I hear you JB...and this is what I've noticed...it's a most comon pattern it seems...chemistry first.
And this is why I believe there are so many problems within relationships...people are so busy feeling that it could be the case that the more cerebral qualities that could lead to a successful and healthy relationship are often forgotten. Oh deary me...
Again, I think those people wind up being our friends... My best friend from the time I was 15 is a man, we get along so well, there is nothing in my life that he doesn't know and we've been there for each other through all the hurts and celebrations in our lives. It would have made such good sense for us to be together... but there was always something missing... desire, chemistry, I could never imagine making love to him but love him dearly.
Good Morning to you as well, although it's afternoon here!
jbibiza: Again, I think those people wind up being our friends... My best friend from the time I was 15 is a man, we get along so well, there is nothing in my life that he doesn't know and we've been there for each other through all the hurts and celebrations in our lives. It would have made such good sense for us to be together... but there was always something missing... desire, chemistry, I could never imagine making love to him but love him dearly.
Good Morning to you as well, although it's afternoon here!
To focus an eyes on the person ... and to select him/her from the crowd ... that's what we call a chemistry. It is like "There is something I find interesting about her/him. I want to to explore more ... "
But chemistry is only a start up kick ....... if those little things ( that we include in deffinition of respect ... which everyone understands differently) doesn't follow in a pattern of our own deffinition ... then Alas! Bye Bye chemistry .... everyone are free to go and get busy with their own lifes. And Good Luck with it.
Once again .... My personal opinion on this ( bloody phylosophical question) is : There is no pattern. It is a chaos, Catch 22 situation.
More coffee your way,little one ? I'd love to share mine
morganlee: Hi still cold? it's freeckin freezin here
Grey, cold, and still that wicked cold wind!!! I hate it like this!!! I want to go into town and sit on a cafe terrace for my morning coffee... instead I'm huddled on my couch with my down quilt, thinking about getting KFC to deliver cause it's to damn cold to go to the market!!!
jbibiza: Grey, cold, and still that wicked cold wind!!! I hate it like this!!! I want to go into town and sit on a cafe terrace for my morning coffee... instead I'm huddled on my couch with my down quilt, thinking about getting KFC to deliver cause it's to damn cold to go to the market!!!
jbibiza: Grey, cold, and still that wicked cold wind!!! I hate it like this!!! I want to go into town and sit on a cafe terrace for my morning coffee... instead I'm huddled on my couch with my down quilt, thinking about getting KFC to deliver cause it's to damn cold to go to the market!!!
Konigsberg: Adam said "Chemistry is very different from respect and rather not explainable" It is not Adam ... maybe that's why we call it chemistry. i had to pay more attention to chemistry in High school ... I guess
Do you think it would help to look over may old chemistry manuals from high school ?
Konigsberg: the topic of thread is Respect between human beings .... not about weather conditions.
Sorry i offended you but actually you and 2 others hijacked a thread i started a few days ago for 2 pages. i was merely saying hello to friend and our converstion was limited to 4 posts.
It's always always always been respect for me first....
I can honestly say that I have never felt that chemistry people talk about when they just meet someone.
Things I respect are kindness, integrity and (unfortunately), intelligence....... I have learnt to be wary of intelligent men (sorry), but continue to be a fool for kindness,humanity, dependability, integrity, solid characteristics in a personality that I can respect. Otherwise, I pretty much ignore what men have to offer.
Sounds good, doesn't it......... like I should have a headstart on happiness, according to you guys.....
Doesn't always work that way. I've never ever followed my 'girl willy' in all my life and still I've managed to get caught up in stupid relationships where men realize I'm hooked emotionally and start to treat me like crap, including taking my money, standing me up, manipulating me emotionally, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya....... While they continue to be kind, sweet, respectful, self-sacrificing, NICE to the rest of the world.
Since there seems to be a negative chemistry between us... out of respect for others on CS please do not respond to my posts and I of course will not respond to yours.
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