Friend from past calls (any help would be great) (31)
RbadmcBarren, Kentucky USA3 Threads 24 PostsSomeone from my past has come back into my life after her finding me, she held my name on piece of paper and in her heart for near 30 years never did I think she would ever get a hold of me and the way she got a hold of me was really cool too. Now I will say I am not the best writer in the land but here goes. Now normally I would never even consider doing this but its time I did because I want a real friend for life. I have fallin in love with this woman I cant get her out of my head all she and I have done has been msn and the phone when she phoned me after getting to me in a strange but afective way. Now I have seen her pic and she is hot, but that is not what I’m in love with, she sounds like me she likes the same thing as I do we sound the same to me. Anway to shrten this up is the task at hand. My wife has been more or less has been gone for two years now, but we still live together I still love her, but I know she is seeing someone else we have talked about it and she says she has no intention of stopping this relationship when I say gone I mean she is never here for me anymore and do so want her very much and she knows it I have never ever looked at another woman because she was my first love and we have been married for over 17 years now we have a child together. I guess I should get to my point. Is it rong of me to have fallin in love with another woman she is all I can think about this is really starting to keep me up at nights thinking of her everything I do I can’t seem to get her out of my head and she wants to come see me she does not know I feel this way about her or maybe she does I don’t know I have not asked her because even this way she is like a sister and that way I would never loose her, and the rest of the question, what would you do cause I am lost now?
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Do you want honest?
thinking too much of yourself and playing with your wife.
shouldnt have been playing around in any form with another!
cheating is cheating no matter what color you paint it.
loose the other gal
IMHO
thinking too much of yourself and playing with your wife.
shouldnt have been playing around in any form with another!
cheating is cheating no matter what color you paint it.
loose the other gal
IMHO
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sorry I shoud say that my wife has benn cheating on me for five years with who ever and for the last two with a family friend I have tried enough to get her go strait have I not I have stade true till now
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The first thing you need to do is decide if your marrige can be saved, at this point it doesn't sound like it. You need to end the situation you are in before you start anything else. Cheating is wrong no matter what is going on... if the situation is bad enough that you feel you can justify it then you should be ending the relationship.
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sorry so blunt but same answer,
I see things diferently than most,, right vs wrong. black and white
excuses dont get it and just confuses life.
all in or all out.
I see things diferently than most,, right vs wrong. black and white
excuses dont get it and just confuses life.
all in or all out.
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i would never dream of splitting my son in two unless it is the last resort being i am disabled I have been the one there for my son wile my wife goes out and plays I don't want to looze my son the wife I can do without now i know that but have tried to make it work.
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I should say that I have no thaughts of cheating it would be ended
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Don't use your son as an excuse to stay in a bad situation, the way the courts are today you won't loose your son, in fact if you can show that you are the more stable parent you may even get physical custody. Children learn about relationships by observing their parents, what are you and your wife teaching your son? Even if you think he doesn't know... he does, or he at least sees the lack of respect and affection you have for each other. This is a very unhealthy way to raise a child, shame on your wife for her past behavior and shame on you if you try to justify doing the same thing.
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sorry this is what i mean by bad writing my wife knows about this girl because she called the wifes work place to find me I didn't call her and never ever looked at anouther woman in the same manner I don't sneak I,m just lookin for some other perspective i have no intention of cheating and i would never want to be alone I have too much to share with the right person
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1st your asking us for advice.There is always someone to give an opinion right or wrong.We don't know the whole story but as an opinon since you asked.
Why stay with a woman who has no respect for you among other things has broken the vows you took?You need to get counseling.Sounds like you have low self-esteem and feel somwhat worthless.You sit and let this person,wife do this to you and it's like "I don't deserve better".Even a dog should be treated right.Get out of the marriage,if you want to,ask for custody or 1/2 custody.Divorce does effet the kidsBUT it effects them more living in a dysfunctional family situation.Then get some counseling to get over wife you love,and get you to where your a confident person with self-worth,for you and your son.......also for the next woman you may get in relationship with,only fair to her whoever she will be.Get rid of your emotional baggae be4 moving on.Right now put your son 1st,get a divorce from some one who isn't your wife except in name.,talk to your son often and make it clear he can always come to you when mixed up or has ?'s.Start counseling.After your single,going through or finish counseling,mourn the marriage that was and star out as a different man.Then if other woman or any woman is interested,well I hope you find true love and have it always and a
for caring about and taking care of your son.Wish you the best truly.Like no tv till after homeworks done-no being with another woman till your life is in order.
Why stay with a woman who has no respect for you among other things has broken the vows you took?You need to get counseling.Sounds like you have low self-esteem and feel somwhat worthless.You sit and let this person,wife do this to you and it's like "I don't deserve better".Even a dog should be treated right.Get out of the marriage,if you want to,ask for custody or 1/2 custody.Divorce does effet the kidsBUT it effects them more living in a dysfunctional family situation.Then get some counseling to get over wife you love,and get you to where your a confident person with self-worth,for you and your son.......also for the next woman you may get in relationship with,only fair to her whoever she will be.Get rid of your emotional baggae be4 moving on.Right now put your son 1st,get a divorce from some one who isn't your wife except in name.,talk to your son often and make it clear he can always come to you when mixed up or has ?'s.Start counseling.After your single,going through or finish counseling,mourn the marriage that was and star out as a different man.Then if other woman or any woman is interested,well I hope you find true love and have it always and a
for caring about and taking care of your son.Wish you the best truly.Like no tv till after homeworks done-no being with another woman till your life is in order. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Hi. 
I'm young and no expert, but you say your wife has been cheating on you for 5 years. Did you know all along or did you recently find out?
Why would you make any excuse for being with someone who cheats ( if you have known all those years) ?
You say you don't want to lose your son, so would you rather have him lose you to an STD like Aids, lose both his parents even?
I'm young and no expert, but you say your wife has been cheating on you for 5 years. Did you know all along or did you recently find out?
Why would you make any excuse for being with someone who cheats ( if you have known all those years) ?
You say you don't want to lose your son, so would you rather have him lose you to an STD like Aids, lose both his parents even?
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yes I have known, body language and smells and other ways but have tried to make it work because it seemed like the right thing to do but all of that is starting to fade and I am no wimp and will stand up for my self and others. I think I am tiered of doing the right thing and deserve someone to talk to as she does, she does not seem to want to stay home and talk to me and she knows what she is doing because I have told her caught her just loosing faith
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Having said that y should I be alone she isn’t trying and this other woman likes what I have to say but still does not have know what I think of her. I'm trying to sort thing out still again not seeking help but a different perspective
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I think you know what you want.
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Ok here is the deal... What you choose to do at this point is going to effect the rest of your life... here is a different thought for you to process.
We are in control of our own destiny... You have allowed your wife to cheat and have taught her how to treat you in a sense, because you do not push the issue... As long as you allow it to continue... you in essence, give her permission. We allow certain people in our lives to treat us badly... and out of fear of being alone, we do nothing about it... But if you really take a step back and look at your situation, you are already alone...
Depression sucks, but only you can take the steps to help yourself...
Another thought... suppose your wife and you split... and you Do start seeing this other woman,,, Is it fair to her that you are still in love with your wife? And perhaps the wife will decide she wants to come back... What then??? Make sure you are over your last relationship before moving on to the next or it too will end badly..
If you want to be Happy It starts with you... Not your wife ... not the other woman... your wife should be in counseling as should you... and you need to make a decision about how you want to lead your life... be fair to all involved...
I wish you the best and I hope you can resolve this one way or the other you owe it to yourself and your child. Good Luck.
We are in control of our own destiny... You have allowed your wife to cheat and have taught her how to treat you in a sense, because you do not push the issue... As long as you allow it to continue... you in essence, give her permission. We allow certain people in our lives to treat us badly... and out of fear of being alone, we do nothing about it... But if you really take a step back and look at your situation, you are already alone...
Depression sucks, but only you can take the steps to help yourself...
Another thought... suppose your wife and you split... and you Do start seeing this other woman,,, Is it fair to her that you are still in love with your wife? And perhaps the wife will decide she wants to come back... What then??? Make sure you are over your last relationship before moving on to the next or it too will end badly..
If you want to be Happy It starts with you... Not your wife ... not the other woman... your wife should be in counseling as should you... and you need to make a decision about how you want to lead your life... be fair to all involved...
I wish you the best and I hope you can resolve this one way or the other you owe it to yourself and your child. Good Luck.
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j_goose: I'd have to agree with god on this one......wait did I say I agreed with god? wow...the time they are a changin'Once a cheater, always a cheater. There is no forgiveness. That wife of yours is a slug.
Lose the wife. Get the girl, and try to make that a happy relationship. Been ther DOne that.
As for your son, My kids ajusted to shared parenting just fine. It's been 7 years. I am so lad I got rid of that dead weight. I am healthier and happier than I ever was.Did I mentin I don't like my x wife very much??
Lose the wife. Get the girl, and try to make that a happy relationship. Been ther DOne that.
As for your son, My kids ajusted to shared parenting just fine. It's been 7 years. I am so lad I got rid of that dead weight. I am healthier and happier than I ever was.Did I mentin I don't like my x wife very much??
I agree
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Claayer: I agree
Hi Claayer! I see you shaved the beard.
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j_goose: Hi Claayer! I see you shaved the beard.
Gasp!... you can see???
Ohhhhhh... the French picture..
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The way I look at it, you are entitled to make some mistakes, too and at this point after everything you have told us, I'm in your camp; it's an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth, so own and live your life as you see fit and make your kid happy; screw the enemy
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