Honesty What is it worth to you...???? ( Archived) (115)

It's her problem, has nothing to do with you probably. Some of us have been lied to before, and it takes a lot to trust again.

I've found that I can trust and love another, because now I know I'm strong enough to endure if I am let down. Some people never get to that point. The fear makes their worst fears come true, if only in their mind.

The lesson is, you can't change another person. You can only change what you're doing. If you're doing everything right, keep on, it'll work when it's supposed to work.

Listen to him!

Isn't it funny...
the one thing everybody wants.
Is not always what they can accept?

just another thought.

could one person ask another to believe in them if they could not return the offer?

Love is a very strong emotion... and would make people do many things they normaly would not do.

But when love becomes more prevailent than truth or faith is it really Love if the three are not all in one bundle... without either of the two can you really have love for another?

it amazes me how one could not ask a serious question from people whom opinions are valued.

and find that it may go off as a shot in the wrong direction.


I would still stay true and hold to my original post.

I Read it so many times...

I have done a thread asking this before, And found it was the Number one thing required for any relations.


Now i ask ,If you give your full honesty and hide nothing in your life...

And are told that nothing you say is believed and you are not trusted...

What do you think?

Could you or would you want to be close to someone who feels you are nothing But a liar and a player.... With no proof either exsists????

its not an attack or a mute point...
i honestly want to know how others feel about my question

My friend what is perceived by the mind and heart and soul are often three different things entirely. Her heart is yours, her spirit as well but her mind is a thing of the world and as such has great inflection from the environment she has existed in. All of us carry some reminders of the things we learned whether nice or not. Do we still check to see if a fire is hot... no we assume because it burned us once it will do the same. Walking on ice early in the season is a good example here, those who have seen or experienced in some means what can happen are much more cautious than those who do not know.
Give it some time and be calm, there is great distance between both of you physically. Perhaps she says this to you as she felt something or was told something by another. Clarify your postion and that of your heart and wait to see how she perceives you then. We do not know what happened by any means as her side is yet unaccounted, and then there is the truth somewhere between the twain. Neither right nor wrong but just different perspectives of the same ideal. Patience my friend and just be yourself. She will realize that you are what you ay by staying true to your path with or without her. She will desire what you are as it will be what you were. Do not allow this to change you, for you or her.

Mark

Thank You Mark...

I know your intentions are noble to try to help me see love is of great value...

I have no disagreements with that My Love is not handed out so easily with a mate.... but i do so freely with friends.

i speak on a different love not one for your neighbor... but one for the ONE who would be by your side always.

patients is not a strong point for me... but niether is distrust.. i trust in other without problems and give my trust openly.... but when those whom i offer this to will say to me they do not have it for me...

My heart... My love ... no matter how Great is meaningless to that person in my eyes. and when my heart sees no faith and trust and only feelings of being viewed as a deciever...


hypothetically if that will be accepted...

I find myself believing the love i thought was there never was.And if i believe something to be true;
and find another truth oppisite to that how should i view it any other way?

And if what others say to damage me in the eyes of one who would claim love to me... works out to be more believeable than my honesty then the choice has been made and i have no control over the decision... nor was i ever considered.

Eric

Rivame

i have always thought about truth and honesty... even as a child i was tuaght how the two will make a success from nothing or lack of a failure of everything.

Even my marriage was held successfully for 12 years and even though my wife did not have much to say in compliments ...she was freely honest and open about her complaints...
i never hated her for them nor did i hold them against her.

But in the end (after she left) she has had very few honest moments and i have watched her life spiral down to nothing...

i do believe in the end the only truth one really knows is that of thier own...

Hence my question...
if we know in our hearts we have told no lie to another...
Should we accept ,they do not believe a word that was said...nor have faith in us...
Should we feel like a love still abounds in thier heart?