Child adoption question. ( Archived) (25)

Dec 17, 2007 10:32 AM CST Child adoption question.
lenababi
lenababilenababiSanta Barbara, California USA216 Threads 14 Polls 1,746 Posts
Ok so I'm pregnant and I don't want the biological father to actually be the father on the birth certificate. How can i go about having the man i'm seeing legally adopt the baby. Seen as he left shortly after we found out i don't think he should be considered the father.

I'm just curious if i wanted to do this how it would work.
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Dec 17, 2007 10:35 AM CST Child adoption question.
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
That sounds like a question for a lawyer to handle. Nevada law could be different than other states. Good luck to you!!
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Dec 17, 2007 10:35 AM CST Child adoption question.
mbcasey
mbcaseymbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA68 Threads 7 Polls 16,449 Posts
Sorry...California...
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Dec 17, 2007 10:36 AM CST Child adoption question.
I think that on the birth certificate you can have "father unknown". Really though, I think the biological father should be named, even if only so he has to pay financially for his child.

I am sure a solicitor could advise you on adoption, but maybe wait a little longer?

Good luck babe!hug
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Dec 17, 2007 10:38 AM CST Child adoption question.
lenababi
lenababilenababiSanta Barbara, California USA216 Threads 14 Polls 1,746 Posts
Like I said i was just curious. But the guys been so great and if we are still together after a couple years why not make him the legal father.
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Dec 17, 2007 10:38 AM CST Child adoption question.
twinkles1994
twinkles1994twinkles1994Vancouver, Washington USA84 Threads 2,258 Posts
My best friends brother was put on the birth certificate of his girlfriends baby and he wasn't the father. She was pregnant when they got together and when the baby was born, she just wrote his name in the spot for the father when filling out the birth certificate.
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Dec 17, 2007 10:39 AM CST Child adoption question.
gentlepaws
gentlepawsgentlepawsAny town, Ontario Canada1,019 Threads 13 Polls 9,583 Posts
Excellent advise.
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Dec 17, 2007 10:40 AM CST Child adoption question.
lenababi
lenababilenababiSanta Barbara, California USA216 Threads 14 Polls 1,746 Posts
I always thought the father had to sign away his rights??
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Dec 17, 2007 10:45 AM CST Child adoption question.
twinkles1994
twinkles1994twinkles1994Vancouver, Washington USA84 Threads 2,258 Posts
I don't know what it's like in california, but if your not married, before a name for a father can be put on the birth certificate there has to be a paternity affidavit signed. Same in Oregon. Essentially what that is, the guy whose name is being put there signs a paper pretty much saying "Yes I'm the father!"
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Dec 17, 2007 10:56 AM CST Child adoption question.
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA69 Threads 7 Polls 4,761 Posts
It's a sad truth that Father's usually have very little rights in situations like this.
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Dec 17, 2007 10:59 AM CST Child adoption question.
twinkles1994
twinkles1994twinkles1994Vancouver, Washington USA84 Threads 2,258 Posts
Sometimes that's not a bad thing, it all depends on what type of guy the father is.
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Dec 17, 2007 11:03 AM CST Child adoption question.
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA69 Threads 7 Polls 4,761 Posts
I know...I know....


I have a brother who's never met his Dad. My Dad legally adopted him. I've never viewed him as a step brother, or anything other than my brother....

I still think situations like that are sad. Life wasn't designed to be lived that way.
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Dec 17, 2007 11:06 AM CST Child adoption question.
twinkles1994
twinkles1994twinkles1994Vancouver, Washington USA84 Threads 2,258 Posts
Well in a perfect world it wouldn't be. On the flip side though there are women that as soon as they start dating a guy have their kids call that guy daddy. I knew someone like that and it really bothered me.
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Dec 17, 2007 11:11 AM CST Child adoption question.
lenababi
lenababilenababiSanta Barbara, California USA216 Threads 14 Polls 1,746 Posts
No, I'd never do that. I probably won't even go about doing this. Depends on the whole marriage situation. I'm not even sure if i'm going to list anyone as the father.
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Dec 17, 2007 11:14 AM CST Child adoption question.
diogenes
diogenesdiogenesLongview, Texas USA69 Threads 7 Polls 4,761 Posts
My step kids started calling me Dad on their own. Neither thier Mother nor I ever pressured them to call me Dad. When they did I was very proud. Their Mother won't allow them to talk to me anymore, but when she's not looking they'll still sneak over and hug me. I love that!
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Dec 17, 2007 11:17 AM CST Child adoption question.
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
Yeah, ask a solicitor around your area. You are asking legal questions of that matter on CS?

We know you here since a while enough to have feelings for you.I really see you like a little sister.
You seem to come from a strong family, middle class maybe?

Pity to hear such a story. This is not what i really wanted for you.I'm old enough to say that a baby is not a doll.No matter how much financial help you might get, you need to be emotional mature and stable to become a mother. See Britney Spears?
Think seriously!

PS: I'm sorry lenababi, i know you will hate me for this, but these words are of someone who likes you!



wine
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Dec 17, 2007 11:20 AM CST Child adoption question.
cristina
cristinacristinaLisbon, North Holland Netherlands286 Threads 10 Polls 17,243 Posts
from someone who likes you...

hug
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Dec 17, 2007 11:21 AM CST Child adoption question.
lenababi
lenababilenababiSanta Barbara, California USA216 Threads 14 Polls 1,746 Posts
Thanks, well like I said i'm not going to have some guy i've know for 2 months take half of the legal rights to my child. I was just curious about the actual rights that the baby's father was entitled seen as we werent married and barely dating.
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Dec 17, 2007 11:21 AM CST Child adoption question.
twinkles1994
twinkles1994twinkles1994Vancouver, Washington USA84 Threads 2,258 Posts
I know you wouldn't do that. hug
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Dec 17, 2007 11:25 AM CST Child adoption question.
Dominatrix
DominatrixDominatrixDomiville, England UK61 Threads 2 Polls 1,065 Posts
over here (UK) if you are not married the mother is the only person allowed to register the birth

and you can put john smith or donald duck as the fathers name if you wish

or simply write father unknown

i know someone who put an imaginary name down as the dad, and when her son was old enough, she told him the truth, she said, it was because she didnt want his birth cert to have father unknown on it

and he seems to have grown up a nice young man
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