"Courage to Change" (78)
A problem shared is a problem halved.
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Janruary 5
This day I shall concentrate on the inner meaning of the Commandment "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thy self". I will accept myself, for that is the primary condition under which the good in me can grow. Unless I am at peace with the child of God I am, I cannot love & help my neighbor. Regrets are vain. They interfere with the good I could do today, the making of the better person I want to be tomorrow.
Condemning ourselves for mistakes we have made is just as bad as condemning others for theirs. We are really not equiped to make judgements, not even of ourselves.
Thomas A'Kempis said: "All perfection in this life is attended by some imperfection and all our farseeing is without obscurity."
This day I shall concentrate on the inner meaning of the Commandment "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thy self". I will accept myself, for that is the primary condition under which the good in me can grow. Unless I am at peace with the child of God I am, I cannot love & help my neighbor. Regrets are vain. They interfere with the good I could do today, the making of the better person I want to be tomorrow.
Condemning ourselves for mistakes we have made is just as bad as condemning others for theirs. We are really not equiped to make judgements, not even of ourselves.
Thomas A'Kempis said: "All perfection in this life is attended by some imperfection and all our farseeing is without obscurity."
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Wise words - enjoy reading these. Thank you HJ...
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Janurary 6
When things look blackest, it is within my power to brighten them with the light of understanding and gratitude. I realize how much depends on my point of view; my own wrong habits of thinking and acting must be corrected and only I can do that.
When things look blackest, it is within my power to brighten them with the light of understanding and gratitude. I realize how much depends on my point of view; my own wrong habits of thinking and acting must be corrected and only I can do that.
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Janurary 7
Someone said something unkind about me. Are my feelings hurt? Yes. Should they be? No. How do I overcome my hurt? By detatching myself , "turning it off", until I can figure out what lies behind it. If it was retaliation for an unkindness I did, let me correct my fault. If not, I have no responsibility in the matter. Should I ignore or challange? No, I will let it go, least said, soonest mended. Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to. When I am pained outside of myself, it is not that thing which hurts me, but the way I think and feel about it.
Someone said something unkind about me. Are my feelings hurt? Yes. Should they be? No. How do I overcome my hurt? By detatching myself , "turning it off", until I can figure out what lies behind it. If it was retaliation for an unkindness I did, let me correct my fault. If not, I have no responsibility in the matter. Should I ignore or challange? No, I will let it go, least said, soonest mended. Nothing can hurt me unless I allow it to. When I am pained outside of myself, it is not that thing which hurts me, but the way I think and feel about it.
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Yep I agree with that completely. 
People treat you the way you allow them too.
People treat you the way you allow them too.
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Oo you are goooood
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I agree. Now if one were to continue coming back for more in similar situations expecting different results, then that would not be considered a victims role, it would be called insanity instead.
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Sort of,Keeping My Own Side Of the Street clean?
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i'm sure everyone has heard the saying "the only constant IS change".
i think the best changes are the ones that occur naturally. i do not believe change should be forced, and not all changes are good.
i would like to believe that i have changed for the better. as a kid i used to be the one your mother warned you to stay away from. now i think i would be liked by anybodys mother.
i think the best changes are the ones that occur naturally. i do not believe change should be forced, and not all changes are good.
i would like to believe that i have changed for the better. as a kid i used to be the one your mother warned you to stay away from. now i think i would be liked by anybodys mother.
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Janurary 9
How often I look outside myself for approval! The project at work is successful, but my good feelings depend on having that success acknowledged. The meal I fix at home is not as tasty when no one compliments the cook. I resent the favors I do for my children when they neglect to thank me.
We all need an occassional pat on the back, But when the applause of others becomes the reason for my behavior and neccessary for me to feel satisfied, then I have given them power over me.
People may forget to notice the terrific things that I have done or may not be comfortable praising me. I don't have to take it personally. Self-pity and resentment are not my only options. If I learn to evaluate my own actions and behavior and to value my own judgement, then the approval of others will be enjoyable, but no longer essential for my serenity.
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your own heart. ~Carl Jung
How often I look outside myself for approval! The project at work is successful, but my good feelings depend on having that success acknowledged. The meal I fix at home is not as tasty when no one compliments the cook. I resent the favors I do for my children when they neglect to thank me.
We all need an occassional pat on the back, But when the applause of others becomes the reason for my behavior and neccessary for me to feel satisfied, then I have given them power over me.
People may forget to notice the terrific things that I have done or may not be comfortable praising me. I don't have to take it personally. Self-pity and resentment are not my only options. If I learn to evaluate my own actions and behavior and to value my own judgement, then the approval of others will be enjoyable, but no longer essential for my serenity.
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your own heart. ~Carl Jung
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Thanks for posting these.
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"They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel." - Carl Buechner
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Your vision will become clear only when you look into your own heart. ~Carl Jung
Yeah,Our Carl Jung.
Yeah,Our Carl Jung.
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Janurary 10
I suspect that if I reclaimed all the minutes, hours and days I've sacrificed to worry and fear, I'd add years to my life. When I succumb to worry, I open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices, and relentless self-critisism. The more attention I pay to this mental static, the more I lose my foothold in reality. Then nothing useful can be accomplished.
To break the cycle of worry and fear, I'm learniong to focus all my attention on this very moment. I can turn away from destructive thoughts and concentrate instead on the sights and sounds around me: light and shadows, the earth beneath my feet, the pulse of everyday living--all pieces of the here and now.. These bits of reality help rescue me from "what-if's" and "should-have's" by anchoring me in the present. As I shut out the noise, I am more receptive to my Higher Power's will, and therefore much more able to work my way through difficult times.
This day is all I have to work with, and it's all I need. If I am tempted to wirry about tomorrow's concerns, I will gently bring my mind back to today.
"The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exist. Ours is the present's tiny point." ~Mahmud Shabistari
I suspect that if I reclaimed all the minutes, hours and days I've sacrificed to worry and fear, I'd add years to my life. When I succumb to worry, I open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices, and relentless self-critisism. The more attention I pay to this mental static, the more I lose my foothold in reality. Then nothing useful can be accomplished.
To break the cycle of worry and fear, I'm learniong to focus all my attention on this very moment. I can turn away from destructive thoughts and concentrate instead on the sights and sounds around me: light and shadows, the earth beneath my feet, the pulse of everyday living--all pieces of the here and now.. These bits of reality help rescue me from "what-if's" and "should-have's" by anchoring me in the present. As I shut out the noise, I am more receptive to my Higher Power's will, and therefore much more able to work my way through difficult times.
This day is all I have to work with, and it's all I need. If I am tempted to wirry about tomorrow's concerns, I will gently bring my mind back to today.
"The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exist. Ours is the present's tiny point." ~Mahmud Shabistari
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Very good thread ladies and Gentlemen,
I have enjoyed reading it. Thoughts on righteous anger? Is there such a thing? Or is it a falacy?
I have enjoyed reading it. Thoughts on righteous anger? Is there such a thing? Or is it a falacy?
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Janurary 11
There is no question life is hard at times. None of us escapes trials and challenges. And some of us truely have more of them than others. So what are we to do whith that realization? We cannot control what happens to us. We can only control how we respond to it. No two paths are the same. Selp-pity is the responce of someone who hasn't learned to deal with adult life. Feeling sorry for ourselves is like having a bucket with a hole in itthat allows our spirit and our strength to drain away.
INstead of reacting with self-pity, we remind ourselves that all things change and the difficulty we face today will also change. What is hard for us today will be easier tomorrow. We will have times of peace and satisfaction. Best of all, when we play a bad hand well, we have peace of mind, our inner strength grows, and we have something more to put in our bank of knowledge.
When I hear somebody sigh, "Life is hard", I am always tempted to ask, "Compared to what?" ~Sydney Harris
There is no question life is hard at times. None of us escapes trials and challenges. And some of us truely have more of them than others. So what are we to do whith that realization? We cannot control what happens to us. We can only control how we respond to it. No two paths are the same. Selp-pity is the responce of someone who hasn't learned to deal with adult life. Feeling sorry for ourselves is like having a bucket with a hole in itthat allows our spirit and our strength to drain away.
INstead of reacting with self-pity, we remind ourselves that all things change and the difficulty we face today will also change. What is hard for us today will be easier tomorrow. We will have times of peace and satisfaction. Best of all, when we play a bad hand well, we have peace of mind, our inner strength grows, and we have something more to put in our bank of knowledge.
When I hear somebody sigh, "Life is hard", I am always tempted to ask, "Compared to what?" ~Sydney Harris
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