"Courage to Change" (78)
Victim is never good...Survivor is better......
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Are we not all resilient- we humans of hope , whether we are survivors , victims or volunteers etc--- is it not only ,what we carry with us through doors closed but the barriers and defenses we build/add to
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December 27th
MAybe we need many points of view in order to understand life moe fully; after all, no one person's view is totally complete. So when my pertner, my child my employer or a friend takes a position unlike my own, I have a choice. I can assume one of us is wrong and defend myself, or I can be grateful for the chance to see that there are countless ways of looking at life. AN abundance of wisdom is available if I keep an open mind.
"Think for yourself and let others enjoy the privilege of doing so too." ~ Voltaire
MAybe we need many points of view in order to understand life moe fully; after all, no one person's view is totally complete. So when my pertner, my child my employer or a friend takes a position unlike my own, I have a choice. I can assume one of us is wrong and defend myself, or I can be grateful for the chance to see that there are countless ways of looking at life. AN abundance of wisdom is available if I keep an open mind.
"Think for yourself and let others enjoy the privilege of doing so too." ~ Voltaire
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"....grateful for the chance to see that there are countless ways of looking at life..."
Yes AND (not NAd
) learn to COMPROMISE.
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It was corrected right away, I knew "teacher" would be watching..
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December 28
"Let me first be sure what I intend and the reasons for my choice; this will guide my thoughts into constructive channels, and keep me from attempting the impractical or impossible".
~ Celebra Tueli
"Let me first be sure what I intend and the reasons for my choice; this will guide my thoughts into constructive channels, and keep me from attempting the impractical or impossible".
~ Celebra Tueli
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I could also be a victim of a victim
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December 29th
"We are quick enough at perceiving and weighing what we suffer from others, but we mind not what others suffer from us".
~Thomas A'Kempis
"We are quick enough at perceiving and weighing what we suffer from others, but we mind not what others suffer from us".
~Thomas A'Kempis
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GREAT thread HJ - cause for some minor introspection in this coming New Year.
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December 30th
There is an old German folk tale in which the Good Fairy one gift: "the ability to foresee the outcme of everything she does".
It is a gift we could all use, especially when we give way to dispair, at all costs, to free ourselves from a situation that seems unendurable.
If we could visualize the outcome of a move such as breaking up a marriage, for example, we might not be so ready to deprive our children of a parent; we might shrink from the heavy responsibilities we'd have to meet. ABove all, we would still have to contend with our own shortcomings, the very ones that may have helped to bring us to the point of disperation.
If we want to make a major change which effects other lives as well, let me first consider the possible outcome. HAve I really tried to examine and correct my own faults? Is there a way for me to improve my attitude? I will let the great decision wait until I have tried that.
"The truly wise solution may lie in improving myself."
There is an old German folk tale in which the Good Fairy one gift: "the ability to foresee the outcme of everything she does".
It is a gift we could all use, especially when we give way to dispair, at all costs, to free ourselves from a situation that seems unendurable.
If we could visualize the outcome of a move such as breaking up a marriage, for example, we might not be so ready to deprive our children of a parent; we might shrink from the heavy responsibilities we'd have to meet. ABove all, we would still have to contend with our own shortcomings, the very ones that may have helped to bring us to the point of disperation.
If we want to make a major change which effects other lives as well, let me first consider the possible outcome. HAve I really tried to examine and correct my own faults? Is there a way for me to improve my attitude? I will let the great decision wait until I have tried that.
"The truly wise solution may lie in improving myself."
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"I am not perfect, but I am excellent!"
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Janurary 1
In the new year, I will live one day at a time. I will make make each day one of preperation for better things ahead. I will not dwell in the past or in the future, only on the present. I will bury every fear of the future, all thoughts of bitterness, all my dislikes, my resentments, my sense opf failure, my disappointments in others, and in myself, my gloom & my despondency. I will leave all things buried and go forward in the new year, into a new life.
In the new year, I will live one day at a time. I will make make each day one of preperation for better things ahead. I will not dwell in the past or in the future, only on the present. I will bury every fear of the future, all thoughts of bitterness, all my dislikes, my resentments, my sense opf failure, my disappointments in others, and in myself, my gloom & my despondency. I will leave all things buried and go forward in the new year, into a new life.
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Janurary 2
If I were to sit down in a quiet corner and look back over the happenings of my troubled life as though I were examining the life of someone else or reading about it in a book, how would it appear to me? I know I can do this by guarding against all self-justication; looking at the facts honestly. Have I said or done things in haste? anger or desperation that made my situation worse? Are there things I recall with regret? We learn from experience, and only by making up our minds not to repeat past mistakes.
"When I am tempted or pressured into irrational behaviour, I pray that I may stop and think before before I do or say anything whatever. I ask God to remove these impulses and help me to grow into the person I want to be."
If I were to sit down in a quiet corner and look back over the happenings of my troubled life as though I were examining the life of someone else or reading about it in a book, how would it appear to me? I know I can do this by guarding against all self-justication; looking at the facts honestly. Have I said or done things in haste? anger or desperation that made my situation worse? Are there things I recall with regret? We learn from experience, and only by making up our minds not to repeat past mistakes.
"When I am tempted or pressured into irrational behaviour, I pray that I may stop and think before before I do or say anything whatever. I ask God to remove these impulses and help me to grow into the person I want to be."
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Janurary 3
Conflict is not bad; it is neccessary. In any good, intimate partnership, the two people reveal themselves, their differences sometimes are interesting & enjoyable and sometimes create conflict. A good colflict is open and honest and without ego. When one person reveals his or her thoughts, the other person listens and hears them as a genuine expression that must be taken into account. The simple act of listening is usually most important; agreement isn't always neccessary. Most of the time, a person just wants to be heard. Agreement is required when there is only one path that can be chosen. Then, the wisdom of two loving and honest people can lead to a mutual agreement that often turns out to be be a better than either individual path.
The true, uniwue nature of any of any intimate partnership only takes place through genuine conflict and resolution. Crisis faced and resolved become the foundation for continuing and deepening mutual understanding and intamacy.
"A marriage without conflicts is almost as inconceivable as a nation without crisis." ~Andre Maurois
Conflict is not bad; it is neccessary. In any good, intimate partnership, the two people reveal themselves, their differences sometimes are interesting & enjoyable and sometimes create conflict. A good colflict is open and honest and without ego. When one person reveals his or her thoughts, the other person listens and hears them as a genuine expression that must be taken into account. The simple act of listening is usually most important; agreement isn't always neccessary. Most of the time, a person just wants to be heard. Agreement is required when there is only one path that can be chosen. Then, the wisdom of two loving and honest people can lead to a mutual agreement that often turns out to be be a better than either individual path.
The true, uniwue nature of any of any intimate partnership only takes place through genuine conflict and resolution. Crisis faced and resolved become the foundation for continuing and deepening mutual understanding and intamacy.
"A marriage without conflicts is almost as inconceivable as a nation without crisis." ~Andre Maurois
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