how does one do that to someone ( Archived) (50)

maybe i am the one that is not worthy because they all seem to let me go. i dont think i plan on going fishing anymore lol

hmmm is that a nice way to talk about urself...

ARe you this negative when you met this guy...

If you dont feel that you love urself or not happy..then how can anyone else be happy to be with you...

I am not judging but it seems you are not a very happy person...

You have to love urself b4 others can

JMO

u r right i am not always a happy person and i did have self esteem issues, but when he came along he made me feel perfect and loved and wanted and i felt great about myself, then he texted me a quick shove off. so yes i am not happy !!! i gotta go out for awhile or i will go mad in here

Okay, well i hope all this will pass and you will find the man that you deserve...

Keep ur chin up things i am sure will be okay in time

There should be handed out licenses to date and commit in relationships and drunk or irresponsible driving should have the same consequences as driving a car!!

If people actually had something to lose if they weren’t nice or respectful then I think a lot of heart breaks and/or disrespectful break-up’s could be avoided.

It’s okay to change your mind but at least have the decency so say so face to face – or at least not by text!

Unfortunately, It does take a lot of time to heal.
This is just my opinion but heres goes.

You have got to get yourself under control!
By not being on stable ground before getting involved with this guy, you only set yourself up for such a hard crash.
While still alone, use this time to heal and fix yourself first!! it is not that you aren't worthy, it is that you weren't really ready.

You must be happy with yourself before you can contribute to a relationship! otherwise you are just putting the entire load on the other person.

"They all seem to let me go.." why? maybe because..
sounds like a pattern that you keep following.
ask yourself,, what do these guys have in common? What were the differences?
how fast are you giving your heart over? how soon do you have intimate relations? and how sound are your decision making abilities?

Someone else can only add to your happiness.. they can not make you a happy person.
If the other person is happy, but most of what they hear from you is sorrow.. they have to fight to stay happy.

You have answered your own question,
You were not happy before you met him, you only had electronic communication with him and met him only once, you had doubts about his age (and I'm sure doubts about other aspects as well, if you take a deeper look) listen to what your mind is telling you.

This would be a great time to write in a journal! just so you will have it to read back thru , so you don't forget..

write in detail about differences and similarities of men from the past.. stay away from those traits in men and look for something different.
also write your feelings and actions with men! think of how you can fix yourself first.

Instead of being so down.. Use this time to be productive and learn from the past.

In closing I must add,
I do in a way agree with mbcasey! it was just worded badly.
When depressed, it often helps to look at others that really have it rough,, injury, cancer, accidents or worse yet they continue to fight to survive, many when there really is little hope.

watch people in worse conditions, maybe even talk to them. learn from them.

either way. you Seriously need to find the ways to be happy with yourself first!

exactly well said!!

It just takes time if it's really over. Easy to say, hard to do.

thank u to those who posted replies, it makes me feel good to know people care. it is still dark days right now, but i am a little better than yesterday