BnaturAl: Just trying to understand here. You've essentially said you went from 'weak' to 'tough nut' because of experiences, yes?. Does this mean you are given to extremes of either nature?
I have experienced women in a 'mans' world, and I am not by any means pidgeon holeing anyone, but my experience is that they become much 'tougher' than men in those positions. Maybe because they have to prove themselves or that they feel they do.
Do you think, being that assertive and or 'tough' scares some men off?
The converse would be men who are more passive and women finding them lacking because their tendency is to want a 'tough' man who holds their world together.
OK That settles it... You've definitely been hanging around the wrong women! Avoid those who are looking to you to "hold their world's together."
WhatUwish4: I wouldn't view distance as an issue in an introductory e-mail. Many people, myself included, are able and willing to move. It's not a bad thing at all. I intend to move sometime in the next two years - but haven't decided where to yet. There's nothing suspicious about that, is there?
WhatUwish4: OK That settles it... You've definitely been hanging around the wrong women! Avoid those who are looking to you to "hold their world's together."
Its a 'feeling secure' issue I think. And i was speaking generally I should note.
The 'soft place to fall' is probably more accurate and again, my experience, if I become needy as in needing a soft place to fall, women tend to see it as weak and run miles because it circumvents their need to feel the man is the stronger of the two.
WhatUwish4: I wouldn't view distance as an issue in an introductory e-mail. Many people, myself included, are able and willing to move. It's not a bad thing at all. I intend to move sometime in the next two years - but haven't decided where to yet. There's nothing suspicious about that, is there?
You mean there is still hope? And just when I was about to give up and crawl back into my cave.
WhatUwish4: I wouldn't view distance as an issue in an introductory e-mail. Many people, myself included, are able and willing to move. It's not a bad thing at all. I intend to move sometime in the next two years - but haven't decided where to yet. There's nothing suspicious about that, is there?
Would depend on the reasons I guess. people who are willing to move are either one of tow things... trying to get away from something, or looking for something new. One running from, the other running to ... the former causes some suspicion for me..
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I have experienced women in a 'mans' world, and I am not by any means pidgeon holeing anyone, but my experience is that they become much 'tougher' than men in those positions. Maybe because they have to prove themselves or that they feel they do.
Do you think, being that assertive and or 'tough' scares some men off?
The converse would be men who are more passive and women finding them lacking because their tendency is to want a 'tough' man who holds their world together.
OK That settles it... You've definitely been hanging around the wrong women! Avoid those who are looking to you to "hold their world's together."