Online Evaluating ( Archived) (26)

Dec 24, 2007 3:47 AM CST Online Evaluating
Detente
DetenteDetenteNorth West, England UK48 Threads 1 Polls 2,742 Posts
So, there's been quite a few broken hearts on evidence over the past few weeks, and several over the last couple of days.

It makes you wonder why some still keep using these sorta sites to find what so many of us see as the holy grail - real, and very true love.

So, I'm wondering what we can do to evaluate a personality, in this e-environment, more accurately.

What techniques do you use? How do you go about determining whether a person is trustworthy enough to open up to in a romantic fashion?

Share away good people.wine

Oh, and finally, bah humbug!mumbling

laugh

cheers
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Dec 24, 2007 3:49 AM CST Online Evaluating
rivame
rivamerivamemelbourne, Victoria Australia54 Threads 3 Polls 4,601 Posts
dam stop asking stupid questionsmumbling

and give some dam answers instead....

laugh laugh
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Dec 24, 2007 3:52 AM CST Online Evaluating
Shadow_lover
Shadow_loverShadow_loverWest Palm, Florida USA41 Threads 12 Polls 1,317 Posts
LOLrolling on the floor laughing
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Dec 24, 2007 3:52 AM CST Online Evaluating
lovebandit
lovebanditlovebanditsomewhere, USA1 Threads 171 Posts
I think sometimes when we are lonely, we often use are hearts, when we should use are heads.dunno
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Dec 24, 2007 3:53 AM CST Online Evaluating
Even though I am on this site, I really don't think you can get to know someone through the internet. The only time you really get to know them is when you meet. Even phonecalls, and msn type conversations do not let you know the real person.

And more importantly, I truly believe that there has to be that 'spark' when you meet.

So, what the heck am I doing here??? Oh, I know! Talking rubbish on the forums, and having a damned good flirt!laugh
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Dec 24, 2007 3:53 AM CST Online Evaluating
lovebandit
lovebanditlovebanditsomewhere, USA1 Threads 171 Posts
Hello Rivame!wave
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Dec 24, 2007 3:54 AM CST Online Evaluating
countrygirl62
countrygirl62countrygirl62Taylorsville, Utah USA13 Threads 2 Polls 545 Posts
Don't believe everything that they say.

For example a receding hair lines, means thier bald. Just accept it.

When they start making excuses, WATCH OUT!

Watch for the signs, take your time, only fools rush in.

Wait a minute, don't listen to me, I am singlemoping moping and Divorced, and have not had a long term relationship for years, not sure I want to.. hmm better not listen to meconversing
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Dec 24, 2007 4:02 AM CST Online Evaluating
Detente
DetenteDetenteNorth West, England UK48 Threads 1 Polls 2,742 Posts
grin

I must learn to speak in riddles and rhetoric...you seem to believe it answers so much!wine
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Dec 24, 2007 4:02 AM CST Online Evaluating
sexophone
sexophonesexophoneGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden5 Threads 266 Posts
always have it at the back of your mind that who ever it is you are corresponding with is probably as smart as you are or twice as smart so you don't have any listof things to watchout for except to trust your instincts and arm yourself with cs's list of signs of a lying or fraudlent ...suitor.
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Dec 24, 2007 4:03 AM CST Online Evaluating
Detente
DetenteDetenteNorth West, England UK48 Threads 1 Polls 2,742 Posts
thumbs up
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Dec 24, 2007 4:03 AM CST Online Evaluating
Detente
DetenteDetenteNorth West, England UK48 Threads 1 Polls 2,742 Posts
Spot on!wine
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Dec 24, 2007 4:18 AM CST Online Evaluating
rivame
rivamerivamemelbourne, Victoria Australia54 Threads 3 Polls 4,601 Posts
damm if i used my head ...

there would be a lot of frustrated

now hearts are a different matter.....

much easier on the headdancing

hi lovebandit and merry xmas...santa waving christmas happy
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Dec 24, 2007 4:44 AM CST Online Evaluating
bajanblue
bajanbluebajanblueSpeightstown, Saint Peter Barbados344 Threads 1 Polls 3,724 Posts
I use the same techniques I use in real life. Listen, read and observe.

Then I ignore any reservations I might have and throw my bonnet over the windmill.rolling on the floor laughing christmas happy yay
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Dec 24, 2007 5:32 AM CST Online Evaluating
firstllight
firstllightfirstllightStrasburg, Virginia USA6 Threads 1 Polls 815 Posts
Even with all the resources we have here I have to agree with Karen, you can't really know someone until you meet and spend time together.

I met a guy that said he was a social drinker.
Turns out anytime he is not working is a social occasion.

I met a guy that said he was old fashioned and likes to treat his women as ladies.
Turns out he believes that women have no justifiable opinions.

I met a guy who said he was smart and creative.
Turns out he truly believes he is smart and creative.
* laugh

*Sorry that was an inside joke between myself and I.
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Dec 24, 2007 5:36 AM CST Online Evaluating
sexophone
sexophonesexophoneGothenburg, Vastra Gotaland Sweden5 Threads 266 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing laugh
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Dec 24, 2007 5:49 AM CST Online Evaluating
Lagoona22
Lagoona22Lagoona22Bugibba, Majjistral Malta161 Threads 11 Polls 10,711 Posts
Ditto...to the letter....as they say in the theatre, it aint over til the fat lady sings.....with online dating, you never know who or what you're dealing with until you've met, felt the spark of interest, spent that dinner date together, and kissed goodbye...and even then you don't know.....
In profiles, a lot of people present themselves in the best possible light, let's call it creative licence...from the best photo of themselves that's 7 years out of date, to avoiding entirely to mention that they're actually still married, or in a relationship...it's called spreading your bets.....that's why I've posted the ugliest picture possible, and present myself as a complete twit....you're going to be delighted when you actually meet me!!....laugh rolling on the floor laughing
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Dec 24, 2007 6:05 AM CST Online Evaluating
morganlee
morganleemorganleeQawra, Majjistral Malta27 Threads 1 Polls 4,368 Posts
Because of where i live i mainly get emails from very young men , who think i have a big bank account and should be grateful for the interest. When i politely tell them 'No thanks your young enough to be my son!' i get abusive emails in response. (think i have the biggest blocked list on CS!)

Dont expect to meet the man of my dreams here, but hope to meet new friends on the forums.
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Dec 24, 2007 6:29 AM CST Online Evaluating
Eupho
EuphoEuphoWild Wild South West, England UK49 Threads 12 Polls 6,581 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing @ that..

But I totally agree with the first part. thumbs up
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Dec 24, 2007 6:34 AM CST Online Evaluating
FlowerOfTheSnow
FlowerOfTheSnowFlowerOfTheSnowMalaga, Andalusia Spain23 Threads 2,212 Posts
Well ...

The first and most important question is "how many oil wells have you got?" As soon as the answer is "lots" then you dive straight in as you just "know" the person is trustworthy!!! laugh
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Dec 24, 2007 6:41 AM CST Online Evaluating
Aries01
Aries01Aries01Kent, England UK47 Threads 4 Polls 2,732 Posts
I think u touched a few delicate spots there grin

I think e-romance is every bit as random as the normal kind, and in a way even more so because people can tell little 'white lies' smile.. however having been used to 'random' in the days of yore.. I would say the same rules apply..

Do ye like the look of eachother
Do ye share the same/similiar interests
Do ye find it easy to chat and get along
Do ye respect one another

with a little delving the above should become apparent and an online relationship can grow into something stronger...smile
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