How do i lose my heart and turn cold (16)
furycrossGrand Junction, Tennessee USA18 Threads 44 PostsI know how stupid this may seem. But its an honest question. how do i lose my heart or make it cold against love? i have my own reasons for wanting to do this, i just need to know how. i just will stick to friends and whatever. im just not meant for it i guess and just want to stop wanting to get it. yes i may seem young but many times in my life was spent in relationship with older poeple. so i ust need to know.
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I do not think this is a smart thing. I did this for to many years and even though it hurts to have your heart broken it hurts worse to shut your heart off and be lonely. YOu just have not found the right person yet. DOn't become cold just guard your heart a little more then before you will know when it is the right time to let it go.
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Nobody and no heartbreak is EVER worth shutting down for. You live for you and you alone and you must be happy within to be happy with another. You will be able to share yourself 100% and know who and what it is you are sharing.
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Hi furycross....
I have been hurt so many times, that I too wanted to shut my heart off, let it turn to stone. But if we do that, WE are the losers. The heart, and love is a very precious thing, when shared with the right person. It is all in finding that right person to share it with.
Please don't let it turn cold, that special person is out there, and you will miss the most precious moments of your life if you shut your heart and love off to the possibility of loving again.
Hang in there and have faith.
Rose.
I have been hurt so many times, that I too wanted to shut my heart off, let it turn to stone. But if we do that, WE are the losers. The heart, and love is a very precious thing, when shared with the right person. It is all in finding that right person to share it with.
Please don't let it turn cold, that special person is out there, and you will miss the most precious moments of your life if you shut your heart and love off to the possibility of loving again.
Hang in there and have faith.
Rose.
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If you don't take chances you punish yourself of happiness. life is full of ups and downs but as the others were saying it is beter to know how love feels good or bad then to never of felt it at all. I'm one that is hard for me to get close to people, but if I don't take my chances I may never be happy again. So keep on trucking!!!
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Unless you have the willpower of iron, I don't think there is any way to truly shut yourself off from love or being loved. Furycross, shutting down isn't the right approach to saving yourself from the "bad" relationships. Consider them to the stepping stones to finding the one that is right. I loved my ex but didn't realize he was wrong for me. Before him I had no clue what I wanted/needed in a partner, now I know somewhat better. Like someone said in another post, its better to have loved and lost rather than to not have loved at all.
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i tried it once, didn't date for like 8 years.... Arrrhhh....
Became a bit of a recluse and somewhat antisocial towards new people i met...
not good dude...trust me.
It might hurt now but as they say, time heals all wounds...
as something a good friend told me, when your not looking for love it usually finds you...
Became a bit of a recluse and somewhat antisocial towards new people i met...
not good dude...trust me.
It might hurt now but as they say, time heals all wounds...
as something a good friend told me, when your not looking for love it usually finds you...
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fury....these people cannot help you......you need professional help...
what you are talking about is insane......
the only people that want to live a life like that.....are serial killers.....see a doctor today...
no need to thank me......its my pleasure
what you are talking about is insane......
the only people that want to live a life like that.....are serial killers.....see a doctor today...
no need to thank me......its my pleasure
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Ahh, the experience of unrequited love is a painful experience.
Do you participate in any group actvities?? sports, games, community???
Not everyone can be the star of the show or always hit the winning run or scoring pass on the team....Life sucks no matter what you have or get..you'll want more.
As most things in life no one is a natural on their first attempt. As for turnng cold......you are already there.. And you should consider removing yourself fast from this self inflicted freezer.
you are already losing your heart... "I" stuff throughout your post says this. you need no lessons in turning cold or lose my heart......it is sad you cannot see the forest for the trees. this is one forest you should definitely remember. Because it is possible without your knowledge you have sent someone here yourself.
But from your other posts I am guessing that you just having one really bad weekend that has seeped into your week. just an opinion
Do you participate in any group actvities?? sports, games, community???
Not everyone can be the star of the show or always hit the winning run or scoring pass on the team....Life sucks no matter what you have or get..you'll want more.
As most things in life no one is a natural on their first attempt. As for turnng cold......you are already there.. And you should consider removing yourself fast from this self inflicted freezer.
you are already losing your heart... "I" stuff throughout your post says this. you need no lessons in turning cold or lose my heart......it is sad you cannot see the forest for the trees. this is one forest you should definitely remember. Because it is possible without your knowledge you have sent someone here yourself.
But from your other posts I am guessing that you just having one really bad weekend that has seeped into your week. just an opinion
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Impossible mate - you will have to stop breathing!
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furycross,
not good in any way shape or form,from experience,no woman,is worth it, and had my share of broken hearts,i learned to take the time to grow from my mistake and move on,drives the ex crazy to.
not good in any way shape or form,from experience,no woman,is worth it, and had my share of broken hearts,i learned to take the time to grow from my mistake and move on,drives the ex crazy to.
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I don't think you'd want to turn your heart cold to love fury because if you do that you might shut it out when it actually is there. If you are cold against love don't you think it will effect all your other relationships?
Friends and family and hobbies is probably the best outlet when you are lonely. Not having someone is just something you have to accept and learn to be more dicriminating when you do choose someone.
Friends and family and hobbies is probably the best outlet when you are lonely. Not having someone is just something you have to accept and learn to be more dicriminating when you do choose someone.
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It can be done Fury.
Hold tightly to that which you wish to be rid of.
Seems a bit of a waste to me though...
If I'm going to burn myself on the stove,
I prefer to get a good meal out of it.
Hold tightly to that which you wish to be rid of.
Seems a bit of a waste to me though...
If I'm going to burn myself on the stove,
I prefer to get a good meal out of it.
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One of the questions I ask myself is: Why do I attract and get involved with a person that eventually breaks my heart? What is it that I can change about me to draw the person where I can have that long term relationship? I do desire it. In a church seminar for singles there was a saying or whatever you call it: Do what you can to make yourself ready for a relationship instead of looking for that right or perfect person that you want. So when that right person comes along you will be ready for it.
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just my thoughts...
painful as heartache is..and it can feel very physical...
it prepares us for further journeys... difficult to understand, or even want to know when you are in it.
there are a thousand ways, and more, to gain heartbreak. I isn't just the love of your life, mate, or partner... but, children, animals...life and death cycles...
the way of things.
We are born with the incredible ability to feel so much! slight, and accute, dull, and pure...
It is meant to feel. Being human and who we are..if you shut down completely (and, there are times for this, but it should never last long), sure, you might be lifeless, and the walkng dead... but, hten what do you offer the rest of the world?
painful as heartache is..and it can feel very physical...
it prepares us for further journeys... difficult to understand, or even want to know when you are in it.
there are a thousand ways, and more, to gain heartbreak. I isn't just the love of your life, mate, or partner... but, children, animals...life and death cycles...
the way of things.
We are born with the incredible ability to feel so much! slight, and accute, dull, and pure...
It is meant to feel. Being human and who we are..if you shut down completely (and, there are times for this, but it should never last long), sure, you might be lifeless, and the walkng dead... but, hten what do you offer the rest of the world?
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True love doesn't have a happy ending:
True love doesn't have an ending.
True love doesn't have an ending.
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