Do You Mourn When A Relationship Dies Or Go Out And Find Another Right Away? ( Archived) (54)

Good Evening Lionheart :-)

I suppose my response to this question is it depends on how much of myself is invested into the relationship. I am basically an all or nothing kind of gal. My previous relationships haven't been all that serious...it had been about 4 years from the time that i had my previous boyfriend to my current one. My past relationships weren't very serious ones, but the one i am currently involved in, well, my whole heart and soul is involved...i have invested more in him then with any other man, so if something happened, as in us no longer being together...i would be absolutely devastated and heartbroken. I have never taken a risk of this nature in my life, risking my heart being broken, or my pride being squashed, but this man is worth it, he truly is. As they say "it is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all"...it is so true.

So...to answer your question further...i would indeed mourn a relationship that fades out, only if my love runs deep though, but if not, i would not have a huge problem with the transition of starting over again. However, i do have morals, values, integrity and respect for myself. I would not just go looking for someone to fill a void or anything immediately, i am too independent for that! I like to take my time with relationships, as my trust in men has been compromised over the years, but time can heal all wounds.

My whole life i have been looking for something legitimate, something real and lasting...i have never been interested in the short term. Life is too short to waste time. I don't need someone just for the sake of not being alone. I need someone who will love me unconditionally, accept me just the way i am, respect me, trust in me, has patience with me....lol....someone who wants me, desires me, and they can expect the same in return from me...treat others as you would want to be treated is my motto. I love intensely, feel intensely, hurt intensely....everything with me is intense, hence the all or nothing way of living.

Anyway, this is a topic that really hits home, so thank you lionheart for posting this thread...it gives me yet another opportunity to look deep inside myself, to come to a greater understanding of what it is that i seek in life, what i require to achieve complete happiness.


Have a great night!

I tend to wait untill I don't have the desire to discuss my last relationship before I attempt a new one.

Best way to get over an old lover is get under a new one!

It's nice to meet you Antsy...

my name is Ocee Anuwon.



No..really!

My last serious relationship was ooohhh 3-4 years ago. Guess im a little on the slow side myself.

i dont really mourn it does take me a while to look again to make sure i am not on the rebound

Theres a tear in my beer cause, I'm cryin for you dear...

then in my drunken state I awake and check the womans purse thats in my bed for a name.............LMAO

if only it was that easy for me. Just an opinion

Apparently some don't even get affected by the loss. A short time later they are at it again. Kind of makes you wonder if they were ever in love in the first place..Or in love in the second place..lol

I myself take quite a while before I'm ready to move on. Must be something wrong with me...lol

I really wonder sometimes what that 4 letter word means, must be different for everybody.

That makes perfect sense to me Pete..lol

i do morn but not forever... i can love, but then move on pretty quick, i just don't sit there and ponder "what if's" to long.
life's too short if ya know what i mean..