Does hurt make one give up on another too soon ? (8)
riyablossom: When u are hurt and angered ...do u dwell on the love that you shared with the one who hurt you or the pain they caused you?
Many times in RL i have seen couples give up easily on each other .. more so in their mind and hearts .. such that every obstacle that comes along in life and the pain and disagreements that come look bigger gradually than the love that holds or was keeping them together or the moments of joy and laughter they shared together.
Is it that people are being over sensitive at times or giving up too soon
or is it something else ...
whats your opinion ??
Many times in RL i have seen couples give up easily on each other .. more so in their mind and hearts .. such that every obstacle that comes along in life and the pain and disagreements that come look bigger gradually than the love that holds or was keeping them together or the moments of joy and laughter they shared together.
Is it that people are being over sensitive at times or giving up too soon
or is it something else ...
whats your opinion ??
Hiya Riya Yes I think it can... the main reason for this is pride..(well it has been in my experience anyway) plus we can sometimes see the world through our own eyes and maybe expect that people play by the same rules, or indeed that they SHOULD play by the same rules... this is a very human but flawed way of thinking because in reality we are all different... it is important to keep an open mind when considering the actions of other people cause we don't always know the motivation or origin of their deeds.. however, we have to be true to ourselves ALSO and what we have come to expect in our choice of partner/friend and be realistic, if even only just to protect ourselves.... so I guess the ideal way to deal with potentially hurtful situations such as this is to keep and open mind.. allow a person a certain amount of latitude and be willing to forgive...but be prepared where necessary to move on from the relationship.... very HARD thing to do in reality though IMO
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Aries01: Hiya Riya
Yes I think it can... the main reason for this is pride..(well it has been in my experience anyway) plus we can sometimes see the world through our own eyes and maybe expect that people play by the same rules, or indeed that they SHOULD play by the same rules... this is a very human but flawed way of thinking because in reality we are all different... it is important to keep an open mind when considering the actions of other people cause we don't always know the motivation or origin of their deeds.. however, we have to be true to ourselves ALSO and what we have come to expect in our choice of partner/friend and be realistic, if even only just to protect ourselves.... so I guess the ideal way to deal with potentially hurtful situations such as this is to keep and open mind.. allow a person a certain amount of latitude and be willing to forgive...but be prepared where necessary to move on from the relationship.... very HARD thing to do in reality though IMO
Yes I think it can... the main reason for this is pride..(well it has been in my experience anyway) plus we can sometimes see the world through our own eyes and maybe expect that people play by the same rules, or indeed that they SHOULD play by the same rules... this is a very human but flawed way of thinking because in reality we are all different... it is important to keep an open mind when considering the actions of other people cause we don't always know the motivation or origin of their deeds.. however, we have to be true to ourselves ALSO and what we have come to expect in our choice of partner/friend and be realistic, if even only just to protect ourselves.... so I guess the ideal way to deal with potentially hurtful situations such as this is to keep and open mind.. allow a person a certain amount of latitude and be willing to forgive...but be prepared where necessary to move on from the relationship.... very HARD thing to do in reality though IMO
well said...
to forgive devine.....
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I think it depends purly on the person. some can look past the pain and see the love and what they have together others cant.
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Aries01: Hiya Riya
Yes I think it can... the main reason for this is pride..(well it has been in my experience anyway) plus we can sometimes see the world through our own eyes and maybe expect that people play by the same rules, or indeed that they SHOULD play by the same rules... this is a very human but flawed way of thinking because in reality we are all different... it is important to keep an open mind when considering the actions of other people cause we don't always know the motivation or origin of their deeds.. however, we have to be true to ourselves ALSO and what we have come to expect in our choice of partner/friend and be realistic, if even only just to protect ourselves.... so I guess the ideal way to deal with potentially hurtful situations such as this is to keep and open mind.. allow a person a certain amount of latitude and be willing to forgive...but be prepared where necessary to move on from the relationship.... very HARD thing to do in reality though IMO
Yes I think it can... the main reason for this is pride..(well it has been in my experience anyway) plus we can sometimes see the world through our own eyes and maybe expect that people play by the same rules, or indeed that they SHOULD play by the same rules... this is a very human but flawed way of thinking because in reality we are all different... it is important to keep an open mind when considering the actions of other people cause we don't always know the motivation or origin of their deeds.. however, we have to be true to ourselves ALSO and what we have come to expect in our choice of partner/friend and be realistic, if even only just to protect ourselves.... so I guess the ideal way to deal with potentially hurtful situations such as this is to keep and open mind.. allow a person a certain amount of latitude and be willing to forgive...but be prepared where necessary to move on from the relationship.... very HARD thing to do in reality though IMO
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Thats a very valid pointer Aries.
Many a times the sort of feeling of " how could he/she " dominates the situation. The fact that people have different personalities and ways of handling a situation maybe calls for a little open mind .. a little forgiveness and forgetfulness.
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riyablossom: When u are hurt and angered ...do u dwell on the love that you shared with the one who hurt you or the pain they caused you?
Many times in RL i have seen couples give up easily on each other .. more so in their mind and hearts .. such that every obstacle that comes along in life and the pain and disagreements that come look bigger gradually than the love that holds or was keeping them together or the moments of joy and laughter they shared together.
Is it that people are being over sensitive at times or giving up too soon
or is it something else ...
whats your opinion ??
Many times in RL i have seen couples give up easily on each other .. more so in their mind and hearts .. such that every obstacle that comes along in life and the pain and disagreements that come look bigger gradually than the love that holds or was keeping them together or the moments of joy and laughter they shared together.
Is it that people are being over sensitive at times or giving up too soon
or is it something else ...
whats your opinion ??
I think people do give up too easily...they 'fall' in love and when things are not wonderful all the time, or when something is hurtful, they just give up. We expect too much from each other and from the love relationship itself.
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in a word...yes
the long story: I won't let someone hurt me. Once bitten..twice shy
the long story: I won't let someone hurt me. Once bitten..twice shy
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Portiea: I think people do give up too easily...they 'fall' in love and when things are not wonderful all the time, or when something is hurtful, they just give up. We expect too much from each other and from the love relationship itself.
true with quite a few people.Its the " idea of being in love " which seems to be the problem .. the idea of a perfect or desirable anything .. cos i guess there are bound to
practical variations.
Plus the option of making a choice more than the option of lets work it out and see how it goes.
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Many times in RL i have seen couples give up easily on each other .. more so in their mind and hearts .. such that every obstacle that comes along in life and the pain and disagreements that come look bigger gradually than the love that holds or was keeping them together or the moments of joy and laughter they shared together.
Is it that people are being over sensitive at times or giving up too soon
or is it something else ...
whats your opinion ??