Fear of Commitment....myth created by women? (18)
Sorry...just to clarify...usually the term "fear of commitment" applies to men...do men think women just made this up to justify break ups?...and do women stand by this comment as being true?
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As a current term, "issue", perhaps a bit. As a concept or reality, no. And I would say that the same fear does apply to women, though often not for the same reasons as men.
Actually, I think many women are afraid of the men who are only too willing to commit, and probably should be committed.
It is a human issue. But I get your point and, no, I don’t think it’s a female invention as such. I think there is some truth to it. I further think that it is linked to young women dating men their own age (all obvious joking aside). You forget that women mature socially much earlier than males.
Just some feed back and only from one male.
Actually, I think many women are afraid of the men who are only too willing to commit, and probably should be committed.
It is a human issue. But I get your point and, no, I don’t think it’s a female invention as such. I think there is some truth to it. I further think that it is linked to young women dating men their own age (all obvious joking aside). You forget that women mature socially much earlier than males.
Just some feed back and only from one male.
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I have been committed to rehab before so committment does not bother me. I figure they got their straps and I got my straps. Hey, we can both go crazy together.
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commitment? Whats that?
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I am asking the question because i see so many times with my friends they are with a great guy, things are going along smoothly, they are enjoying each others company..but as soon as its time to make that next move (which includes the "ultimate" committment)somehow the guy seems to lose interest...
Now to be fair i've asked the question to see if perhaps men feel that women use this term against them just because they can't handle the fact that their relationship has ended...
Now to be fair i've asked the question to see if perhaps men feel that women use this term against them just because they can't handle the fact that their relationship has ended...
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I believe fear of committment is a real fear. Once one has committmented themselves to something there can be a fear that they can't back out. I have also heard the term referred to as 'cold feet'. Some committments can be very costly in different ways. One may believe that once they have made a committment they can lose their own identity or sense of self. One should make sure before one enters a committment that it isn't a binding contract unless both are bound by it.
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I don't think it's as much a fear of commitment than it is a desire for variety, whether he acts on it or not...most men outgrow this eventually, though many don't...and some that do grow back into it in time...damn, if I was woman I'd take the easy way out and be a lesbian!
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too funny...sometimes i wish i could be...but then again i have the same "fear of commitment" now myself...after 16 years with a great guy i am finding it very hard to trust anyone...and besides i am enjoying living alone after raising my kids and taking care of a husband it is "all about me" now...kinda nice for a change
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I'm terrified of commitments
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I think it is real and can go both ways. Someone holding out for what they believe may be a chance at something better or afraid to be tied to just one.
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I think it goes both ways and depends on what transpired in the last relationship.
After 10 years of being pretty much "alone", which wasn't totally by choice, I'm looking to make that step with the right one.
After 10 years of being pretty much "alone", which wasn't totally by choice, I'm looking to make that step with the right one.
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I think some of the fear too might be personal in regards to feeling you can be a good partner.
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Life is too short and too precious not to share with someone else. Commitment is a choice a person..man or woman makes one day at a time. Commitment is a choice, not an emotion, or feeling, etc, but a choice to be faithful to the person you've given your heart, body, and soul to. You just have to find a person man or woman who believes you are worth that commitment and who themselves can be trusted, and a person whom you will love to the same depth in your soul
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"lack of commitment" most often just means that here was a lack of communication about what both partners were going to expect from each other. All too common!
"fear of commitment" is an entirely different thing. That just translates to a fear of losing freedom or not being ready to settle down.
"fear of commitment" is an entirely different thing. That just translates to a fear of losing freedom or not being ready to settle down.
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I think true love helps to take away the fear of committment.
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