di
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My father died young.
2 years ago I got the dreaded middle- of- the- night- phone call, for my mom,(That she was on her way, and was gone 11 hours later).
I lost one of my best friends 3 weeks after my mom, and 2 brothers in the past 3 years.
It is that way as we get older, we start to lose the special people, and we are left to grieve, and feel lonesome for them.
I now understand Melancholia, and fear I will have a pretty bad case of it in my elder years, but sentimental people are just that way.
I keep great pictures, and hold the good memories near and dear, but I understand the sad feelings that still take over, when you least expect them to.
All you can do is to let those feelings come, and they will go away when it is time,(no matter how long that is)!
You will know when the time is, because you will feel it.
It is just now that I am getting back to feeling myself again,since my mom died, but I needed that time to do the grieving I guess.
2 years ago I got the dreaded middle- of- the- night- phone call, for my mom,(That she was on her way, and was gone 11 hours later).
I lost one of my best friends 3 weeks after my mom, and 2 brothers in the past 3 years.
It is that way as we get older, we start to lose the special people, and we are left to grieve, and feel lonesome for them.
I now understand Melancholia, and fear I will have a pretty bad case of it in my elder years, but sentimental people are just that way.
I keep great pictures, and hold the good memories near and dear, but I understand the sad feelings that still take over, when you least expect them to.
All you can do is to let those feelings come, and they will go away when it is time,(no matter how long that is)!
You will know when the time is, because you will feel it.
It is just now that I am getting back to feeling myself again,since my mom died, but I needed that time to do the grieving I guess.
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Thank you Jen, I appreciate your support very much. I think my parents knew something was going to happen soon. They pleaded with me 1-1/2 years ago to build their coffins for them. I finally agreed knowing it was the ultimate way to show my love for them.
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Thank you Di, for your support. It is definately a rough road ahead for everyone in the family........Kelly
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My heart goes out to you for the many things you have endured the past several years. I am glad that you are feeling better now. Thank you for your story....Kelly
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Kelly...I can feel your sorrow and anguish. I have lost so many loved ones in the past few years, I am at a loss to the plain tha hurt and even the anger I have felt towards God. But if you believe in God, then you know that He has it all under control If not, know that there are many of us here, that wish you peace during this difficult time. I surely do want you to know that we care..........Starlin
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i know how that feelz i lost ma grandmother she was like ma mother when i was fifteen and i broke down into peasez. i lived wit her frm tha moment i steped into this world and she was ma mum an will always b ma mum.
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Seeing as this has to do with Cancer. I must mention the alternative treatment Essiac Tea. I wrote in provate telling him I thought his parents decision was quite noble, and to tell him about the tea. I was pleased to hear he already ordered it. You have nothing to lose by trying it but your life. Peace everyone. For those that missed my thread on this subject, it's
Alternative cures, and Natural remedies
Not hijacking, just giving people a chance to live. Peace
Alternative cures, and Natural remedies
Not hijacking, just giving people a chance to live. Peace
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Thank you Starlin, I have questioned God's way of doing things many times, but when it is said and done, we always find peace, and happiness again. I believe that all the pain and sorrow we endure makes us better people, and more in tune with our spiritual side.
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I am praying the Essiac tea is the blessing I am searching for in helping my Mother. I was very angry when I researched this and read about how this has been covered up by the government for many years now.
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wow been there done that,
A hug I will think of u in my prayers, to have the love and support u need .
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you have my prayers for comfort as well as for your parents.
I admire your love for them and miss my own dad reading your words.
They are lucky to have a cool son like you.
Scott
I admire your love for them and miss my own dad reading your words.
They are lucky to have a cool son like you.
Scott
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Oh, my friend, what pain you're experiencing. Lost my own mother to cancer over 30 years ago; lost my dad to it 1 year ago. Yours is not an easy road. I pray for your strength and understanding. I swear on all that I hold Holy that there is a Grand Plan in this experience! (Weren't you LEAD to join CS?)
I pray for your parents to leave GENTLY. I pray for you to find peace and understanding. Having just found my soulmate here on CS, I completely understand your father's reluctance to continue without your mother. Remember, it is their decision, and they do not want to leave YOU! They just cannot imagine life without one another. What a very SPECIAL relationship they have had!
You have a friend here on CS, as I promised to help anyone who has to deal with this.
If you need a shoulder, feel free to email; I'm pretty good at dealing w/suffering and/or death. Not only did I watch my parents die, I have been very near death myself.
Be strong. My prayers are with you!
Blessings, my friend
-J
you're experiencing. Lost my own mother to cancer over 30 years ago; lost my dad to it 1 year ago. Yours is not an easy road. I pray for your strength and understanding. I swear on all that I hold Holy that there is a Grand Plan in this experience! (Weren't you LEAD to join CS?)I pray for your parents to leave GENTLY. I pray for you to find peace and understanding. Having just found my soulmate here on CS, I completely understand your father's reluctance to continue without your mother. Remember, it is their decision, and they do not want to leave YOU! They just cannot imagine life without one another. What a very SPECIAL relationship they have had!
You have a friend here on CS, as I promised to help anyone who has to deal with this.
If you need a shoulder, feel free to email; I'm pretty good at dealing w/suffering and/or death. Not only did I watch my parents die, I have been very near death myself.
Be strong. My prayers are with you!
Blessings, my friend
-J
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So sorry...
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My grandfather did the same thing this past spring and watching his life slowly ebbing away was torture and worse was to watch what it did to my grandmother. Now she's alone and lost, they were everything to each other. They were also together for 60 years and I believe that when a spouse passes away they leave behind a broken partner, someone who doesn't know how or have the capacity to go on anymore. My heart breaks for you because I've seen this experience firsthand and I know exactly how much it hurts, even though it is their choice and we must respect it, that doesn't mean we don't feel the pain and hurt as well. I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers for you to have strength, courage and peace as you face this phase in your life. It is not going to be easy but in time you will find you can make peace with it in your own way, your parents share an unending love and thats true and rare, you were lucky to be a part of that love.
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My Essiac tea shipment arrived today
I am ready to help my mother beat this cancer once and for all.
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