How close do you think you would come to seeing yourself as others see you? ( Archived) (26)

I was talking with a friend today; she was down in the dumps and we were having a heart-to-heart about relationships, men, fears, sorrows...the whole gamut. In trying to alleviate some of her self-doubts, I told her how I viewed her (all very positive and very true) and then expressed some of my own doubts, or my views of what I felt were some of my shortcomings. To my surprise, she sees me in a totally different light than how I see myself. She is in her mid-30s, I am almost 53, and we have another good friend who is 45. So, as I am the oldest, I told her that I often felt somewhat like the runt of the litter when I am out with the 2 of them. She replied that she thought that of the 3 of us, I was the one who had it most together and that I was the one who people seemed to gravitate towards more often than with either of them. In thinking about it, perhaps she is right...but I would have never seen it that way without her comments. I found it very interesting and enlightening that I was so out of sync; that the way I saw myself was so different than how she (and possibly others) see me. Do your friends ever say things about you that kind of blow you away, regarding perspective??

Helloo Jeffery! (would you rather I didn't do that? )

Yeah I know what you mean.. my friends seem to see me in a different way to the way I see myself. In SOME ways.. very differently. I'm not very good at taking on board 'nice' things they say tbh though. I just think 'yeah yeah'

Hey jlb !!

It has happened to me quite often. And recently since when i have joined CS.

I wouldnt mention details but people have made me wonder things i didnt know about myself and its so cool to learn about yourself in ways you wouldnt have thought of.

hellooo Riya

I agree it's interesting to know how others *See* you. (whether you think they are true or not)

Naahh, I don't mind if you use my real name. I'm not ashamed of it; just try to let people find their own comfort level with accepting it.

BEB hellooooo

Yeah I know what you mean

IMO, we know our total selves while others know only what they can see. They draw their own conclusions about us based upon this. I would say that the chance that their conclusions match ours is very rare.