"Courage to Change" (78)
i've read that, or something similar somewhere before!
so true!!!
so true!!!
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Janurary 14
If someone dislikes me or resents something I have done, I ought first consider whether it was I who generated the dislike or resentment. Was it something I did? Is it something I should make amends for? If so, am I inclined to justify what I did when it really wasn't right? ANswering these questions will give me good practice in being honest with myself.
If I was hurtful, and I make excuses to myself for what I did, I am building a second wall between me and the person I injured. Let me tear the first wall down by being honest and honestly acknowledging my fault.
What a relief it is to acknowledge that I am human, that I do make mistakes, and that I am willing to correct them. I can't help liking myself better after the air has been cleared. In solidifying a friendship, I become a better friend to myself.
If someone dislikes me or resents something I have done, I ought first consider whether it was I who generated the dislike or resentment. Was it something I did? Is it something I should make amends for? If so, am I inclined to justify what I did when it really wasn't right? ANswering these questions will give me good practice in being honest with myself.
If I was hurtful, and I make excuses to myself for what I did, I am building a second wall between me and the person I injured. Let me tear the first wall down by being honest and honestly acknowledging my fault.
What a relief it is to acknowledge that I am human, that I do make mistakes, and that I am willing to correct them. I can't help liking myself better after the air has been cleared. In solidifying a friendship, I become a better friend to myself.
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Well going back to my old Transcendental Meditation days... No one can do anything to you that you don't allow.
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Yep
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Janruary 15
I need'nt explore how I'll feel about something that might occur in the future. I don't actually know how I'll feel, and it may never happen. So when I feel leaving the present, I'll remind myself that the future is not today's problem.
"Worry never robs tommorow of its sorrow; it only saps today of of its strenght." ~A. J. Cronin
I need'nt explore how I'll feel about something that might occur in the future. I don't actually know how I'll feel, and it may never happen. So when I feel leaving the present, I'll remind myself that the future is not today's problem.
"Worry never robs tommorow of its sorrow; it only saps today of of its strenght." ~A. J. Cronin
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Janurary 16
At times, we have all wondered if there is hope for us. But, in fact, we can all succeed at finding peace of mind. we can all achieve self-respect. The mosy financially successful person may be proud of their achievements but it doesn't satisfy them. By the same token, a major failure doesn't define a person. When we understand our actions aren't who we are, we will not feel trapped by a failure and we can persue the greater prize of becomming a better person.
Today we may be troubled by a recent failure or haunted by an old one. We are embarrased by it and feel we have lost the high regard of our friends. This failure can propel us into greater wisdom and stronger understanding of how to live life with value.
Failure is an event, never a person. ~William D. Brown
At times, we have all wondered if there is hope for us. But, in fact, we can all succeed at finding peace of mind. we can all achieve self-respect. The mosy financially successful person may be proud of their achievements but it doesn't satisfy them. By the same token, a major failure doesn't define a person. When we understand our actions aren't who we are, we will not feel trapped by a failure and we can persue the greater prize of becomming a better person.
Today we may be troubled by a recent failure or haunted by an old one. We are embarrased by it and feel we have lost the high regard of our friends. This failure can propel us into greater wisdom and stronger understanding of how to live life with value.
Failure is an event, never a person. ~William D. Brown
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Janurary 18
The way we see the problem, is the problem. ~Stephen R. Covey
Many of us have a mind-set that keeps us on a treadmill. It's not for lack of effort that our live's reel out of control. We struggle to move forward. We work hard to manage the unmanageable. But with all our busy efforts, we can't see that we are continously recycling the same problem over & over.
The solution we need may be right before our eyes. Our denial is confusing us; we don't even know we are denying anything. We cannot solve our problems clearly from the inside. That's what friends do for us. They reflect back to us what we are missing. That's why we have to have good talks with others that have walked the same path that we are on. The strongest, most powerful people have wise advisers who show them things they don't know. They accept the role of seeker and learner because that is the way they enhance themselves.
The way we see the problem, is the problem. ~Stephen R. Covey
Many of us have a mind-set that keeps us on a treadmill. It's not for lack of effort that our live's reel out of control. We struggle to move forward. We work hard to manage the unmanageable. But with all our busy efforts, we can't see that we are continously recycling the same problem over & over.
The solution we need may be right before our eyes. Our denial is confusing us; we don't even know we are denying anything. We cannot solve our problems clearly from the inside. That's what friends do for us. They reflect back to us what we are missing. That's why we have to have good talks with others that have walked the same path that we are on. The strongest, most powerful people have wise advisers who show them things they don't know. They accept the role of seeker and learner because that is the way they enhance themselves.
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Janurary 19
Today, I seek to become a little more accepting of myself, a little more comfortable in my own skin. Although it it imortant to recognize and admit my limitations and flaws, only my Higher Oower can remove them.
Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life or helped me to love myself more. Perhaps I can let go of all condemnation for this one day. I will recognize that I am on a spitiyual of self-improvement. Every tiny step I take on that path moves me closer to wholeness, health, and serenity.
If I become impatient with myself, I can examine my expectations. Perhaps I expect this process to happen overnight. I will take time today to acknowledge my efforts and to trust the process. I will remember to be gentle with myself today, trusting that the healing will come.
Today, I seek to become a little more accepting of myself, a little more comfortable in my own skin. Although it it imortant to recognize and admit my limitations and flaws, only my Higher Oower can remove them.
Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life or helped me to love myself more. Perhaps I can let go of all condemnation for this one day. I will recognize that I am on a spitiyual of self-improvement. Every tiny step I take on that path moves me closer to wholeness, health, and serenity.
If I become impatient with myself, I can examine my expectations. Perhaps I expect this process to happen overnight. I will take time today to acknowledge my efforts and to trust the process. I will remember to be gentle with myself today, trusting that the healing will come.
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Life is filled with opportunity,
...and tis the good and bad we must embrace,for all are lessons that teach us so very much.
Choice is always are's...its how we use it that determines much...:)
...and tis the good and bad we must embrace,for all are lessons that teach us so very much.
Choice is always are's...its how we use it that determines much...:)
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Janurary 20
I cannot hurt others without hurting myself. This is a compelling reason for taking thought before I release words that might set off an angry interchange. HAve I ever considered that the impulse to say something unkind comes from my own guilt and unease, which erupts in blpws against others?
It may be a momentary release for me, but it returns like a boomerang to increase my own discomfort. Impatience with others only generates their impatience with me.
If only I can learn to quiet my mind before I speak! I do not wnat to act with impatience and hostility, for I know it will react on me. It is a mistake to think this requires self-control; patience can only be aquired by learning to let go of self-will.
Jonathan Swift said: "Whoever is out of patience is out of possession of his soul. We must not turn ourselves into bees who kill themselves by stinging others."
I cannot hurt others without hurting myself. This is a compelling reason for taking thought before I release words that might set off an angry interchange. HAve I ever considered that the impulse to say something unkind comes from my own guilt and unease, which erupts in blpws against others?
It may be a momentary release for me, but it returns like a boomerang to increase my own discomfort. Impatience with others only generates their impatience with me.
If only I can learn to quiet my mind before I speak! I do not wnat to act with impatience and hostility, for I know it will react on me. It is a mistake to think this requires self-control; patience can only be aquired by learning to let go of self-will.
Jonathan Swift said: "Whoever is out of patience is out of possession of his soul. We must not turn ourselves into bees who kill themselves by stinging others."
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If one does not step a foot out ... they will get nowhere ....
after the first step ... the second is easier ... then the third even more easy ... until one day ... u ride the wind ... take the world by the horns ... ride the wind ... and eventually meet the other that rides the wind with u ....
you r the center of the universe .. u do not revolve around the world ... the world revolves around u ..
take it ... its yours !!!!
after the first step ... the second is easier ... then the third even more easy ... until one day ... u ride the wind ... take the world by the horns ... ride the wind ... and eventually meet the other that rides the wind with u ....
you r the center of the universe .. u do not revolve around the world ... the world revolves around u ..
take it ... its yours !!!!
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"FOR ME", I am no longer the center of the universe. The world no longer revolves around me, me, me, although it used to.
Today, I am but one small grain of sand on the wonderful beach of life. Other people are the waves that wash over me, they clense me and keep me moving on this journey known as life.
6. Maintain Universal Flow. When someone gives, it is an act of generosity to receive. For in giving, there is something gained.
Today, I am but one small grain of sand on the wonderful beach of life. Other people are the waves that wash over me, they clense me and keep me moving on this journey known as life.
6. Maintain Universal Flow. When someone gives, it is an act of generosity to receive. For in giving, there is something gained.
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There is a great comfort in being a victim or a perceived victim. Hence, that's why we even have at least 2 major political parties. One, a believer in self-reliance and one for the people who see themselves as victimized by the system in America.
Only my view, but I ALWAYS evaluate what part I played in being "victimized." Usually I can find what roled I played in it. From that, I try to modify my behavior. Certainly there are things that happen that people have absolutely no control over; health related situations, some criminal acts, etc.
Off the top of my head I could list a dozen things easily where I felt vicitimized at the time, but upon further reflection, I played an active part in the victimization.
It's always easier to blame someone else for life's misfortunes than to do any deep introspection.
JMO
(hope I haven't missed the point of your thread?)
Only my view, but I ALWAYS evaluate what part I played in being "victimized." Usually I can find what roled I played in it. From that, I try to modify my behavior. Certainly there are things that happen that people have absolutely no control over; health related situations, some criminal acts, etc.
Off the top of my head I could list a dozen things easily where I felt vicitimized at the time, but upon further reflection, I played an active part in the victimization.
It's always easier to blame someone else for life's misfortunes than to do any deep introspection.
JMO
(hope I haven't missed the point of your thread?)
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Indyfella: There is a great comfort in being a victim or a perceived victim. Hence, that's why we even have at least 2 major political parties. One, a believer in self-reliance and one for the people who see themselves as victimized by the system in America.
Only my view, but I ALWAYS evaluate what part I played in being "victimized." Usually I can find what roled I played in it. From that, I try to modify my behavior. Certainly there are things that happen that people have absolutely no control over; health related situations, some criminal acts, etc.
Off the top of my head I could list a dozen things easily where I felt vicitimized at the time, but upon further reflection, I played an active part in the victimization.
It's always easier to blame someone else for life's misfortunes than to do any deep introspection. JMO
(hope I haven't missed the point of your thread?)
Only my view, but I ALWAYS evaluate what part I played in being "victimized." Usually I can find what roled I played in it. From that, I try to modify my behavior. Certainly there are things that happen that people have absolutely no control over; health related situations, some criminal acts, etc.
Off the top of my head I could list a dozen things easily where I felt vicitimized at the time, but upon further reflection, I played an active part in the victimization.
It's always easier to blame someone else for life's misfortunes than to do any deep introspection. JMO
(hope I haven't missed the point of your thread?)
No problem my friend, you get it............
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Janurary 22
Are we willing to hope? Some of us have adopted an attitude of optimism about the progress of life. we know that many things are unpredictable, but we believe we have the strength to deal with whatever happens. Others of us have chosen the oppisite. We dare not hope, protecting ourselves from the hurt of disappointment. But our spiritual growth calls everyone of us to believe in the possibilities for happiness and all the promices that go with it.
We need to ask ourselves, do I dare to hope? We simply suspend our doubts. We put them on the shelf and hold open the possibility that good things will happen. ANd if we don't get what we hoped for, we can deal with it. It is a choice we make.
"In the face of uncertainity, there is nothing wrong with hope." ~Bernie SIegel
Are we willing to hope? Some of us have adopted an attitude of optimism about the progress of life. we know that many things are unpredictable, but we believe we have the strength to deal with whatever happens. Others of us have chosen the oppisite. We dare not hope, protecting ourselves from the hurt of disappointment. But our spiritual growth calls everyone of us to believe in the possibilities for happiness and all the promices that go with it.
We need to ask ourselves, do I dare to hope? We simply suspend our doubts. We put them on the shelf and hold open the possibility that good things will happen. ANd if we don't get what we hoped for, we can deal with it. It is a choice we make.
"In the face of uncertainity, there is nothing wrong with hope." ~Bernie SIegel
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Janurary 23
Resentment and the urge for revenge can corrode our lives.We carry these dark feelings with us., sometimes in the back of our minds and sometimes up front. Such feelings keep living in the past and tie us to the people we resent. Our spiritual goal is to reach the point of forgiveness. It is not easy to make that transition, and it cannot be done in a phony way. A good beginning is to accept forgiveness as a goal and then focus our efforts thorough and searching inventory of ourselves. Finally we can reach the point where we simply tear up the I.O.U. We stop expecting repayment for past wrongs and release ourselves from carrying old resentments. We let others deal with their own conscience.
We reach a sense of freedom and well-being that is a great reward for forgiveness. It suprises us when our own self-esteem rises as we right off the bad debts we think others owe us.
Resentment and the urge for revenge can corrode our lives.We carry these dark feelings with us., sometimes in the back of our minds and sometimes up front. Such feelings keep living in the past and tie us to the people we resent. Our spiritual goal is to reach the point of forgiveness. It is not easy to make that transition, and it cannot be done in a phony way. A good beginning is to accept forgiveness as a goal and then focus our efforts thorough and searching inventory of ourselves. Finally we can reach the point where we simply tear up the I.O.U. We stop expecting repayment for past wrongs and release ourselves from carrying old resentments. We let others deal with their own conscience.
We reach a sense of freedom and well-being that is a great reward for forgiveness. It suprises us when our own self-esteem rises as we right off the bad debts we think others owe us.
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Janurary 24
I have the right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on thoses feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from myself. They are a part of me. I do not have the right to harm another to get what I want or because I feel the way I feel.
"This above all: to thine own self be true." ~William Shakespeare
I have the right to want what I want and to feel the way I feel. I may not choose to act on thoses feelings or desires, but I won't hide them from myself. They are a part of me. I do not have the right to harm another to get what I want or because I feel the way I feel.
"This above all: to thine own self be true." ~William Shakespeare
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To have a dream takes courage & hope. A dream guides us, even if we haven't let ourselves bring it to consciousnesness. How often do we stop to ask what are dreams are? Do we even know what we want? This path is about becoming the best we can be. It's more about who we become than what we achieve. So it inspires us to create dreams for our development as human beings.
When we take a few moments to reflect on the kind of people we want to be, we create reference points, or beacons to move toward. This gives us a way to measure our actions and our choices. Do our actions take us in the direction we want to go, or do thay take us off course? Are we growing into the people we want to be, or have we forgotten to follow our beacons?
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. ~Henry David Thoreau